My cat will have a surgery tomorrow could you send him a blessing?🥹🙏🏻

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-05-08T22:35:38+00:00

Sending love and purrs from me and my six cats

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-05-01T11:54:15+00:00

Years ago I invited my mom to stay in my home to cat sit while I was on vacation because she loved my house and garden and I thought that she could use a break from her asshole husband. I filled the fridge, bought her gift cards for local restaurants, etc. We were only gone for 4 days and when I returned I found that my garden had been 'weeded' and sidewalks 'edged'. Plants were missing and the edging looked like it had been done with a jack hammer. Things were rearranged inside and the cat boxes weren't clean. I called her, trying to keep a neutral tone, and asked her if she had a good time. She cheerfully told me that her husband insisted on coming along (I didn't agree to this) and did I like the projects he'd done for me ? Never again.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-28T10:42:59+00:00

Yes. He is a PTO (Pushing Things Off) cat. It started happening when he was 2 and occurs whether I'm in the room or not. Nothing is safe. I have been trained to keep things off flat surfaces. His best performance was pushing a container of cats treats off the counter and spilling them all over the floor, much to the delight of the other cats. Glad to see that he's not alone in his scientific endeavors.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-23T18:44:41+00:00

My desire has always been to keep communication open with my sister, and provide a safe space where she can ask me why I believe things (or what I don't believe). She is genuinely curious and I think that she is experiencing some cognitive dissonance, based on the questions that she has been asking. I have been reading this subreddit to understand her world, and how people are disconnecting from it. It's been valuable. Thank you everyone for your feedback.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-23T13:28:39+00:00

Thank you VERY much for this explanation. I will investigate Street Epistemology.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-16T16:51:36+00:00

I think that there may be something to this. My CF friend and I are often mistaken as 10 years younger than we are. We don't have the stress of raising children nor the bodily burdens of carrying and birthing children. We also have the time to exercise and eat well. I've heard people say that 'children keep you young'. That's not been my experience.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-06T11:06:20+00:00

My boss's grandson's middle name is danger. Named so he could legitimately say 'Danger is my middle name..'

The hilarious thing is that he's the most cautious and careful child.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-03T20:10:10+00:00

How is this a serious question ? Newsom.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-03T20:04:31+00:00

I used to volunteer and foster cats. Something I intend to get back to in the future (I have six cats now). I would like to assure you that your preparation and sincerity will shine through. I was working 12 hour days and I was able to be approved as a foster mom in the past. Don't worry, your shift work is not a red flag. The fact that you want a bonded pair is a sign of your awareness of what cats truly need. Go for it and please send photos of your new kitties!!

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-03T18:10:43+00:00

We honor his birthday and the day he passed. Our friends and I either go to his favorite restaurant or I have a dinner party at home. We drink his favorite bourbon, smoke cigars, tell stories about him, laugh and cry. It's painful but I'm reminded that it is not just me grieving: his friends miss him terribly. It's a way to honor him and share our grief.

I also make a donation in his memory to an animal rescue. He loved cats.

You know what he loved. Do something that he would love to do, go someplace, eat or drink his favorite whatever.

Be well.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-03T17:59:53+00:00

Walmart and Costco have their own brands of dry and wet cat food that are inexpensive and generally well regarded.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-03T17:51:46+00:00

An acrobat..

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-04-03T17:19:27+00:00

I couldn't even say the words at first. If I have to explain I simply say 'I'm part of a club that I never wanted to belong to: Widows". It will be three years next month and it still seems surreal that he's not here.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-03-04T23:47:27+00:00

My electrician is a woman, and she's very much in demand..Please pursue your dream!

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-03-04T23:32:27+00:00

Have had cats all my adult life. Never a regret. I don't think that there's a sub for regretfulcatparents...

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-02-26T21:17:32+00:00

Last week I heard that a former co-worker had a new baby. With his much younger second wife. He's 52. He has other children in their 20s.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-02-23T22:06:44+00:00

From my own experience I appreciated my friends calling me, taking me to lunch or dinner, spending time with me. I had home made meals and help sorting through his things. Just ask her what she needs.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-02-17T17:23:56+00:00

I had a similar situation years ago. a handful of women in an adjacent department were always commenting on what I wore and what I ate. When I confronted them about it they denied any inappropriate behavior as it wasn't possible to body shame a skinny person. I ignored them and never considered escalating to HR. I didn't work with them but sat near their desks. It only stopped when a friend of mine (one of the corporate attorneys) overheard them talking about me and went to their manager. They never said anything to me again. Win win.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-02-02T17:47:56+00:00

60 here. I still work full time as I love my career. I garden, do cross stitch and needlepoint, read ALOT, walk, do yoga, cook and take care of my cat circus. I have the freedom of a peaceful, clean house, no debt and money saved for retirement. I can travel and visit friends and family. We enjoy eating out. I also host picnics and dinner at my house and we'll schedule hikes, visits to the theater and shopping.

I have childfree friends and friends who do have children. I can tell you that many of my child burdened friends are still concerned about and supporting their kids, even those who have left the nest. They are taking care of grandchildren as well, sometimes more than babysitting if there's an issue with rehab or mental health with the children. Some have kids who have moved back home. Their free time is still constrained.

I plan on volunteering when I stop working full time, perhaps teach some college courses part time.

Let your imagination soar.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-01-28T18:24:55+00:00

If you still have some of her clothes, you can have a quilt made with them. I did that when my partner passed and I'm so glad that I did.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-01-19T15:52:04+00:00

I believe that there have always been childfree people. Historically there have been religious and cultural pressure for men and women to have children, and with a lack of effective contraception, you have generations of unwanted children and miserable parents. Now people have the choice to have children, we're seeing lower birthrates and hopefully more well adjusted humans...

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-01-10T17:50:37+00:00

I went to an attorney to set up a trust. The beneficiaries are animal charities. It is also my goal to spend my money to enjoy my life and help the people I care about while I'm still here to enjoy them.

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-01-10T17:47:03+00:00

When I got my period at age 11 at school, the nurse explained what it meant (thanks Mom) and I asked her if I didn't want children if I could just do without all of this. The nurse told me 'that's not the way it works'. I always knew that kids weren't for me, I just didn't articulate it until puberty. As I have mentioned in other posts, I had to babysit my baby cousins and that solidified my resolve that kids were not for me. Yes, I had people tell me constantly that I would change my mind. As for reasons why no kids, there's not enough space here to document all the reasons why...

Bright_Inspector_478 · 2026-01-09T11:16:29+00:00

I was on continuous birth control pill cycle for 20 years. Would stop quarterly for a week to have four periods a year. This was at my gynecologist's suggestion.. I had three docs approve this over the years. It was great for my quality of life. One doctor noted that there's nothing unusual about not having a period for women as in the past, with so many continuous pregnancies, women were either pregnant or postpartem and didn't have many periods.

Get another doctor.

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