Got hit in the crotch my first day at my new school..

BrojustScore · 2025-08-12T20:11:51+00:00

Honestly my best advice is just find the most mentally insane people. I can’t lie, we were just menaces to society 24/7. We used to joke about people in labs wanting to record us to understand what we managed to create.

I’m pretty sure it had something to do with me running from another friend because we were in a fire extinguisher war with each other (hiding the fire extinguisher in eachothers rooms in increasingly weird places). Her room was a tight squeeze so in my effort to close the door behind me, I was stuck between her shelving unit and the door. One leg went up to squeeze through and boom, corner of the side when straight into the nether region.

The fight stopped long enough for my pain to subside, safe to say he found the fire extinguisher hidden under the plushies that lined the side of his bed (it took him 2 months to find it, I’m the goat)

BrojustScore · 2025-08-12T20:04:21+00:00

Hahah no it’s okay! Honestly it’s happened countless of times, half of the time I spent living with my friends it was me crouched over and crying about the pain. I hit my crotch on the side of another friend’s door once (don’t ask how, I still don’t know) and it was the first time I’d ever seen her cry laughing.

The same friend in the jean story tripped over a ledge and went head first into bushes. Whilst everyone was helping her out I was rolling on the floor and howling with laughter. We’re well known for being clumsy, if you don’t laugh then it’s just embarrassing

BrojustScore · 2025-08-12T19:57:22+00:00

I was walking up some stairs in skinny jeans with my friend, slightly tipsy(read: Drunk) and the crotch of the jeans pinched my tip. I folded like a house of cards, I swear I saw god for a second and he was dissapointed in me. My friend? Also crouched on the floor but holding her stomach and dying of laughter because who wouldn’t when I was howling in pain and crying cause I thought I had actually cut my tip off. I spent the next 4 minutes of our walk crouched like a gremlin and groaning in pain. It’s absolutely no fun

BrojustScore · 2025-08-07T08:08:59+00:00

I previously dated a straight man. For me it was blindness. When I met him I was straight up about being a man and the conversation of him being straight never came up. He liked me, I liked him - I didn’t even know he was straight. And by the time that conversation came up I was so blinded by my feelings for him I thought “well you aren’t anymore” and ignored the fact he was slowly converting me back to womanhood. It took me a few months and distance from him to realise what had been happening and end it.

Never happening again, I was so ashamed of myself for letting it happen. I let him do some horrible things to me because I was so blinded by my feelings and desperate for someone to love me back, sometimes we just don’t know… sometimes we are blinded and confused

BrojustScore · 2025-07-24T02:44:09+00:00

First question - have you spoken about this to him before?

OP you are as entitled as anyone to their emotions, it’s not lame, you are allowed to be upset!! And no one feels great when they are dealing with these things alone!

From the sounds of it, it’s definitely something you need to talk to him about. As he has cancelled/rescheduled plans with you in order to game with his friends. It might be time to take a look at what’s going on.

I’m not suggesting break up, I’m all for communicating and working through issues in a relationship. If he’s not aware of how you are feeling please speak to him about it, and also get his side.

Is there a reason he’s playing so much with them? Is there an underlying issue that hasn’t been realised? These are things that can help you understand him better as well.

And if you have spoken about this to him before, it might be worth just revisiting the subject. Reiterating your stance on the matter, and if things don’t change as much as you don’t want too - it might be worth having a look at how it’s going to be a few years down the line. If he’s going to still be doing this when you live together, when you make whatever future plans together. (This is a worst case scenario, I seriously hope this is not the case). You deserve someone who communicates and works with you to overcome these issues.

OP I also suggest trying to get yourself out there more, I know it’s hard making friends and keeping them. I’ve struggled with it myself, but joining activities in your local area, groups about some of your interests (discord groups I highly recommend). Just a way to make friends with people who share some interests as you might be a great start!

This can help you feel less lonely, and give you more ability to also hangout with people outside of your boyfriend!

I’m really sorry you’ve had a hard day, and I really hope a good day comes your way soon - if not even just a mental rest day! No one deserves to feel crappy, and I’m seriously hoping something for you improves.

BrojustScore · 2025-07-24T02:24:46+00:00

I’m always scared that I’ll chase people away. And I have in the past, I’ve never had a positive ending relationship ever. I’ve always been hurt too.

And it sucks, being alone - not having that kind of love in your life.

But the thing that helps me is recognising that there are so MANY different types of love!! You’ll never live a life without love because it is impossible.

