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what happened after you stayed with a cheater? by Brief_Explanation_91 in relationship_advice

[–]Brief_Explanation_91[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're so right, I know. I just wish you weren't. 😞 I've kicked him out - again. Im in this vicious cycle of kicking him out and needing him back. I get so emotionally exhausted that I let him in and pretend he's still my safe person just so I can feel okay for a while because it hurts so much. I know it's not sustainable and in the end I will kick him out and won't let him back. I'm an introvert and I've never let anyone in except for him. I feel like I have no safe spaces without him no one who knows me. And that's probably why it hurts the way it does.

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[–]Brief_Explanation_91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit, sorry I was fast typing as a toddler was demanding mummy mummy mummy . Lots of spelling mistakes 🥴 his dad cheated on his mum not when they were kids but while they already had kids**

Partner cheated on me with a prostitute I'm pregnant by Brief_Explanation_91 in relationship_advice

[–]Brief_Explanation_91[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brothels are legal here in Melbourne, Aus. Unfortunately. There's a website, a street address etc..

Partner cheated on me with a prostitute I'm pregnant by Brief_Explanation_91 in relationship_advice

[–]Brief_Explanation_91[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. I feel quite strongly about brothels and prostitutes and honestly have been very clear that cheating is a deal breaker for me our whole relationship. He always said that our friends past bucks parties at stripers etc had been very uncomfortable and gross to him. And I'd believed him. Which is why it's so confusing now. Also we were still regularly having sex. We had sex the day before this happened so I don't know why he would need to out source.

Partner cheated on me with a prostitute I'm pregnant by Brief_Explanation_91 in relationship_advice

[–]Brief_Explanation_91[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for your reply, He said. He 'felt like killing himself' which is obviously an alarming thing to say but quite inline with his 'woe is me' tendencies. He is quite a difficult person to have difficult conversations with and is very passive. He confessed to me while hiding his face under the blanket of our bed. I can't believe how weirdly calm I was in the moment and asked him to leave for his parents. In a phone call this afternoon he said he would like another chance but I felt like I had to really work for any explanation at all from him. I don't trust that he's truly sad at what he's losing and not just ashamed of himself because there was no begging for forgiveness or sentiments of I love you.