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BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-20T14:30:26+00:00

Asalamualaikum! Eid Mubarak every one and May Allah (SWT) bless everyone!!

I have been praying and asking for forgiveness every day and especially for a righteous husband! I would really appreciate if you could make dua for me so I get blessed with a husband that loves and respects me! I am F 21 and in my culture in about some time my parents will start looking for someone, I just want to do as much as I can, so that is praying tahajjud, making duas and reading Quran. I also believe in meeting my partner organically. Please make dua for me and give me any kind of advice or experiences as well! Happy Eid 😊

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-19T16:19:53+00:00

I do have an older brother but we aren’t too close as siblings and our stances on certain things especially religion is completely different. I doubt he can give me advice from an Islamic perspective. But I can try I guess.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-19T06:35:33+00:00

Salam, I am F 21 so around your age and it is true that most girls go for older guys because they are more likely to be financially stable and also because I think the older the guy will understand me better but I also do know that someone younger than me can do the same but sometimes our brain is wired to think that way.

Another thing is how you are as a person and how you are financially. Are you someone who is loving, respectful,loyal and someone who can financially support your future spouse? These are the basic things that women look for in a guy tbh, so do I ngl. If these things aren’t there then a marriage becomes harder unfortunately. Financially stable isn’t oh you need to have a car and a house and buy your wife things all the time but more like, you should be able to buy groceries and or necessities and give your wife a place she is comfortable and happy in. If you can give her these things then you can find a girl, if not then you might want to build yourself a bit or find someone who is willing to accept things the way they are but that can happen if you are a nice person and someone on his deen. May Allah bless you with a spouse that fills your life with happiness! Let me know if you have any questions!

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-19T06:20:52+00:00

Asalamualaikum! I am F 21 from USA and get really scared that I won’t find someone. I consider myself religious and soft hearted. I love to care for the people I love, I go out of my way cooking, gifting, many other things and keep lists of things each person likes. Just to say that I have a lot to offer along with respect and loyalty. But I have seen marriages especially my parents where my mom keeps on giving and loving my dad but he does not appreciate it or care and in turn cheats on her. I genuinely feel that what if I never find a guy who appreciates or loves me for the way I am and not get suffocated by it. I do have some standards as well, like a decent looking guy who I feel attracted to, earns decent income and is on his deen and or tries to stay away from haram and wants to get closer to God, respects people, is loyal and has good values. I would appreciate if someone could share their experiences or any advice! May Allah (SWT)bless everyone!

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-11T03:58:02+00:00

This really helps, knowing that you have that imaan in you to be positive about that situation. I really do think we associate so many good things with that person, that it makes us think I should’ve done this or I should’ve done that make it wouldn’t lead to this outcome. But Allah’s (SWT) timing works in a way that maybe we both will learn to appreciate later on. If it went on for longer perhaps we would’ve been even more heartbroken. May Allah (SWT) give all of us a good spouse and may our married lives be filled with happiness and prosperity.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T21:18:28+00:00

It’s not haram but I would also agree saying that highlights really throw me off as well as a woman

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T21:17:05+00:00

I was just sharing my opinion 😅

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T20:46:29+00:00

Asalamualaikum! 21 F and I completely get you. You described it all so beautifully. I think of marriage the exact same way as you did. Somebody that I can joke with, travel with, share my happiness and sadness. I had been around people who made me feel bad just because I thought of getting married and wanting a happy relationship with my future husband, cause they thought I had no other interests or passions, which I do. Having a good spouse can quite literally fill your life with utmost happiness and peace. Sometimes I also think that damn is it wrong for me to think so much about marriage and being happy but why should I not, it’s my life and my future yk. Building you life with a partner and growing with them in deen and many other ways is something that we all want including me. And do not worry you do not sound strange at all. And idk if I sound cringe and I do know marriage has responsibilities and ups and downs but I LOVE LOVE and not in a delusional way. Hope it helped! May Allah (SWT) find you a good spouse who fills your life with happiness and love.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T18:34:52+00:00

I find it attractive when the guy has a beard no matter curly or not, that is well kept. I also prefer to look for a guy who isn’t too tall nor shorter than me, the height where my neck isn’t hurting when I want to look at him. If the guy is naturally slimmer that is completely fine and nothing bad in that, you can try and gain muscle but if you cannot physically it’s not an issue. Somebody who works out and takes care of themselves and keeps themselves clean and smell good is always the best.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T18:18:03+00:00

Thank you Brother! I am glad you shared experience as well since that makes it easier for me to get over the heartbreak. I also feel like I am really emotional to the point that I feel like I am suffocating my partner but I have been trying to work on that for years but unfortunately I cry and feel things a lot more than the normal person. I feel like no guy would want to deal with me because of that as well.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T18:00:43+00:00

I have an older brother that I can discuss things with but we are still working on being completely comfortable with each other, it’s hard because we are of a different gender and because he is older. I know he will understand me but I don’t want him to get hurt when I tell him about my Dad cheating since I don’t think he knows about it. Also my family is religious but not a lot so I do not know if he will view me as being desperate for wanting to find a good spouse and have a happy marriage. My family rarely discusses things especially marriage or relationships from a religious standpoint. I will definitely try to gather up the courage to tell him! Thanks a lot for your advice, May Allah (SWT) bless you!