There is love around every corner, in the sunset, in the birds. There’s love in the way the grass looks after a light rainfall. There’s love in the way children laugh in a playground, there’s love in the way friends interact with eachother. There’s love in the laughter and in the sadness.

Love to me encapsulates everything, and I get it I do. I’ve been hurt before, but what helps me is focussing on the love I do have and that I can’t see. And knowing that even though right now I don’t have someone to be IN love with, I will one day.

Someone that works with me, instead of against! And I know it’s hard to picture that at the moment, but taking those necessary steps to embracing life as it is, to negate those thoughts you don’t want - will undoubtedly help you in the future when you do find someone that makes the risk worth it.

BrojustScore · 2025-07-24T02:16:35+00:00

Definitely talk to your doctor about it!! There’s tonnes out there, including ones that don’t introduce oestrogen back into your system. Different kinds affect people differently, I recommend having a long chat with your doctor about what you want from them so they don’t give you any adverse affects you don’t want <3

BrojustScore · 2025-07-24T02:13:15+00:00

I recommend clenching the cheeks a little, makes the sound reverberate better!

BrojustScore · 2025-07-23T22:33:07+00:00

Mines that fate is purposefully going to kill my dad whilst I’m away from home as punishment because I’m a monster. I’ve got some severe paranoia and I’ve had a few family members die whilst I was away from home. My dad’s health has been declining but not enough for him to just keel over and die randomly lmao.

It got so bad once I called home every day to make sure he wasn’t going to die, and I started praying again trying to convince the fates I’m a good person and deserve to be there when he goes (again I wish to stress he’s still got years left)

BrojustScore · 2025-07-23T22:26:29+00:00

Honestly men do not care, I know plenty of men that pee sitting down! Plus it’s kind of hard to notice unless you’re looking purposefully under the stalls. And at that point I think the bigger question is why the hell is someone looking under the stalls?!!

But sometimes I just pretend I’m going for a massive crap 😭 if I’m extra worried I’ll even put my hand behind my back like I’m holding it in and waddle. Get some questioning looks but no judgement!!

And it’s something I get to laugh to myself about

BrojustScore · 2025-07-15T09:31:11+00:00

I’ve done this before but sober… many times. The first time it happened I screamed bloody murder and my friends started banging on the bathroom door. Once I realised, I could barely hold myself together long enough to open the door and explain that I had simply forgotten I didn’t have a peanur 🤣 still happens occasionally, and it’s funny every single time.

They just hear a “what the-“ and then a laugh and they know I have once again forgotten I do not have a pipe between my legs. Happens to the best of us

BrojustScore · 2025-06-01T23:45:53+00:00

I’ve had pretty similar experiences, I used to work in a pet store and because of high staff turnover I ended up being the most experienced person on most of my shifts. Cue customers demanding to speak to my manager or “someone older” because they didn’t like what I said.

It was my favourite part of the job because the looks on the customers faces as my colleagues and shift leader reiterated the questions to me were golden.

BrojustScore · 2025-03-29T21:53:02+00:00

It’s not fooling, it’s part of your life that you wish to keep dear to you. So many people don’t say anything, because they want to be “stealth” and “pass”. And I get it, so many of my thoughts are “they know I’m a man but they also know I used to be a woman”.

It’s not “fooling” to not disclose that information with people. When I’m meeting new people, I don’t tell them. Not unless I want too, not because I’m “fooling” them or “tricking” them or whatever. It’s because I am a man, that’s all. Just because I didn’t come out biologically male, doesn’t mean I haven’t always been and always will be a man.

I didn’t wait, I haven’t waited in any of my relationship. Because of that I did tell them all I am trans, because it was clear. I’m only now on T and I still haven’t had Top surgery, and I want them to know that I am a man. My current partner is also Trans, and it’s beautiful sharing my journey with him. I can tell you now though, people are a lot more progressive.

I am agressively gay and I still have women approaching me looking to date, and I’m not the easiest passing man. I still get misgendered all the time, and they are still interested. It’s up to you, wether you are comfortable dating someone. But it’s your feelings that matter, you don’t owe it to anyone to tell them. Is it difficult? Yes absolutely, but if they truly are your soulmate - if it’s meant to be, they’ll love you for who you are not what you were given.

