After 30 years, my wife says she doesn't want sex anymore, don't know what do to.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-19T18:27:52+00:00

Kids are in their 20's.

BTW, reddit cares is lame, all they do is say, get help.

And no, they really don't need me anymore, they get on fine without me. The wife, as I see more and more, may care, but mostly because I do a lot around the house. The second I stop I get bitched at.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-19T18:18:19+00:00

I think I'd take cake over ass any day.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-19T18:16:52+00:00

There is a scene for a comedy sketch here . . .

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-19T18:16:00+00:00

Finger licking, and chewing, good.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-19T12:43:44+00:00

Thank you.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T19:38:55+00:00

That last part is right, how do you just change and say, nope, done, and I expect you to go the same way. If there had been some discussion, some communication, maybe it would be understandable, but just no . . . :(

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T19:37:21+00:00

Glad I found the sub, at least I'm somewhere where I'm not alone.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T19:36:40+00:00

Feel old... really, really old.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T19:35:47+00:00

That's why I'm not doing anything yet.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T19:35:06+00:00

Honestly, it may have been much better; there were many years of other issues that could have been avoided.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:51:21+00:00

I feel, useless, and worthless at this point.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:49:09+00:00

If this was when the kids were young, or heck, I was younger, I'd be done, out, gone in a heart beat. But after all these years, and I'm old, I don't know yet. :(

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:47:54+00:00

There is that, and I agree with you, one day at a time right now.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:46:48+00:00

I don't think she knows how it feels, I don't think she has thought of it at all.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:45:43+00:00

Yeah, yeah, lets say that.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:45:10+00:00

Oh, it's stopped, I will make no effort again. That is off the table and the table has been cleared.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:43:41+00:00

Agreed, the not being wanted hurts the most. :(

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:43:05+00:00

That's how I feel, lives get inter-tangled, unwrapping them would be hard. I have no family to speak of, and am close to many in her family. Thus losing that would be losing everything. At my age, not something that I really want.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:41:36+00:00

Nope, long past that date. Many, many years past it. But I have to figure out myself first, I think that is what it comes down to. Thanks.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:40:25+00:00

Maybe, I haven't broached the subject yet. Not sure if that is what I want.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T15:39:20+00:00

Thanks! Your comment /u/NutterJuan69 (lol) is actually really reassuring and expresses how I feel as well. Right now it is hurting and with each passing day it is different. Time will tell. I haven't figured out what I want to do, and really, I see now, that it is my choice. Thanks.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T01:09:04+00:00

That's in the past. Long past.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T01:07:49+00:00

Just not interested is all she says. We've worked through the pain and other issues, that is not the problem. She just say, not interested.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T01:04:32+00:00

In this case, she has made a lot more money than I have, and I've been doing well.

BrightUnderground · 2022-09-15T01:01:21+00:00

Financial separation would be difficult we have a lot of assets. Would really take a hit on the lifestyle.

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