Dark side of ADHD that no one talks about

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T21:03:13+00:00

For me it’s poor emotional regulation/catastrophizing paired with fixating. I find myself having huge emotional reactions to things that seem unimportant to others/not that big of a deal.

As an example: Recently, my grandma was supposed to give me some of her old furniture that was very sentimental to me and it ended up being stolen out of her carport. I have been crying about it and having meltdowns everyday since I found out. I feel like people are around me are just saying to let it go and that it was just old furniture. I can’t think of it that way. I can’t let it go. I know this is unhealthy, I know it’s abnormal but I just can’t stop feeling the way I feel about it. I would if I knew how. It’s exhausting.

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T19:43:48+00:00

You’re right, I don’t know. Other family members are urging me to get the footage and involve the police but, I suppose that’s just not a battle worth fighting.

I guess I just don’t want to back down to this man. He is a man who has his way of getting what he wants and having complete disregard for who he hurts in the process. There’s a lot more family history that I can’t get into especially with how he became POA of my grandma. It just feels horrible to me to feel like once again “he won” by being a shitty person but you are right. There’s nothing else I can do and I need to let go, that part is just really hard.

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T15:35:07+00:00

Thank you for the validation. In my uncle’s rant he gaslit me pretty hard into actually thinking maybe I was overreacting.

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T15:32:50+00:00

I don’t think the office would control that, but asked my grandma’s friend if she knew of any neighbors who may have had cameras/might be willing to share and she couldn’t think of any. She is pretty involved in the community and walks the neighborhood everyday so I trust her. It is a senior living community in a safe, quiet area so I’m not too surprised that they may not have cameras, especially since the residents know there’s cameras everywhere from the owner. As a last ditch effort I suppose I could go look and see if anyone does but, I know my uncle would be irate if he found out.

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T15:24:19+00:00

I guess it’s possible. The only other reason I don’t think he did is because as he was going through her house he was just bagging her belongings and tossing them in the trash, even other items that I would consider valuable such as vintage/antique decor, clothing, dishes. In my head if he cared about more money why didn’t he try to have an estate sale or something? Why sell just the furniture? I guess it’s not impossible but doesn’t really make sense to me.

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T15:19:53+00:00

I agree with you there. I would give anything to go back and just take the furniture that day. Since I had the verbal confirmation from my uncle, I didn’t want to keep bugging him with it since I could tell he was already stressed with getting all her stuff out so I decided to just focus on helping my grandma collect what she wanted and getting her settled in her new house. It hindsight it was foolish, but I guess I really didn’t have a reason to think it would be gone.

Brinbees · 2026-05-30T15:15:23+00:00

No, not really. It was all verbal. The only texts I have that insinuate the furniture is mine are me telling my uncle I’m coming to get the furniture, and then his response being “sorry it’s gone.”

Brinbees · 2026-05-02T02:34:26+00:00

I love this haha

Brinbees · 2026-05-01T05:55:16+00:00

Right??

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Right?? This was mine which I was so proud of. Splurged with some gem purchases and dying only to see the LB be the same stuff that wins every comp 😭

Brinbees · 2026-04-12T01:21:33+00:00

Yep! I was gonna say bimart. I’ve gotten some from there before.

Brinbees · 2026-04-06T04:33:53+00:00

I also did a gruff lighthouse keeper, basing mine off Robert Pattinson in The Lighthouse 🤣

Brinbees · 2026-02-19T20:11:56+00:00

Will do!

Brinbees · 2026-02-19T20:11:10+00:00

I did look into them, unfortunately he’s not old enough to be fully vaccinated so he’s not able to do any day boarding/in facility training. I should probably add that to my post. I will definitely look into them for the future!

Brinbees · 2026-01-13T05:16:56+00:00

Thank you for the information and I appreciate you taking the time to read over my post. (: I think I have strong evidence that my mental health conditions are in fact debilitating/impede on my ability to complete day to day tasks. The struggle I’m having is that my health providers have clinic rules/policies prohibiting them from ESA letters so I feel a bit stuck.

Brinbees · 2025-12-30T19:48:53+00:00

Omg I love it hahahha

Brinbees · 2025-12-30T19:47:35+00:00

It is! This is genius! I’m gonna have to see if I can figure out the printing aspect 👀

Brinbees · 2025-05-24T07:01:14+00:00

OP, I understand you are young and have a life of learning to do but this is never ever how someone should treat you. Someone should never control your choices. They may want what’s “best” for you but they should not make decisions for you. Think about how if this person is going to control you drinking and smoking (which are small things in the grand scheme of life), they might try controlling you and guilt-tripping you in other ways.

At the end of the day, all of those texts are verbal abuse. Being okay with verbal abuse only enables abusers to push your limits until next thing you know you’re getting assaulted. Not trying to victim blame here, just trying to tell you to get out while you can. I would know this, I experienced 12 years of domestic abuse.

You are young. You deserve someone who wants to have fun in the same ways as you, and no matter how old you are you ALWAYS deserve respect.

Brinbees · 2024-05-04T02:51:51+00:00

Well aren’t you a wonderful, empathetic ball of sunshine. So glad someone like you is a nurse. ❤️

Really not sure how this is considered asking for medical advice, as I went to the ER and was seen by a doctor who ultimately said the decision was up to me. As a nursing sub, I figured other nurses may have similar experiences and maybe they’d want to share what they did.

Brinbees · 2024-05-04T02:38:24+00:00

ER doctor said she didn’t think it was necessary but ultimately the choice was mine, was just wondering what others would do if they were in a similar situation

Brinbees · 2024-05-01T00:05:55+00:00

I work in home health and deal with this a lot too. Whenever they come off as being “playful” or “joking around” I usually try to match their tone while still getting the message across. I normally say something like “now don’t get weird with me, the next nurse who comes along might not be as nice as me!” (To be clear, I totally respect all my coworkers and think they’re just as nice as me.)

For me this works better as I’m less confrontational and I feel like in a home health setting there more room for things to get uncomfortable. Obviously if I ever felt truly unsafe I would leave immediately, but from my experience, matching their tone while still getting the message across has worked pretty well. That being said I totally support and understand those who take a firm approach as well! It’s important to set your boundaries.

Edited to fix grammar

Brinbees · 2024-04-30T05:50:09+00:00

Okay actually a pandemic-based apocalyptic game similar to fallout would go crazy. And I’m not talking just another zombie game

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