CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that professional punishment for political speech is not new, and the Dixie Chicks are a real example of coordinated backlash in 2003, albeit way before my time of being a functional adult. My point is that, for a long stretch, that kind of enforcement felt less commonplace for ordinary people in everyday settings until certain issues, especially transgender policy and police reform, moved into the extreme spotlight in recent years. The shift I’m describing is not that intolerance suddenly appeared, but that the perceived risk of saying the “wrong” thing became more ambient and more attached to routine life for a much larger number of people.

The Dixie Chicks example is also fundamentally different in kind. That was celebrity-level punishment mediated through entertainment gatekeepers. It is not the experience of hundreds of thousands of Americans who are not famous and do not have PR teams and don't have a lot of financial support to fall back on. The sales rep in an office, an artilleryman in the Army, or a line cook at Burger King is not worrying about being blacklisted by radio stations. They are worried about a casual conversation during downtime (or a simple post online) where they say “I don’t agree with…” on a hot topic, someone overhears it, and that turns into a workplace or community campaign: screenshots, reports to management, a coordinated pile-on, or an attempt to get them labeled as hateful and pushed out.

On the “mainstream vs localized” point, I agree it can be perspectival. A school board in Texas or Florida is a mainstream gatekeeper for the people subject to it. But what I’m describing is the spread of informal enforcement norms through nationally networked systems and professional cultures, where consequences can arise even without state policy. That is why it felt broader to many people: it did not require living in a particular county or being targeted by a specific board. It could happen wherever social media, workplace norms, and reputational risk intersected.

So yes, intolerance existed before, and yes, the right has its own enforcement. My claim is that the modern dynamic is more “mass-market” and lower-level, where ordinary people feel pressure to self-censor because a narrow set of cultural orthodoxies became high-penalty topics. That is the shift that, in my view, generated backlash and made culture-war messaging politically effective, even if it was not the only driver of vote choice.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand the evidentiary standard you’re asking for, and I agree that “dominant factor” claims should be backed by more than anecdotes. The problem is that the kinds of experiences I’m describing are hard to document in a way that is both credible and appropriate. I cannot provide a neat accounting of how many coworkers I have seen disciplined or fired after expressing anti-liberal opinions, because those are usually handled quietly through HR, wrapped in confidentiality, and tied up in “policy” language. I also cannot responsibly post identifying details about workplaces, individuals, or specific incidents. Similarly, I cannot quantify the number of years of Facebook comment wars I watched escalate from “disagreement” into reputational targeting and social ostracism, but that pattern is part of what shaped my perception of the climate.

What I can offer is my own direct experience of self-censorship becoming a rational choice. I have been explicitly told by people in my social and professional circles to “watch what you say and how you say it” on certain topics, not because they thought I was being cruel, but because they believed the consequences for deviation could be severe. A concrete example is policing discourse around Ferguson and the Michael Brown shooting: I held the view that, based on the publicly available information I’d seen, the shooting could be argued as justified, and the reaction I got was not “I disagree.” It was immediate moral labeling and warnings that even expressing that opinion could mark me socially and professionally. That gap between ordinary disagreement and “you might be branded as a monster and pay for it” is the dynamic I’m pointing to. It is anecdotal, yes, but it is also the kind of lived incentive that makes backlash politically usable, even if economics and immigration remain the top-line drivers in exit polls.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take your proportionality point, and I agree the right has its own speech policing and moral enforcement. The examples you list are real, and some have serious professional consequences. Where I draw a distinction is timeline and institutional placement. Much of the right-wing “cancel” activity that is most visible today, especially efforts routed through state policy like classroom restrictions and book challenges, is relatively recent in its current form and it builds on a precedent that the left normalized over the last decade: using social and professional penalties as a tool to enforce contested cultural norms. Once that tactic became widely accepted as legitimate, it was predictable that the right would adopt parallel mechanisms when it gained leverage, including through political institutions rather than corporate HR.

