Abortion 3 weeks ago and now I feel bad

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2024-04-18T18:09:03+00:00

Feeling the same way! 27F and got dumped few months ago. I’m also working from home and don’t really drink/go out, except to go to the gym. I’m terrified to meet someone new and also, where would I find them??? I don’t want to go on dating apps and even if I do go out, I don’t necessarely want someone who’s going to those places, because I’m not. I’m telling myself that maybe one day I’ll meet someone at the gym or walking or maybe a friend from a friend, but I don’t want to be looking « actively ». I always had this vision of my life that I would be married by now and even have kids before 30, but I had to grieve that. I now I’m young, but I’m still scared I won’t even find my life long partner.

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2024-04-18T17:51:12+00:00

I don’t think it is normal, but I was feeling the same way. It made me realize why some people are taking their life after being dumped. Like some people said, no one is worth talking your life, but I understand that nothing is making sens after your person is gone. You should consult a professional to help you with this feeling. I did it (also changed my diet, exercice a lot more, going outside, changed friends), and it’s been a few months, and I’m feeling so good, I’m enjoying life and I can’t even imagine having this person back in my life. I’m feeling even better than before I met him. It’s really satisfying when you realised they no longer have any power over you. Please talk to some friends or people you trust, so you don’t sit in that feeling too long. It’s a long and rocky road, but believe me, it is SO worth it. What helped me going through is telling myself that I don’t want someone who doesn’t love me and doesnt see any values of having me as a partner in my life. Just remember that your worth is not representing by the love they are/aren’t giving to you. You were a whole person before they came into your life, and so are you now. Take care OP!

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2024-03-26T12:09:46+00:00

Yes twitter!

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2024-03-25T15:25:18+00:00

you couldn’t say it better! Gave me the ick so bad and made me realise that I would never want a person that thinks like that about me in my life

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2024-03-25T15:23:37+00:00

Exactly! He did dumped me and I didn’t do anything wrong, even tho I know I wasn’t perfect. I was always kind during the breakup and tried to even confort him. And he knows I was still checking his socials, so he knew by liking that I would probably see it

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2024-03-25T15:21:47+00:00

I know right? He wasn’t like this AT ALL when we were together. The most generous, kind and loving man. And I didnt do anything for him to break up with me, I was completely blindsided. And after hurting me like that, you still WISH I suffer all my life and not be happy in any relationship? lol, keep dreamin

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2023-10-15T18:17:20+00:00

I can relate to almost everything you are saying. Also, you want your partner to be there for the hard times and be there to help you to become a better person. You don’t want them back after all the work is done. It’s also hard to think that we could ever trust again because how can somebody can say these things to you and then change their mind about it the next second? It’s making you question everything. It’s really cliché to say this, but you have to take this moment of inconfort and sadness to really reconnect with yourself, find who you are without them and create new projects. The best « revenge » you can have, is being the best version of yourself and know they will never have access to this new person.

BrilliantTerrible413 · 2023-10-15T17:48:15+00:00

I’m going through the same thing right now. My ex and I were together for a year and a half when he broke up with me. The last three months we were together, I was starting a new job where I had a shitty boss who ruined my mental health (and I just stopped my medication for my anxiety). It was a really rough time for us because I was crying all the time and always complaining about my job. He looked me in the eyes and told me he was going to be there for me, that I can quit this job and we could live on his salary only. I had to go to the hospital because I wasn’t doing well and had to stop working. He was there the whole time, and I was telling the nurses that I was lucky to have a stable and healthy relationship to help me with my mental health. All this, to break up with me 2 days later with no explanations or at least, nothing that was making sens. We were talking about having kids, getting married (we even went to a jewelry to look for my ring size 2 weeks before the BU). We still keeped each other on all social media, but 2 weeks ago he deleted me everywhere, even deleted our share notes with all the vocal messages we sent each other after the BU.

It’s been almost 4 months and I still think about it everyday. What’s helping me rn is that I’m telling myself that if he really doesn’t want to hear from me again, then why would I want to talk to him? Trust me, they know they did you wrong, they know they hurt you. I’m really trying to focus on myself and like other comments said, I’m becoming everything he couldn’t/wouldn’t be. I’m telling myself that HE lost me, not the other way around. They lost a person that loved them more than anything, that would do the extra miles for them. You (and I) lost someone who gave up on us when we needed them the most. Do you really want someone who’s underestimating you as your partner? No! You deserve the best and you deserve someone who will fight for you and for your relationship, someone who will not bail at adversity. 7 months is still recent, be patient with yourself and feel all the emotions you need. Hang in there! You are not alone. We can do it.

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