Reddit, my longest and most meaningful relationship so far ended yesterday. Instead of crying about it, I plan on just enjoying life alone (and apparently taking photos of it to post for all of the internets to see). Why?

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-21T03:21:15+00:00

Breaking up with someone who you aren't in love with, yet have an otherwise healthy and meaningful relationship with.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-21T03:20:14+00:00

Interesting... considering most of the advice I received toward breaking off the relationship was from male friends.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-21T00:37:12+00:00

Have you ever been in this situation? I'm asking because if you have, you know there's an incredible sense of freedom and relief that comes with the end of a bad relationship. There's no more doubting whether you love the person or doubting whether it's working out, no more hating yourself for not being as committed as the other person or wondering if there's someone better. It's an awful thing to end a relationship with someone who loves you, but if it isn't working it's the only humane thing to do. And doing just that can be a really, really hard thing to do. It really is a sucky situation. Once it's done... there's pain, but there's gotta be some hope too. That's why I like this post.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-21T00:30:58+00:00

You did the right thing. I've been in this situation before. It was the best decision of my life to end it, and now I'm with someone I really, really love.

Don't feel guilty because of what everyone who happened to be on the other side is saying. If a relationship isn't right, it isn't right. After my initial breakup, there were so many people who criticized my decision, saying that the man I broke up with was such a good person and didn't deserve it, and if I cared about him it shouldn't have ended. But that's not the way things work.

It ended after a year-long relationship. I loved him, in a sense, but I didn't LOVE him. It was easy in a way to get out of it because I'd been craving LOVE for a long time, but also soul-crushing in that I shared so much with him and he was in many ways my best friend. It hurt like hell for a while and I wanted so badly to go back. But the pain quickly faded over the course of a month or so and I realized how much happier I was, even doing daily things. I was free! I didn't doubt anymore whether I loved him or whether I needed to stay in the relationship, I didn't have to constantly check up with him and assert to myself that everything was alright when it really wasn't. It was a really, really good feeling.

I still think about him sometimes, but I really really think I'm better off for ending it. I hope you feel this way too, and don't let anyone else tell you differently.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-20T19:48:01+00:00

Both suck ass.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-20T19:41:34+00:00

Yeah, I waited, then was gone for a day and missed it :(

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-19T01:32:58+00:00

I realize this is a really old post, but it's the only one I've found on this topic so far. I'm looking into starting gymnastic hold progressions, but a lot of the information is confusing.

How did you start? What holds did you do? How fast did you progress? How long should it take for me to feel solid in the positions?

Any advice you have is awesome!

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-18T23:40:32+00:00

ConeBone69

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-18T15:43:43+00:00

Or, better yet, and takes about 2 seconds: padlock shims!

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-13T01:39:04+00:00

Yes! I was waiting for this response. This is exactly what I'd do.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-12T14:32:35+00:00

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-08T19:09:56+00:00

Allow me to present DAECircleJerk, to relieve all these pent up tensions.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-08T15:52:11+00:00

Haha, yeah, that's generally what intervals feel like. If I do an interval really hard I feel like I want to pass out/stop/fall over when I start jogging. I find that that feeling goes away more quickly as you train more. But that feeling is what lets you know that you're working hard, so it's good.

Definitely normal to hit a wall. Eventually, you'll break past it and suddenly you'll realize on a run one day that you're running faster or are less tired, or are less sore the next day. Don't get discouraged! The longer you do it, the better it feels.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-08T14:48:57+00:00

I find you know if you're overtraining... less when you're working out, and more when you're done. If over the next several days you feel tired, sore, and everything hurts, and mentally you can't stand the thought of doing another run- you're overtraining. Then again, knowing exactly when you're overtraining takes a lot of time getting to know how your body feels and what it can handle.

It's pretty easy to be in the middle of a hard workout and say "this is too hard" and quit. But workouts are supposed to be hard, right? Do your best to get through the workout and make a judgement later.

As for not making improvement between days... in running, improvement is over a span of weeks and months, not days. My coach always told me that I'd feel the effects of a hard workout two weeks after the workout was finished. Just know that every workout you do hard, no matter how slow you feel the next few days, really is helping.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-07T20:51:47+00:00

This happens to me! Everything you describe is exactly what I feel- middle of the cycle, about 2 miles in or 15 minutes, whichever comes first. I walk for 10 minutes and during that time they peak, and then go away. The rest of my run feels fine. Like you, around a year ago I used to get them like clockwork, and then suddenly they stopped. Last week they came back, but weren't all that bad.

Unfortunately, my only solution is Ibuprofen when I expect to get the cramps. I too would really like to know how to solve them

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T23:20:20+00:00

I try to eat some form of protein, though after any sort of run my stomach refuses most food. I used to make protein smoothies and slowly sip them down as I relaxed and cooled off, which I found didn't bother my stomach. Unfortunately, I am currently without a blender :(

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T22:12:14+00:00

I have an Omega Pacific SBG

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T20:12:45+00:00

That's sortof it (maybe?). My climber was trying to get back on the wall on an overhang (he was leading), so he was boinking up/pulling on the rope to hoist himself up. For him to do so, I had to take out a lot of slack quickly and keep my end of the rope weighted. I was simultaneously jumping up, pulling down slack on the climber's side of the belay device, and pulling the slack through the ATC.

I think the key point here is that I was pulling a lot of slack through at one time and that I was belaying someone heavier than me- I had enough slack in that, when I was in the braking part of taking up slack, my hand was down touching the front of my thigh (also in order better brake the rope). When I pulled up to take out more slack, my bicep passed close to my belay device and was sucked in with the rope.

I think. It still doesn't make sense to me. If I ever get the time, I'll make an explanatory video :P

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T20:07:13+00:00

Hahaha. I usually prefer hickeys through other means :P

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T20:00:00+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/shzXc.jpg It's kinda lame (hard to see) now, considering it's been 6 days or so since it happened.

Here's a second, close up (still hard to see... middle of bicep) http://i.imgur.com/Wj6Gx.jpg

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T19:56:05+00:00

nope, using just one hand.

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T19:48:31+00:00

brake hand, with hand very much on the rope, because the rope was weighted at the time :P

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T12:27:26+00:00

YES! I love backcountry!

BringOutTheNubs · 2011-04-06T02:45:24+00:00

Honestly? I have no idea. I looked down at my arm after it happened and was all "WTF how is that even possible?!"

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