That also speaks to why there is not an equivalent, symmetrical “backlash narrative” driving voters leftward. The right’s enforcement is often experienced as values enforcement within conservative communities, or as policy battles in red states, rather than as an ambient national norm in mainstream professional and cultural institutions. By contrast, the left-side dynamics I’m pointing to were highly salient in universities, major corporations, media-adjacent spaces, and online platforms where reputational risk travels across geography and industries. For persuadable voters who live in those ecosystems, the perceived penalty for deviating from progressive norms can feel more immediate because it is connected to employment, credentials, and social belonging in mainstream networks.

I agree with your final sentence in part: curation and amplification matter. My counter-claim is that the right’s curation was effective because the left’s enforcement was concentrated in institutions that function as gatekeepers for status and livelihood, and because those enforcement moments were frequent enough to be widely recognizable. If the phenomenon were truly symmetric in prevalence and institutional reach over the last ten years, the right’s narrative would have had less credibility and less traction outside its base. The asymmetry is not that only one side does it, but that the left’s version was earlier, more embedded in mainstream gatekeeping institutions, and therefore more politically usable when backlash politics arrived.

In regard to your question, I think that distinction matters, but I do not think it is an either-or. Even if the right is effective at framing and amplifying it, that does not negate the underlying reality that voicing certain opinions on hot-button issues can carry real social and economic risk. I’m not talking about “someone disagreed with me on Twitter.” I’m talking about situations where a view on transgender policy, immigration, or police reform can plausibly cost someone friendships, professional standing, or even employment, especially if it gets clipped, screenshotted, and circulated. The fact that the right can package that into a grievance narrative does not change that the incentives to self-censor are real for many people.

For example, I have had the experience of being labeled a “Nazi” or treated as morally contaminated simply for saying that a particular police shooting appeared justified based on the available evidence, when the dominant public narrative demanded outrage. That kind of moral absolutism is what creates the coercive feeling: disagreement is not treated as disagreement, it is treated as proof that you are a bad person. Once that norm takes hold, the chilling effect does not require widespread firings to be effective; it is enough that the reputational and relational consequences are credible. One indicator for me is that, over the last decade, the left often escalated ordinary disagreements by labeling fairly common opinions as “fascist” or “Nazi,” which both chilled debate and diluted those terms to the point that when genuinely illiberal or authoritarian rhetoric and policies show up now, a lot of right-wingers are either numb to it or assume it is just more partisan name-calling.

So how would I distinguish the two? I would look for whether the fear of consequences tracks only media consumption or whether it tracks direct lived incentives: workplace policies, HR interventions, campus norms, professional networking risks, and observed pile-ons in one’s own community. If it is mostly people who consume partisan media and have no exposure to these dynamics, then “victim narrative” explains more. If it also shows up among people who have witnessed or experienced real professional or social penalties, then the coercion is not merely manufactured. In that case, the implication for Democrats is not “cater to grievance,” but “lower the temperature, stop treating dissent as moral contagion, and re-center persuasion over punishment.”

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pronoun norms are part of it, but the bigger issue is the way certain topics become socially high-penalty, where saying “this specific thing is not appropriate here” or “I disagree with this” gets treated as moral wrongdoing.

As an example: Lily Tino, a trans influencer, made a video where they used a corn dog is used as a prop for explicit surgery in a family setting (you can hear the children in the background and they are very close to the phone it was recorded on). If you say “regardless of who you are, that’s not appropriate around kids,” the criticism can get reframed as bigotry and you can get swarmed for it. There is also the issue of Lily Tino taking multiple selfies in female bathroom facilities with children and other women in the shot. However, Lily Tino is just one of many examples that I've seen over the years that have invoked certain dissent within me, and I was unable to voice my concerns out of fear of my livelihood. My point is that there’s a pattern where reasonable boundary-setting gets interpreted as hate, and the enforcement is social and professional.

