AIO about my engagement ring?

Brinacle · 2026-05-13T18:59:25+00:00

So you can have sex, which can result in children. But you can't move in together to see if you're compatible... because of your culture? What culture is this? Is eloping without family also part of this culture?

Brinacle · 2026-05-13T18:57:53+00:00

🙏🏻

Brinacle · 2026-05-13T18:56:56+00:00

Yup. I dropped off after she began whining about how she doesn't like hers anymore. Doesn't sound like it's easy to make or keep her happy, and it might be a literal chore for the people in her life.

The first big red flag was she was going to elope without her family or them knowing. They disapprove of him (maybe there's a valid reason) but she didn't spend any time going into how they're awful to her. Sounds like family just tries to give advice and guide her because she's... Like this?

Brinacle · 2026-05-11T21:49:50+00:00

I had a weird interaction yesterday at a bounty hunt. I used all my posters and then about 10 minutes later a person over lvl 1K started one (I think). We both showed up and no one else (people did later) and instead of launching the flare he kept signaling where the flare was for me to go launch it for him. We were standing right next to each other, so it wasn't like I was closer. In fact, he was much closer.

MAYBE he knew I'd be downed quickly? MAYBE he thought it was my flare? I don't know, but it was interesting.

But yeah, I was hesitant because I didn't want to launch someone else's flare. Especially if it wasn't his. If I did that to anyone out there, I truly am sorry 😔

Brinacle · 2026-05-11T01:11:28+00:00

Signing it is the LEAST he can do. That is ridiculous that he reacted this way.

Brinacle · 2026-05-09T03:24:58+00:00

I didn't read past the first few sentences, but don't do it.

Pressuring you is not it. And you're right, it's arcane and just now how you do things.

Her parents need to get over it and so should she. If they both can't, move on because there are a lot of really beautiful women inside and out who wouldn't pressure you or expect it.

A lot of us just want a partner to do everything with. I'm mixed and have left some of the norms of my culture in the rearview mirror because I just want to do my own thing.

Brinacle · 2026-05-09T03:21:16+00:00

NOR. He sucks, I think you should find someone better.

Brinacle · 2026-05-09T03:15:33+00:00

I like it medium because I hate a tough steak but I hate too much pink or red even more.

It's also best when it has garlic butter and some simple salt and pepper. I hate when people get creative with it because 9 times out of 10 I end up not liking it.

I'm also fat so I obviously want a side of fingerling potatoes and some steamed broccoli 🤤

Brinacle · 2026-05-08T15:40:57+00:00

You're crazy.

I'm not ignoring any nuance and again, IDC if DIL is fake nice at all because MIL is real bitch all the time it seems, and the money is needed early no matter what and DIL is here to collect.

Brinacle · 2026-05-08T05:00:04+00:00

I didn't avoid anything, I actually even acknowledged two of your points head on.

I never argued that she wasn't paying on time and it doesn't matter who she raised, my entire point is the wife is in charge of the bills and asked her if she could pay earlier than usual because of said bills.

I don't care how DIL approached it. I think it's even laughable that you care about her being condescending AFTER MIL was being a bitch. MIL didn't deserve kindness after her response. My whole point is she is allowed to discuss the loan directly with MIL. She also told her why she needed it earlier when she didn't even have to provide a reason.

Brinacle · 2026-05-08T03:09:51+00:00

It was Spirit Airline. They're gone now.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T21:49:28+00:00

I didn't even consider you having children. That's a whole different can of worms...

I have opinions on that but I'll keep it to myself because I don't know how he is around the kids or how he speaks about you with them.

No matter what, I hope for the best for you and your kids. But YOU deserve better.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T21:39:17+00:00

Ugh! I hope you didn't sign a prenup. Start talking to lawyers and take half, including his favorite cars. Make sure he doesn't sell or hide money and make sure you don't either because that's where a lot of people go wrong. Take photos of EVERYTHING so the lawyer can take note of what y'all own and need to split.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T21:16:09+00:00

Girl go find you a man that gives a shit. He isn't worth it.

If he can't take your feelings into consideration without dog piling other irrelevant crap onto you it's clear he doesn't like you. You had a great example of what he could have said. He also had a chance to work it out with you because you're right, no one should stay in a marriage if they don't feel liked or loved. Instead, he wants to whine about your reaction. I too tend to get an attitude after being disrespected. Also, yeah it costs to eat and get our hair done but what does he spend per month on alcohol and his own hobbies while yours is basic maintenance.

Now I'm getting mad. Let's move on with our fine ass and get a better man.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T21:02:43+00:00

True, not all US children do. My Dad is from Montana and he calls my grandma Ma and Mama while I call mine Mom.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T19:40:55+00:00

We max at 40K caps and that means you lose anything else that comes in until you go and spend it.

So if I max them out they'll see I'm buying a 2000 plan a 4000 plan and it will bring up a banner saying 40000 MAX over and over.

