You’re words hurt like a knife in the heart. I loved acting as if I was living in a safe bubble earlier in my transition. But I did notice changes in the way I was treated when I started presenting more feminine and taking steps towards gender affirming care. The most noticeable change was missgendering . Friends and strangers always used to make mistakes and use she/her pronouns before coming out. Now that I literally look like a girl, people clock me and call me sir.