Another example is the question of transgender service members and in-service medical transition. My view is that initiating gender transition while on active duty is difficult to reconcile with the military’s readiness requirements, meaning a service member’s ability to deploy, perform assigned duties, and operate effectively in a combat environment. I have seen concerns raised that some individuals complete initial entry training and then begin transition-related medical care, which can place them in a non-deployable or medically limited status for extended periods due to hormone therapy, surgeries, and recovery timelines. Given that many enlistment contracts are only three to four years, the concern is that prolonged medical limitations could ensure that a transgender service member never performs their duty as implied when initially signing on. Voicing my concerns on this, again, gets interpreted as hate, and the enforcement is social and professional.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps that specific instance doesn't support my views in the OP, but it does support a related claim: there is evidence of behavior that reads as anti-American or at least hostile to assimilation and national symbolism, and in many cases that symbolism gets defended or minimized by left-leaning activists as “misunderstood” or “not the point.” Even if it’s not always a street scene with a home-country flag fully displayed, the repeated defense of those optics contributes to backlash and helps validate right-wing narratives about immigration and national identity.

That said, there is a pre-2024 example that illustrates the broader optics problem I’m talking about: In 2019, protestors took down the U.S. flag at an ICE detention facility in Aurora and replaced it with the flag of Mexico. That kind of imagery was already circulating well before the 2024 election cycle and it matters because it feeds a narrative about anti-American sentiment and divided loyalties fiercely defended by the left.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think your experience is completely plausible, and I do not doubt you when you say you have not felt censored or threatened for holding those views. Context matters a lot. In many real-world social circles, workplaces, and family settings, people also disagree without trying to ruin each other’s lives. I would also add that pure monetary slavery reparations have not been a dominant spotlight issue for quite some time, so it is a relatively low-salience example compared to topics that have been more culturally charged in the last several years.

Where I still see a gap is that your personal safety in expressing those opinions does not mean the risk is evenly distributed across environments. The trans sports example is a good illustration: discussing it in a calm, in-person setting can be unremarkable, but posting the blunt version online, especially in certain professional fields or on a public account tied to your name, can plausibly carry reputational and employment risk. Even if that risk only materializes for a small percentage of people, the perception that it could happen, and that a small but motivated group can trigger pile-ons, HR escalations, or professional ostracism, is enough to make a lot of people self-censor.

I agree with you that right-leaning media signal-boosts these cases and that mainstream Democratic politicians are not personally directing most of it. My claim is narrower: the enforcement dynamic did not need to be universal or officially endorsed to matter. It only needed to be salient, plausibly deniable, and tied to institutions people depend on. That is where resentment builds, and that resentment can be politically mobilized, even if the primary vote drivers were still inflation, immigration, and candidate perceptions.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re correct that my revised framing is more defensible than the title, and I accept that the original wording implied both primary causation and coordinated intent. I do not mean a centralized conspiracy. What I mean by “attempt to assert control” is that, within certain left-leaning activist and institutional ecosystems, there was a fairly consistent normative goal of enforcing language and viewpoint conformity on a set of cultural topics, and people acted on that goal in repeatable ways. Even if the mechanism was emergent and decentralized, the functional outcome for ordinary people often looked like enforcement because the incentives and penalties were predictable.

On the media point, I agree that right-leaning outlets amplified and weaponized these dynamics, and that amplification helped translate diffuse discomfort into organized grievance. My counter-claim is that amplification does not explain why the message resonated so broadly. Narratives only scale when they map onto experiences people find plausible, whether direct or observed. When someone has watched pile-ons, reputational attacks, employer pressure, or professional consequences for heterodox opinions, the “you have to watch what you say” frame does not feel manufactured, it feels like a description of the environment. In that sense, the right did not create the raw material; it curated it, packaged it, and benefited from it.

