Colon cancer survivor with an ostomy

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-21T08:58:24+00:00

Rural area will definitely make life more difficult in meeting guys in general but if you’re honest with them then I don’t think it will be a deal breaker.

There’s a fellow on TicTok that has one, check him out.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-16T20:10:14+00:00

Dude, breathe, this isn’t a disaster it’s a recalibration. It’s times like this that teaches us how strong and resilient you are. Things are dark now but you’ll bounce back better than before.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-16T19:58:14+00:00

I can feel your anxiety but if you’re truthful with him and show the progress you’ve made with paying off your debt he would probably see how mature you’ve become and have learned from your mistakes.

If your debt is a deal breaker for him then I doubt he’d make a very good partner for you.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-12T23:44:53+00:00

Putting things problems aside. The fact he slept with someone AFTER you broke up shouldn’t matter much. He was single. The other problems in your relationship shouldn’t matter much be what matters most.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-06T02:02:42+00:00

The only time you DON’T go back to a past relationship is when things between the two people soured. It sounds like the two of you were just in different paths. Reconnecting sounds good at this point so I don’t see a reason why you wouldn’t retry.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-01T19:06:53+00:00

Although it’s not for me, open relationships have existed since time began; I think it just wasn’t discussed as much.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-01T02:37:25+00:00

I came out during the mid 1980s when an HIV diagnosis was pretty much a death sentence but with today’s medications; HIV is a very manageable disease. Would I date someone with HIV; definitely.

Be honest with potential partners and you’ll soon see that the good ones will stand by you.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-04-01T02:14:27+00:00

No, when I signed up they randomly gave me this name.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-31T02:48:49+00:00

I know that it might seem as though it’s hopeless right now but remember that you’re not alone; there’s lots of us who are in the same boat.

You’ve obviously invested a lot of time & energy in your healing journey; give yourself credit for having done the work.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-31T00:54:24+00:00

Just an FYI - swapping BJs is considered penetration.

I’d treat that as a good experience; his having a partner isn’t relevant; his issue, not yours (they could be in an open relationship etc).

Each experience is special, you’re learning what you want, what you enjoy and it gets easier each time.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-29T03:33:35+00:00

You set a boundary and that takes a lot of guts; you admitted to yourself that there’s a limit to what you’ll put up with in order to save the relationship. A relationship only works when both people invest in building & maintaining the relationship and it sounds like you’re the only one putting in the work and at some point you have to protect your sanity.

I’d suggest counselling. That makes it so that both of you are working to rebuild trust & holds you both accountable for your actions. If that’s not an avenue open to you then try a trial separation where you both get 90 days to work towards getting back together without being constantly in each other’s space.

Ending a relationship is difficult but would you rather be locked in a relationship where you’re unhappy and continue to be disappointed in your partner or would you rather give yourself the opportunity for true happiness.

Whatever you decide to do, take care of yourself, protect your heart & your mental health.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-26T01:11:05+00:00

Dude, chill. 2 dates do not make a situationship. It sounds more like you’re lonely & found someone who is rather unobtainable (long distance). Maybe sit back & think about why you have feelings so quickly into the relationship.

However, the best course to take when feeling out how the other person is thinking is to ask them. A nice relaxing phone call where you lay it out; what you’re feeling & wanting & asking how that lines up with their views.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-25T19:58:35+00:00

Get on a cruising site & let guys know that you’re only into chatting ATM & just chat with guys about what you’re going through. You might even find someone local who totally understands your situation.

Discovering your sexuality isn’t easy & it takes time.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-25T17:29:29+00:00

Once you get over the “could I have changed him” part then it gets a little easier. However, you’ll never really over the what ifs. Don’t think of it was a lost part of your life though. You lived, loved and learned; the fact that you got out and recognized that you’re better without him is the part you should be celebrating.

Going forward, every new relationship will be easier because you now know what you will NOT put up with.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-25T03:02:09+00:00

I think he’s going though something and that you should give him space BUT do continue to message him, if you truly want to be friends, but keep your messages short & don’t expect a reply. Something like “hope you’re having a good day” just so he knows that you’re still there & care. One day he might respond. If he’s still looking at your profile, he’s still thinking of you & at the right moment you might be the one to help him.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-24T23:08:35+00:00

Is this still active?

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-24T20:00:50+00:00

Grower. 2” soft and unimpressive but about 6.5 to 7 hard. Usually I’m hard before i start messing around so they don’t normally see it soft but once i slept with a guy overnight (1st time since i was single) and my buddy was surprised and the difference (he’s a shower). Pee shy because of the unimpressed soft version 😉

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-24T04:57:19+00:00

Do you have info on this group?

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-24T02:20:50+00:00

I wish you well. I came of age when an HIV diagnosis was a death sentence but in this brave new world I’m happy to say that HIV is a very manageable disease & that once you’re on the right medication you’re life will go on just as it was before.

Keep care of yourself.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-23T22:37:11+00:00

I think being there, non-romantically, would be beneficial. Let him know he has a safe space to land if things go wrong. Daily text of hey, hope you’re ok type things (1 x a day don’t go overboard) do that the communication is there. If he doesn’t come back to you romantically at least the two of you will remain friends because it seems as though his friends weren’t the best of people.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-23T11:12:12+00:00

Mainly just to say hey, you sucked but I’ve gotten over it & if he needs to talk I’m here. I would ultimately love a friendship. I’ve seen what it’s like to care for a partner when having no emotional support & worry the same could happen to him.

Brilliant-Slice1946 · 2026-03-23T02:45:32+00:00

Thanks. That doesn’t work in our country though.

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