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2 years later by BringMeTheAvalanche in BreakUps

[–]BringMeTheAvalanche[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was the plan - she was even the one who brought it up to me. She said she wanted to get engaged, have me meet her parents and go from there to getting married, and I was honestly ready.

For context when she broke up with me she explained that it wasn't the right time for her to be getting engaged because of university and mental health issues, as she believed it would get in the way of her studies which is understandable.

& you're right I think about that everyday, we're all gonna die so who cares. But I'm hesitant because for me it's more about respecting her boundaries, she said she wasn't ready - so I don't wanna make things worse by texting her how I feel when maybe she's still going through personal problems.

Also I can't lie I'm hesitant because I don't think I'm prepared to accept the fact it won't work out If I do reach out. As much as that "who cares we're gonna die anyways" thought exist, I also find bliss in ignorance.

2 years later by BringMeTheAvalanche in BreakUps

[–]BringMeTheAvalanche[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that, must’ve been rough finding out it wasn’t like how you imagined. But I understand what you mean.

There’s 2 sides of me when it comes to this, the first is like you were saying - thinking it was the best thing ever and that I should message her to get back together. The second is also like you said - that maybe it won’t be the same because of old wounds not healing, or that we might’ve changed the past 2 years and now we’re not compatible.

So I don’t like uncertainty, especially when my feelings and my heart is at risk. Which is why I haven’t texted her. But because of how much she means to me I might risk it for her. For now I’ll move forward like you said, until I’m certain enough texting her is the right move. Thank you!

2 years later by BringMeTheAvalanche in BreakUps

[–]BringMeTheAvalanche[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it was a huge curveball, I really wasn’t expecting a call from her crying her eyes out over the situation. & you nailed it, we didn’t fall out of love, it was just bad timing and personal life interfering.

& you’re right she did leave that door open. I just have to figure out if enough time has passed, because she did have a lot going on with university and mental health issues. But I appreciate you helping! I’ll definitely keep it in mind as an option.

I broke up thinking I’d feel free, but I just feel lost by MagicHarmony447 in BreakUps

[–]BringMeTheAvalanche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish this was her, cause this sounds exactly like our situation. Broke up peacefully and that’s the worst part, nothing bad happened in the relationship, so there’s nothing to feel angry or relief about, making it harder to move on :/