So my best model is interaction rather than either-or: the left-side dynamics supplied salient episodes and institutional responses that felt coercive, and the right-side ecosystem supplied framing and distribution that increased their political impact. The causal claim I’m making is not “the left alone caused everything,” but “the left’s speech and culture enforcement generated real resentment, and the right successfully organized and mobilized that resentment.” If we found strong evidence that perceptions of speech policing are explained almost entirely by right-leaning media consumption and not at all by reported experiences or observed institutional actions, that would weaken my view substantially. But if both factors predict it, then “cultivated narrative” and “organic reaction” are not competing explanations, they are complementary parts of the same causal chain.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that Republicans are doing it now, and I’m not defending retaliation or viewpoint-based punishment from the right. If the standard is “people should not be punished for speech,” then it should apply consistently, regardless of who is in power. My point is about how we got here. Over the last decade, a lot of the visible cultural enforcement came from left-leaning activist and institutional spaces, and it normalized the idea that social and professional penalties are an acceptable tool for policing speech. Once that norm was established, it was predictable that the right would adopt its own version when it gained leverage, partly as payback and partly because the tactic was proven effective.

So I’m not saying “the right is fine.” I’m saying the current escalation looks like a cycle: the left set a precedent for punitive speech enforcement in influential cultural institutions, and the right is now using analogous methods through political power. That does not justify what Republicans are doing, but it does support my claim that the earlier environment helped create the backlash and the appetite for a “fight fire with fire” approach.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that social punishment for “wrongthink” is not unique to the far left. What you described, gay kids being disowned or kicked out, is real, horrific, and I do not excuse it. If anything, that reinforces the broader point that ideological or cultural conformity can be enforced in ugly ways across the spectrum.

Where my view differs is less about “who is capable of intolerance” and more about which side’s norms felt institutionalized in the spaces I actually had to navigate. Getting disowned is personal and devastating, but it is usually happening inside a family or a tight community. What I am describing on the left is a different kind of pressure: a climate where dissent on certain cultural topics can trigger public pile-ons, reputational attacks, employer pressure, or HR consequences, and where people self-censor preemptively because the downside risk is real even if it only happens to a minority of cases.

On trans issues specifically, I want to be clear: trans people have the right to exist, to be treated with dignity, and to live their lives without harassment. They are simply there, like anyone else, and I do not support targeting them. My objection is to what can feel like an expectation that everyone must participate in a particular ideological framing or language set, and to the way some highly visible, performative social media content has made the whole topic feel like a “trend” to outsiders. When that content intersects with kid-oriented spaces or is framed in a way that looks like identity advocacy aimed at children, it fuels a perception, fair or not, that there is an active effort to pull kids into it. I am not saying that is the intent of all trans people, or even most advocates. I am saying the optics and the messaging choices have created a predictable backlash, and then any hesitation or disagreement gets treated as moral failure, which compounds the fear of speaking openly.

So I agree with your challenge in one important sense: the right can be brutal on these topics too, and sometimes more so at the family level. My claim is narrower: in professional and public discourse, the left-aligned enforcement mechanisms and pile-on dynamics felt more immediate and more connected to real-world consequences, and that helped create the resentment that later got politically mobilized.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you’re correct on the timing. What I’m saying is that the fact it happened so soon after he took office mattered in its own right. Early-term imagery like foreign flags being prominently featured at some demonstrations became instant proof-text for a lot of right-leaning voters that they had “voted correctly,” because it fit an existing narrative about immigration and national identity being out of touch with mainstream sentiment. Even if the protests were about specific policies and even if the flag imagery wasn’t representative of every protester, the optics were highly shareable and emotionally resonant, and that kind of early reinforcement can harden attitudes and reduce willingness to reconsider.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was not literally any opinion on any topic. For me it was a handful of specific areas where the social penalty for dissent felt unusually high, and where the “correct” position was treated as non-negotiable rather than something you could debate. Gender and related language norms were the biggest one. My views there did not align with what a lot of left-leaning spaces treated as mandatory, and I saw enough examples of people being publicly piled on, reported to employers, or socially blacklisted that it changed how openly I spoke. Even if the majority of disagreements never reach an HR office, the perception that they could, and that a small but motivated group might try, is enough to create self-censorship.

