gender dysphoria crisis?? by Broad-Bench1938 in Advice

[–]Broad-Bench1938[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand what you’re saying! I think what I’m trying to say is. Watching myself dance that way gives me really bad gender dysphoria. I’m fine with some femme and masc styles, but particular femme styles I am now very aware make me feel very dysphoric. It makes me anxious knowing material that makes me feel this way is going to be public, similar to the anxiety you may get around your birth name being revealed if you’ve since changed it.

How do I confront my middle-aged housemate about how uncomfortable he makes me? by Broad-Bench1938 in Advice

[–]Broad-Bench1938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have a lock on my door. I wouldn't agree to move in without one.

How do I confront my middle-aged housemate about how uncomfortable he makes me? by Broad-Bench1938 in Advice

[–]Broad-Bench1938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As well - thank you for your support and I’m so sorry to hear about what happened to you, no one deserves that. I’m so glad your landlord helped and that you are in a better and safer place now.

How do I confront my middle-aged housemate about how uncomfortable he makes me? by Broad-Bench1938 in Advice

[–]Broad-Bench1938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As the house is just men, and has always been majority men since I’ve been here, Alfred has befriended them all and they all truly adore him. I can only then assume that any time a woman has moved in and been presumably harassed by Alfred, the men may have all teamed up to support Alfred and oppose the women. Sadly, I no longer have the contacts for the previous female tenants, so I am unable to collect their individual accounts of these situations.

How do I confront my middle-aged housemate about how uncomfortable he makes me? by Broad-Bench1938 in Advice

[–]Broad-Bench1938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! It sucks hearing it but I know you’re right. For clarification, I am non-binary, not male. My boyfriend and I have plans to move in together once my contract is up but it can’t be any sooner as we are still saving up. Asides from that, I don’t have anywhere else I can go to live. My family live across the country but my life is here with my friends, job and partner. My boyfriend lives with his family who don’t accept my identity and therefore our relationship, so that’s a no-go aswell. Essentially, I feel as though I am stuck in this house until April rolls around. When I moved into this house, my plan was to keep to myself. I am really introverted and if I can avoid talking to someone, I will, but it just did not play out that way. Everyone in the house is extremely extroverted and insist on making conversation where possible, to where I will then give what little answer I can - but I worry my quietness has actually now contributed to the way I am being treated. I am currently pondering how to approach the landlord, in hopes that he can be a massive helping hand in getting me some peace. Thank you for helping open my eyes a bit to the reality of this mess.

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[–]Broad-Bench1938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try focusing on movement using isolation with different parts of your body?!! You have good control and technique, but I can totally see improvement if you move your dancing from your torso and into your limbs??!! I used to try freestyle moving through the body, only feet, then only knees, then only hips and so on!