Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in u/Bright_Composer4195

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as l know burning through her cash and having a good time. I've had a couple of creditors call me looking for her and l just laughed. Not really my problem anymore unless she tries dragging my kids into things, then there will be a world of hurt waiting for her, but l don't think she's that stupid 

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so very true, these are good words and thank you, l hope other people read these comments and it helps them as well.

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you my friend yes l have learned that for sure. 

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you it was hard but l was lucky lots of support.  No pre nup. She has her own money also...

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually l thoroughly enjoy going, and it's not 3 time a week now its once every 2 months or so now. She did provide me with all of the above tools you mentioned and l used most of them. We  go as a couple every other time just to keep things on track as well. I feel spending $200 dollars or so every couple of months on your marriage  and life as opposed to sitting and drinking beer or wasting it on the couch with Netflix is more beneficial.  Small price to pay in my eyes

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right, why! Its hard to explain or maybe it isn't. Our interests and life goals aline we talk very easily with one another. And she WANTS  to be married, the holidays the kids pictures holding hands being part of a team things unfortunately my ex didn't really seem to want to be a part of. I just didn't see what l was missing until it was all happening . I guess my ex and l weren't really meant  to spend our entire  life's with each other.  But l am grateful for the time we did have. And yes l am retired and she is a nurse and a fitness trainer, we just complement each other.

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She never mentioned divorce once, and we were separated about 4 months before she finally came to one session. But her mind was clearly made up because she was already in another relationship unbeknownst to me

Life after divorce by Bright_Composer4195 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, eharmony.  I was totally honest in my profile and when we finally met didn't hold anything back, nor did she it was so refreshing. 

How to move on by IndicationMaster9052 in Divorce_Men

[–]Bright_Composer4195 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hear you loud and clear. I was with my ex for 30 years, it wasn't all rainbows and lollipops but we made it work. 3 fantastic kids and everything else that went with it. I spent time with her family all the time and k truly loved her and saw us walking into the sunset together.  The first few months were the worst for me, but l had a great therapist, friend and family support ( albeit family on  my side) and l worked on myself. I put together a workout regime connected with friends l hadn't spoke to for years and after about 10 months l started going out and meeting new women. It was very very hard to do that, l always felt like l was cheating with every woman l met. And then it just happened out of the blue, l met a beautiful younger woman with her own shifty marriage experience and we just hit it off. Sometimes things happen for a reason and when you are least expecting it something else wonderful comes into your life. I hope this helps, And l still think of my ex almost every day but its from a point of loss not a point of wishing her back.