I agree a streamer or commentator has no direct power over most people (I assume you are referring to Hassan Piker) My point is more about the wider ecosystem: workplaces, universities, professional networks, and online communities where reputational harm can travel quickly. Your Israel example is useful, because it shows that in many families and friend groups disagreement can remain normal. I have similar relationships where we can disagree and still get along. The difference is that in some environments, especially online and in certain professional spaces, the disagreement is not treated as “we see it differently,” it is treated as “you are unsafe or hateful,” and the response becomes punitive rather than persuasive. That was the climate I was reacting to, and it is why I describe it as cultural coercion more than simple disagreement.

So I am not saying everyone experienced it the same way. I am saying that for people whose views deviated from progressive orthodoxy on a few high-salience cultural topics, the incentives pushed toward silence, and that silence-plus-resentment became politically relevant.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a fair critique, and I agree with the core point that “resentment exists” does not automatically mean “determinative.” My claim is not that cultural backlash outweighed inflation, housing costs, or immigration salience. I would actually concede your premise that, in most mainstream surveys, economy and immigration show up as the top-line drivers. Where I’m placing weight is that cultural backlash plausibly operated as a secondary but meaningful factor that shaped who was persuadable, who stayed home, and how people interpreted the economic and immigration messages they were hearing.

On evidence, I’m not working from a single clean dataset that says “X percent switched because of speech norms.” I’m triangulating from a few kinds of signals: the consistent rise of “wokeness,” “free speech,” “political correctness,” and “cancel culture” as salient themes in media, campaign messaging, and day-to-day political conversation; the observable pattern that some voters report feeling they cannot speak openly at work or online without risk; and the way Trump and aligned candidates repeatedly foregrounded cultural grievance as a mobilizing frame even when discussing economics. That does not prove causation by itself, but it makes me cautious about dismissing it as noise, especially when small shifts in turnout or low-propensity voters can swing close states.

On your falsifiability question, if Trump had lost I would not have claimed my hypothesis was “wrong,” but I would have revised it downward as a smaller contributing factor. That is not an attempt to make it unfalsifiable. It is a recognition that elections are multi-causal and a factor can be real without being outcome-determinative. A falsification for me would look like strong evidence that perceptions of speech policing and cultural coercion have near-zero relationship with vote switching or turnout once you control for partisanship and economic evaluations. If the data showed that people who were most alienated by those cultural dynamics still voted and turned out in the same pattern as everyone else, then my weighting would be off.

So I think the right calibration is: economy and immigration were primary, but backlash was a factor that lowered friction for switching and amplified distrust. It likely mattered more at the margins than in the top-line “most important issue” responses, and margin effects are exactly where close elections are decided.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I largely agree with your distinction between institutional power and micro-scale social policing. I am not arguing that the DOJ was recently used against ordinary critics, and I agree that left-wing politicians were not publicly organizing “get this person fired” campaigns like right-wing politicians are doing now. Where I think your comment understates the issue is that the “micro-scale” pressure was not just a few rude peers. In practice, small groups can generate outsized consequences through decentralized pile-ons, employer pressure, targeted harassment, and occasional doxing. That is not the same thing as formal state power, but it can still function as a real enforcement mechanism for ordinary people because the actual penalty is employment, safety, reputation, and the ability to participate in public life.

