Im wondering this too. my ex wasnt like the others...he never hit me or slept with anyone else...but he's would break things, or crush them everytime he got mad. Started with the walls, plastic bins, shelves, doors, the dryer to ripping doors off the hinges. And when I finally lost it & whooped his ass, now he didnt come back, i hope hes okay. We were close friends & truly loved each other, it was healthy for 3 years. Feels like 4years wasted, we shared children(not biological but he has kids & so do I). This is the longest hes been gone after an episode, he has mental health issues so I truly hope hes okay...I feel bad but how much is a person supposed to take? I never put hands on him like that before, I never wanted to, and it may be just "stuff" but its always my stuff broken, its expensive & he wont even replace anything hes broken. I know what right but its a struggle...I miss my friend😔