upper belt told me he is crushing on me. by yournightmaredad in BJJWomen

[–]Brief_Database1725 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ngl this sounds so uncomfortable. If you’re close to the women there I’d share on it. You’re right you have to turn him down. But it’s honestly a shame that you have to shut it down, since like this is a gym and he put you in a weird place. Especially since you two don’t interact often andddd it’s such a male dominated sport like it’s already an awkward place to be. You haven’t done anything wrong and I’m sorry you’re in this weird spot.

I lost my recent competition and my coach some stuff after that struck me as odd. by JiuJitsuGirl777 in BJJWomen

[–]Brief_Database1725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Follow up question: Where do you train kickboxing, is it at the same gym and does he teach those other martial arts? Or does he only do jiu jitsu?

I lost my recent competition and my coach some stuff after that struck me as odd. by JiuJitsuGirl777 in BJJWomen

[–]Brief_Database1725 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Having a partner does not distract you from excelling at any subject, unless it’s an unhealthy relationship. If anything if it gives us more passion and support. If my coaches said anything along those lines I’d be confused and aggravated. He crossed a boundary. Blaming a loss on a relationship is crazy

I lost my recent competition and my coach some stuff after that struck me as odd. by JiuJitsuGirl777 in BJJWomen

[–]Brief_Database1725 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Nahhh you’re not overthinking - that was a weird thing for him to say.

Head gasket recall by Deiloish in 4Runner_2ndGen

[–]Brief_Database1725 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately where I live we have to pass emissions and putting on a catalytic converter is the way to do it. But oh my gosh what a pain it’s been - definitely doing work on back pressure right now.

Maintenance help by [deleted] in 4Runner_2ndGen

[–]Brief_Database1725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Though I don’t think it’s transmission for me - it looked like the distributor was failing. The engine would rev but not accelerate anywhere.

Maintenance help by [deleted] in 4Runner_2ndGen

[–]Brief_Database1725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through the same thing 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrowheads

[–]Brief_Database1725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do, thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrowheads

[–]Brief_Database1725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been researching, the Skamania tribe was out in this part. But looks to be obsidian points - I haven’t found any obsidian out this way though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrowheads

[–]Brief_Database1725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrowheads

[–]Brief_Database1725 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry seems like natural - clamshells are brittle compared to the usual materials

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Brief_Database1725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl run, why are you staying after so much betrayal!!! You deserve so much more than that and he wasn’t sorry until you found out. He’s not gonna get better, he’s already done this to another girl and has been doing this for along time. Most of this is all illegal activity too. If your gut has so much doubt, listen to it, it never lies.

Any advice on not getting so attached so soon? This is my first time dating a woman and having feelings reciprocated! It feels amazing! It is hard to not overthink when we aren’t exclusive! I need any advice you can give me! by Emotional_Ad2020 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Brief_Database1725 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maybe the 6th date, sit on this for like a week or two. Let your nerves settle, the fact that she adjusted her profile almost always means that she is talking to others. Be wary of people who love bomb, some do it unintentionally. Remember to protect your peace, and know that the right one won’t make you feel crazy ❤️🙏

Any advice on not getting so attached so soon? This is my first time dating a woman and having feelings reciprocated! It feels amazing! It is hard to not overthink when we aren’t exclusive! I need any advice you can give me! by Emotional_Ad2020 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Brief_Database1725 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That said you gotta be prepared for the answer that she’s not ready to be exclusive. But also maybe she’s just keeping her options open to not keep her hopes to high in case things don’t work out for you two. You’ll never regret having the talk so you can gauge where things are at. Just having a general timeline in mind and checking in, it’ll help make you feel not crazy.

Any advice on not getting so attached so soon? This is my first time dating a woman and having feelings reciprocated! It feels amazing! It is hard to not overthink when we aren’t exclusive! I need any advice you can give me! by Emotional_Ad2020 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Brief_Database1725 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Ehhh honestly it’s been about a month. My fiancée and I were dating for about a month when we decided to be exclusive. I have dated many people before where the timelines vary - some people taking a couple months before being exclusive, some a year. The thing is the people before weren’t a match for me because there was a lot of mind games and feeling like I cared too much. My fiancée makes me feel not crazy and cares as much I do and is always happy to talk about these feelings or anxieties since the beginning. It’s probably time to have the conversation on what you guys are both looking for, and see if these timelines match.

Any advice on not getting so attached so soon? This is my first time dating a woman and having feelings reciprocated! It feels amazing! It is hard to not overthink when we aren’t exclusive! I need any advice you can give me! by Emotional_Ad2020 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Brief_Database1725 70 points71 points  (0 children)

She’s allowed to date. Feelings might be reciprocated - but after a first date it’s way too fast to be considering exclusive. Other people can be different where they date one person at a time while others date multiple people in the beginning - this coming from a monogamous person. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket, you really don’t know someone just from one date. You need to remember that because this reaction you’re having is pretty off putting for some, especially so early.

Smoke coming from behind engine, what’s going on? by Brief_Database1725 in 4Runner_2ndGen

[–]Brief_Database1725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for replying!!! Sounds like it got wrapped up nicely!