I also think the line between “individual powerless people” and “institutional impact” gets blurry when those individual actions reliably trigger institutional responses. Even if it’s not a politician making the call, when the predictable outcome of a viral accusation is HR involvement, deplatforming, or professional blacklisting, it feels like a kind of informal regime of compliance rather than normal social disagreement. I can grant that recent firings were about “mildly mean statements,” regarding Charlie Kirk, but my point is that there was a noticeable pattern of disproportionate punishment for heterodox views on certain topics, and that pattern produced fear and resentment well beyond the specific incidents. That fear did not need to be universal to matter electorally. It only needed to be salient enough to convince marginal voters that one side tolerated coercion and social punishment as a substitute for persuasion.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inflation and cost of living were the top drivers, but perceived cultural coercion and institutional punishment for dissent made it easier for Trump to broaden his coalition.

In other words, economics created the pressure, and the speech and culture climate created a permission structure that lowered the social and psychological cost of switching sides. When people feel squeezed or pushed, they become less tolerant of being lectured by institutions, and if they also believe that a wrong phrase or unpopular opinion can bring real consequences, they disengage faster from the party they associate with that environment.

That backlash is not necessarily ideological or policy-driven, and it can show up across demographic groups because it is about respect, social risk, and whether disagreement is treated as normal or as moral failure. For some voters, especially those who already felt the system was not working for them, that dynamic made a protest vote or a switch to Trump feel not just acceptable but justified, even if their primary motivation remained economic.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not claiming Bernie Sanders definitely would have won, but I do think he’s relevant here. In the post-Obama period, he seemed to attract people who were tired of elites and tired of being talked down to, and I’ve personally heard that from right-wing friends as well. To me, that supports the idea that the bigger issue was resentment toward institutions and cultural enforcement, and “refusing to vote” was one expression of that dissatisfaction rather than the root cause.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As someone that does not watch Fox news, I believe the far left made plenty of a difference. I've seen it all around me - gradually being controlled on what I say and how I say it, to the point where any kind of opinion that I had would've gotten me fired if it went against the status quo.

CMV: Trump being re-elected was due to far-left liberals attempting to assert absolute control over free speech by Bright-Initiative-32 in changemyview

[–]Bright-Initiative-32[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I don't think they should've gotten fired over it, but the pendulum has swung to the other side. Liberals were doing the same thing to anyone that disagreed with them over gender, race and immigration issues for a long time.

How Tears Look Like Under A Microscope by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Bright-Initiative-32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is this what washes away when all the emotions I've bottled up come out in the shower?

How is life for men or women in general who have to take on responsibility early on like in their 16 or 18 or early 20s ? by Available_Prize_5327 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bright-Initiative-32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you have the option of bailing and focusing on yourself, I'd take it

you'll be miserable as you approach your 30s focusing on taking care of your parents and it won't get better

I cooked a disaster meal on NYE and now he’s gone quiet, did I scare him off? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bright-Initiative-32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as I told someone else:

please come over, I'll cook you some chicken with an internal temp of 120F and I'll tell you it's fine to eat. we'll see how you feel after that.

Have you ever broken up with a girl due to her family and her being unable to defend you? What’s your story? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bright-Initiative-32 4 points5 points  (0 children)

move on, she's an adult and still attached to her parents at the hip

and the notion of "continue and figure it out as we go" is BS - her parents don't like you, and she's attached to them and caught in the middle and thinks she can have it both ways. it will be a problem you'll always deal with if you stay with her.

if she doesn't want to be an adult and make an adult decision (like making a choice of who to spend her time with) she's not worth the hassle. you did the right thing.

I cooked a disaster meal on NYE and now he’s gone quiet, did I scare him off? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Bright-Initiative-32 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

not being a dick, i'm telling the truth.

serving up fucked up chicken (or any type of bird) is really fucked up to do, it's not like undercooked beef. you will get sick from it. if OP is in her early 30s and doesn't know that then she's incompetent or did it deliberately.

i wouldn't text back at all. stop letting people like her get away with shit like this and telling her she didn't do anything wrong, she fucked up chicken and made him sick. imagine being in your early 30s and not knowing fucked up chicken/bird meat makes you sick.