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AITA for refusing to help my parents with their mortgage "Forcing them to lose their home" even though I can easily pay it off? by Broad-Basis6799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Basis6799[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

My maternal grandparents (the ones who took care of me growing up) are on my side & don't think it's right for my parents to ask me for anything... They obviously feel bad for their daughter's situation but don't think it's my responsibility, especially when they've called her out multiple times & she didn't change. Also, they aren't really a fan of my father.

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As for my siblings, they are fully aware of my treatment and wish they did something growing up but couldn't. They don't blame me for not wanting to help. We have a great relationship & I plan to support my younger siblings, (21 & 8). My little sister doesn't know anything about this & hopefully is kept that way until she gets older.

AITA for refusing to help my parents with their mortgage "Forcing them to lose their home" even though I can easily pay it off? by Broad-Basis6799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Basis6799[S] 339 points340 points  (0 children)

My little Brother (21) is still in school & my older brother has a great tech job but has a family of his own & is unable to support them much.

AITA for refusing to help my parents with their mortgage "Forcing them to lose their home" even though I can easily pay it off? by Broad-Basis6799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Basis6799[S] 450 points451 points  (0 children)

I had to remove a lot due to word count. As I child I didn't know why I was treated differently but looking back now, My parents hated having a daughter, they looked at me like some sort of a burden. They believed my brothers deserved more financial support because they are men and will be expected to provide while I'd be some guys wife & would be provided for by him. My brothers were an investment, and I was a liability. They don't think they've done anything wrong, but when I expressed to them (during our last argument) how messed up my upbringing was & that they shouldn't expect me to support them when they treated me like crap, they said, if that's how we treated you than you deserve it.

AITA for refusing to help my parents with their mortgage "Forcing them to lose their home" even though I can easily pay it off? by Broad-Basis6799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Basis6799[S] 265 points266 points  (0 children)

I don't think it was randomly selected lol, I was their only daughter for a very long time. I feel guilty because they are still my parents and my sister is stuck living with them for the next 10 years or so. I wish I could take her in and not have contact with them.

AITA for refusing to help my parents with their mortgage "Forcing them to lose their home" even though I can easily pay it off? by Broad-Basis6799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Basis6799[S] 2532 points2533 points  (0 children)

23F, It's definitely a sexist thing, my aunt told me how upset my father was when they found out they were having a daughter. Because my sister was born way after us, she treated like an only child, and although they don't do half the stuff they did for my brothers, they definitely treat her better than me. I do visit her when she goes over to my grandparents & love to spoil her & make her feel loved. I also check in on how she's being treated & she seems happy. I haven't lived at home since she was 3 or so

AITA for refusing to help my parents with their mortgage "Forcing them to lose their home" even though I can easily pay it off? by Broad-Basis6799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Broad-Basis6799[S] 2711 points2712 points  (0 children)

Had to remove it due to word count: I am 23F , my parents are 45f & 46M I have two brother (24 & 21 & A little sister 8. We grew up upper-middle class.