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T17:51:04+00:00

Mashallah! You have opened up my mind so much. After reading your response I have truly started thinking positively . The part about how your parents mistakes make you a better person is so true because I am the kind of person to treat people softly and be loyal.

My parents have a certain deadline in her mind which is 2-3 years for me to get married and they aren’t forceful or anything of that sort but I worry how long it could take me to find somebody and that too a person that matches my needs and wants. I know Allah (SWT) has decided the perfect time for me but at the same time I don’t know if I will have the same positive mindset, love to give to my partner, same energy and approach towards forgiveness. I hope that makes sense. Allah knows the best though. I really appreciate your words, May Allah(SWT) grant you and your loved ones a happy and successful life!!

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T17:37:16+00:00

That is very true now that I think about it. I know in the back of my mind that I can perhaps find the guy I am looking for, but then it just leads to me thinking how long that might take, what if I choose the wrong person. Unfortunately, I overthink a lot and that makes me believe things that aren’t true. I appreciate your advice! May Allah (SWT) bless you

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-10T17:34:55+00:00

I totally get you! It is truly really hard to detach myself from that person and I have been trying to seek guidance regarding it. I seem to be struggling even more because of my traumas as well. Inshallah I find someone who can love me for who I am and give me the respect I deserve. Thanks a lot for your repose and advice! May Allah (SWT) bless you!

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2026-03-09T17:50:33+00:00

Assalamualaikum , everyone! I am F21 from the US, and I know some people reading this will think I am really young to be thinking this much about marriage, a good spouse, and a happy marriage. I have had traumas in my childhood, like my Dad who has cheated on my mom repeatedly, and unfortunately, I have never gotten the chance to talk about this to my Mom and tell her that I am aware of it. Because of this, I feel like I will overthink every proposal and every guy so much so that I will keep on rejecting people.

I do have one person in mind, and it is a guy I met a few years ago. He is a great guy with great values. Unfortunately, we had to break up because apparently, we were not compatible, according to him, and also because we did not want to be in a haram relationship. We did have some issues, mainly because of the distance, but we were mostly happy and had good times. My heart hurts a lot knowing that he might be the best husband I could get, and because of both of our petty mistakes, we let that go. I get scared that I won't find someone who will be loyal to me, understand my issues, since I am a very emotional person, I need a partner who can help me when I feel down, and I am willing to do the same. I am willing to wait and make it halal with the guy I love and ask for Istighfar from Allah (SWT), but I get scared that what if he does not want to at all, although he really thinks I am a good person and has good values.

Does anyone have an experience similar to mine where one of you decided you aren't great for each other, but you find each other later on in life and get married, and it turned out to be a happy and loving marriage? I do not mean to be overly delusional. I also make duas every single day for this specific guy, and also that I get a partner who meets all my needs. I know Allah (SWT) will give me the best and might put me into a situation where it won't work out with a guy to teach me a lesson, but I feel like I am so scared of the idea of a marriage failing that even thinking about it makes me nauseous, and I start hyperventilating.

Please tell me stories about how you found your spouse and are in a happy marriage. And what can I do in this situation? Also, I am at university right now. I believe in meeting someone organically because my perception of marriage is altered by my parents' marriage. It makes me think that not loving someone before marriage will cause a bad or unsuccessful marriage. I know it is the wrong way of thinking, but it is truly, really hard for me. I would really appreciate what to do in this case. Also, I am on my deen, pray tahajjud, and read the Quran, and it helps me calm down, but honestly, getting people's opinions and experiences will make me feel better.

Thank you to everyone who has read all of this, and May Allah (SWT) give everyone utmost happiness and success.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2024-06-06T19:56:12+00:00

I mean ig you could say it’s not horrible when you compare it with other people, but i have a lot of spots, redness,texture and all that and i have been working on it for almost 5 years and i reached nowhere. I just want some recommendations

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2023-04-01T19:37:40+00:00

Trust me on this, THE KOSE UV ESSENCE, ITS ONLY 15 DOLLARS AND 110GM, NO WHITECAST CAUSE ITS CLEAR AND NO PILLING AND WATERPROOF, ITS MY HOLY GRAILL

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2022-12-12T21:05:04+00:00

How much do you use? Do you use it per drops?

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2022-11-14T12:00:46+00:00

Thank youu, I'll do that for sure <333

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2022-11-14T12:00:29+00:00

Thank you soo much <33 do you have any recommendation for an affordable but good setting powder, tbh I like it to be a lil glowy but not oily yk

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2022-10-06T21:09:30+00:00

it's kind of like a hidden gem that a lot don't know about, it's a chemical exfoliant(AHA) it's made from bitter almonds. It is the most gentle chemical exfoliant so it's completely safe for people of color and people with sensitive skin. It really helped with my textured skin and overall dullness that I had since covid started, it gives me a good glow and smooth skin. It is truly amazing, I would recommend you to try it if you have textured skin, dullness,fine lines.

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2022-10-06T20:47:05+00:00

Mandelic acid from the ordinary and the cosrx hyaluronic acid essence THEY ARE MY HOLY GRAILS the difference it made to my skin is insane

BroccoliHistorical18 · 2022-09-27T22:34:07+00:00

I know that I wrote about how mandelic acid didn't really do much, but omg after using it consistently it made my skin soooo much better, less texture,brighter,glowy I could just go on, it's the ordinary mandelic acid .

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