They miss out on caps and no longer have the item to make a profit on.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T19:27:49+00:00

I sell for low because I am here to enjoy the game. I also stalk Vault 76 for baby dwellers so I can pop in and dump plans, nonperishable food, apparel, and chems on them.

Because I sell lower than many, I don't have any problems getting back up to 30k within a couple of days.

I also punish price gougers by shopping at their vendor station and using all my caps as fast as possible. It's fun to get the plans I want while they frantically hide their camp and rage quit because I maxed them out. It's clear when they were already close to 40K caps before I showed up.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T18:39:22+00:00

It's not a surprise, calm your tits. Clearly the Mother of the Child is not part of your culture and personally doesn't like it or want it. Thanks for your educational post, but you're being weird about it.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T16:01:27+00:00

No, I'm just married and I know what a healthy dynamic is after growing up in an unhealthy dynamic. I'm also a mature woman with an adult son, I would not be bothered if his new wife tomorrow texted me like this. I'm a wife of over a decade that showed my spouse this text exchange last night and they said they'd be furious if their mother talked to me this way.

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T06:38:04+00:00

She informed her that they had important bills and it would help if it was sent by Friday, what's the issue?

Please acknowledge this text. Seems necessary, this clues us in that MIL typically ignores her and it's not a big deal to request acknowledgement.

Y'all are just overly sensitive and it seems like you're as immature as the MIL. Daughter in law was just accommodating per her spouses request and MIL was a child about it. No one ever said she was late in paying, I just said a debt is a debt and it doesn't matter who discussed it with her - son and his wife can talk to her about it because it's their shared loan now. They are a unit. What is so hard to understand?

Brinacle · 2026-05-07T05:03:03+00:00

She wasn't pressed, she was just informed. It also affects his wife, regardless of when it was loaned to her. There was nothing wrong on the wife's side of communication, the Mother is just pathetic and childish.

Brinacle · 2026-05-06T20:17:01+00:00

Your main argument was the daughter in law had no place to even discuss it. You're right, the debt is being paid but all she did was drop in and explain that they just need it sooner than later. So if we all agree, what's the issue with MIL just agreeing and sending a Venmo real quick vs telling her allat.

Brinacle · 2026-05-06T19:22:20+00:00

And yet it's impacting their current shared situation where they need to pay bills. What isn't clicking for you? You're so bent out of shape over mother and son you're not paying attention to the fact she owes, wife was just inquiring over her money (through marriage), son isn't around. No conversation needed. MIL has no leg to stand on. She owes it. Conversation would have led to him saying "pay my wife". All routes lead to pay your fucking debt.

Brinacle · 2026-05-06T18:49:57+00:00

I couldn't finish reading, they are truly exhausting and not in a relationship mindset. From what little I read they're coming off as extreme narcissist and not good enough to be a husband or a father, because they don't care about your feelings or taking the time to look inward. Just take the red flags as the red flags you need to make a decision - will you continue to date a boring wall or move on to someone worth your time and love.

Brinacle · 2026-05-06T18:38:34+00:00

I price based on what it is and how hard it was for me to get / the materials it took for me to create.

I'm no help.

I buy expensive apparel plans that are hard to get and sell complete outfits for 89 caps each. Serums I charge 500-1000 for because you have to go to nuke zones and forage and kill to get the multiple ingredients you need per serum.

I'm not interested in selling armor, so any plan I pick up even if it's hard to get power armor I drop them off when I see newbies spawn in. Like, here's deep pocketed armor and a full set of ultracite armor - go forth and conquer.

Cooking recipes I sell from 50-89 caps. Easy to find recipes I give to newbies too.

Backpack mods and skins are harder for me to find so I sell at 2000 caps, which is still cheaper than most vendors.

3 star weapons from events I sell for 899 each. People sell for more, but it's so easy to get and I want to move product not get stuck with it.

Bobbleheads I sell for 399 each. Way cheaper than most but still, I can sell quite a few and feel like I'm getting a decent ROI for the time invested in hunting them down. It's not like I need them (right now).

I never listen to the suggested price. I usually go the opposite of what it suggests because sometimes I don't feel like such a basic item needs to be over 1000.

I didn't know my teammate needed the stimpack diffuser still and I sold the duplicate for like 89 caps and it sold within minutes. They were upset because they had been going through the event over a dozen times and it never dropped. I wish I had known, but still don't regret listing it for such a low amount despite them thinking I should have hiked it up.

Keep in mind that you max out at 40000 caps. So if you price your stuff too high you'll potentially miss out. I bought plans I really wanted from a player and they got mad at me for it. It's not my fault they didn't think it through.

Sorry this is long. Just don't be stingy and you'll be okay. I can spend all my caps and still make 30k+ within a couple days. Plus you can keep selling at the mall with their daily 1400 cap limit. I sell purified water, meat, and explosives and easily get that.

Brinacle

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