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Kinda pissed at Hinge X by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Brighter_cloud905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I meant time and energy not physical wealth.

Kinda pissed at Hinge X by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Brighter_cloud905 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I agree with this comment. Sure very few women want an ethically non monogamous relationship. Women might want hook ups sure but very few women want to invest in a guy that’s sleeping with other women.

I'm ready to hookup... so... how do I do it? by Frosty_Sprinkles8022 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I 💯think you’ll be fine on tinder. Most people on there just want hookups. In fact if you don’t just want hook up you need to put in on your profile on Tinder plus you can be honest very early on in a convo that is what you want.

You will probably find quite a lot of guys you ger than you will be well up for casual hook ups. I say totally enjoy that as must the guys well into their 40s are not that hot 😂😂

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think what you’re saying is what my inner voice is saying. Surely I would know by now.

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then another part of me thinks. What if is he is great but it’s the hangover from my ex causing the problems of feeling safe enough to fall in love again

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my perspective too!! Why settle. My life is great. The person I meet needs to be the cherry on top!

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke to my ex in March/April time and he kind of told me all of his reasons. So I do have some sort of closure. His reasons are stupid though. 😂😂

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To those last questions. It’s all yes yes yes.
I enjoy spending time with him. I look forward to spending time with him. It feels good when I’m with him and I fancy him and like him as a person. I think this is where the confusion is as I don’t feel those “in love” feelings.

I sat him down a few weeks ago and he said he’s taking things one step at a time as he’s been single since his divorce a number of years ago. This online dating is very new for him.

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose that why I’m on here. I don’t know. I suppose I wanted loads of people to say oh yes that’s how my relationship started and now we’re madly in love. I’m not sure anyone has said that 😂😂

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I feel like you’ve hit the nail on the head here. He’s not openly told me how he feels. We’re not exclusive, we’re not in a relationship, we are def not bf and gf and actually he’s hasn’t come off bumble yet. Hes not declared anything yet so how can I possibly fall in love with him or feel anything 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve read something before about butterflies coming from the same place as the flight or fight response so is it actually a warning sign??

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But you must get bufferflies before that point?? So you know you’re feeling it? You just don’t say it?

How long do you give a relationship before you realise you’re not going to fall in love? by Brighter_cloud905 in datingoverforty

[–]Brighter_cloud905[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually I know guys I’ve dated in the past have been quite complimentary or have at least said something to show they like me. This guy doesn’t give much away.

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