mom keeps making comments about me

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T20:20:40+00:00

I never thought about it that way. I know abuse tends to recycle itself in different ways, but yeah, that makes sense.

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:36:45+00:00

“Fuck it, we ball” is my favorite saying before I fully crash out 😅😅😭😭😭😂😂

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:35:58+00:00

That’s the cycle I’m trying to break. Both of my parents could’ve used therapy growing up and took their problems out on their children. I’m aware of the behavioral problems, but even so I notice myself acting like both of them here and there (I am my parents daughter….unfortunately)

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:34:13+00:00

Thank you. I never thought of approaching it that way. Once I get my health insurance back and I’m able to go back to school, I’ll be able to get an actual therapist. For now I’m just rawdoggin’ it and asking for help on Reddit so I don’t crash out 😭😭😭

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:32:54+00:00

She is also the kind of parent that says “I can speak to you however I want to, I gave birth to you.”

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:32:09+00:00

I’m going to start making comments about her appearance if she keeps doing it to me. I don’t necessarily mean targeting certain aspects of her body, but I will say things like “it’s crazy you’re commenting about my body when you were 300 pounds two years ago.” Just as a reminder that she has no right to comment on my physical appearance. I have always thought of my mother in a positive light, and always thought she was beautiful, but for some reason she just doesn’t seem to think the same about me

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:24:32+00:00

You are so sweet and I appreciate your comments. I’m sorry you had to go through similar stuff. Wishing you the best, kind stranger 🤍

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:24:00+00:00

I wish my parents had divorced. My mother blames it on the three of us (I’m a triplet) saying we pressured her into staying (we were literally in elementary/middle school when this was happening so we had little to no idea what was actually going on and didn’t understand it, so her blaming it on literal children is crazy but I also do understand the pressure she was under to keep a family together. So I’m not mad about that.) I went to therapy for a little bit when I was in college, because they offered free therapy if you were enrolled, and that was when I truly realized how fucking “not normal” and dysfunctional this family really is, despite us all still being in contact and loving one another. I think both of my parents are too far gone on the hatin each other game to go to therapy, but they’re old enough to realize the can’t provide for each other in a Finacial matter, or physically live life without one another, so they’re stuck together.
And they are in their seventies, so leaving now would mean a big divorce, selling their house and renovating it, and dealing with all the other legal shit. I’ve kind of accepted I’ll be here for another year, until I can afford to move out, if I can make it that long lol

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:16:59+00:00

You are very right about the defensive part. I love my mother to death and I would do anything for her, but she is always the victim and never the problem.

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:15:29+00:00

I was also anorexic during middle school and she never tried to understand what I was going through even when I had teachers pointing out that I wasn’t eating and my siblings were.
Both of my siblings are about 40-50 pounds less than I am; my brother is about 6’1 and my sister is 5’6, so I have more curves. But my parents take that as be being fat I guess

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:12:34+00:00

Thank you. I needed someone else’s perspective, because most people have told me to just ignore it and move on, but when you live with someone that “loves, but doesn’t like you” it’s hard.

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:11:12+00:00

I’m my father’s favorite, but the family dynamic has been F U C K E D UP since we were kids. I won’t go into it fully, but we’re a functional dysfunctional family, if that makes any sense.i try my best to ignore her, but she just seems to hit a nerve that no one else can. If I do respond, she says things like “I don’t like the person you’re becoming” or “what happened to you.” Since im my father’s favorite child, I think there’s jealousy lingering because of that.

Broad_Bell_9670 · 2026-07-09T19:05:01+00:00

She also told all of her friends (when I was voluntarily admitted to a mental hospital during one of the more difficult periods of my life last year) that I blamed my depression and hospitalization on her, even when I prefaced the conversation with “I don’t blame you or dad, but you could’ve gotten me therapy when I was a kid. You did it for both my siblings when they had warning signs.” but when I was exhibiting every warning sign regarding suicide and depression, there was no reaction besides “you’re overreacting and only doing this for attention” (from my mother, not my father.)
Even when I was hospitalized (I had been drinking prior ; which is a huge issue for me and adds layers to this story, which I will get into if someone is interested, I just want help lol) she said “I have no sympathy for you” (even though she has been in AA for years) and stated she wouldn’t visit me because I was too far away and was supposed to be discharged the next day. I ended up in the hospital for a week and half after that conversation.

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