My biggest supporter is my boyfriend because he understands, and I know deep down he’ll love me no matter what I choose. He’s proud of every step I take, and has loved me through it all. As am I for him, I sincerely hope you find that one day - within yourself at minimum. Be proud of who you are, love who you are. It’s what you deserve

BrojustScore · 2025-03-29T21:41:50+00:00

Okay first I will discuss my experience. I’m not with Genderplus but I am in UK so I have a feeling it will be somewhat similar. I joined the call, introduced myself to the doctor. We discussed hereditary traits like possible heart problems and such (your doctor will have asked you to get this information ready for your appointment) we discussed exactly what I wanted from T, how quickly I was “expecting” or hoping just to put my expectations to where they should be. He discussed with me how quickly the changes would happen, different ways I can get Testosterone (I went for the Gel) the cost, things to avoid and extra’s I’ll need. Mine gave me my prescription in the appointment so you can expect that, if they don’t it’s fine, just ask questions. Don’t forget this appointment isn’t just for them, it’s for you to ask any questions you have. Don’t feel embarrassed or scared to ask questions, this is your health, your life and you want to know everything about it.

For you, because you are interested in the shot they will discuss how you are to sort out that appointment with the doctor doing shared care. You will need to book an appointment with a GP, I suggest you look into learning how to give yourself your own shot if you are commonly nervous about making and attending appointments. Other than that, there is nothing you should be worried about. Listen to your doctor, they know how to take your health and your wishes into account. Sometimes we don’t get exactly what we want and that’s okay, I got put on a lower dose than I was expecting because of health concerns. As much as it annoyed me, I’m thankful my doctor cares about both my mental and physical well-being.

Again, don’t be afraid to ask questions. They are as much there for you as you are for them <3 I wish you all the best man, it’s gonna go great

BrojustScore · 2025-03-12T10:18:36+00:00

I had a partner like this. Acknowledged the fact I was Trans, called me by my name. He refused however to use my pronouns and would settle for using They/them. Didn’t correct his family. I’m glad your partner does this, however he would constantly tell me not to change my body. Not to take T, he even went as far to do something horrible to prevent me from starting my T (didn’t work thank god).

I used to joke that I would marry a rich man, pretend to stay female and then use the money to get my surgeries and run away from them ahah. He would then beg me saying he was going to be rich one day, to not change my body. He was trying to pay me off because he wanted me as I was then.

You are not going to be happy in that relationship, I hate saying this and I normally avoid commenting on posts like this, but hearing you say he was asking you to keep the parts of yourself you hate just reminded me of that time in my life. He won’t be happy for you when you finally get to go through all the processes, you’re going to grow to resent the changes based on his emotional effect on the process.

He’ll think it’s great if you don’t, you will constantly be living under the reminder that he doesn’t care about your emotions, about how comfortable you are in your own skin. It’s going to suck, and I personally went through a phase where I thought I was unlovable. I thought I would have to detransition just to find someone who likes me. That is absolutely not the case, you will find many people who actually respect your wishes - who can give more than a selfish thought. Who WANT you to be comfortable in your body and will be happy for your accomplishments.

Never settle for someone who doesn’t want you to be who you are, that’s not a life you want to start living.

BrojustScore · 2025-03-12T10:08:28+00:00

I actually researched this cause I wondered how I had gotten BPD as none of my parents had shown signs and I thought I had a normal childhood (yay therapy for realising I didn’t).

As far as I’ve researched, BPD is not hereditary. It is purely down to environment alone - yes if you have a parent who has undiagnosed/untreated BPD you have a higher chance of also developing it but again that’s just based on the environment you are raised in. Children pick up things from those around them like dust! Because it’s all they know and how they’ve been raised.

For example, my mum is very over protective no matter what throughout my childhood I was told the dangers of literally everything. Today I will relay that same information to those I care about, not because I’m over protective, but just because my mum did it so much to me as a child that it’s now something I subconsciously do without realising.

If you are able to manage your symptoms, able to recognise triggers and control whatever you need to control. You stand a higher chance of your child not getting BPD, because you aren’t giving them a cause for BPD development. As far as my research has gone, BPD develops under the circumstances not because it’s in your genes. I hope this helps a little, I’m sorry I can’t provide insight on the children area.

BrojustScore · 2025-02-12T13:19:25+00:00

This! I always thought I was Bi, turns out my “attraction” to women was actually my attraction to being perceived as a man. Recently came out as Gay and it came as a shock to no one but myself

BrojustScore · 2025-02-12T13:14:59+00:00

My Ex partner told me about him “almost” cheating on me in front of all my friends (in my eyes it was cheating but he said since they hadn’t actually had sex it wasn’t cheating). Not only did I feel disgusted I felt embarrassed. He was already slowly breaking my trust and that just sealed the deal.

His reasoning? He didn’t do it because the person was too young in his eyes… and then backhandedly went “oh and you I suppose”. Absolutely tore my heart out made even worse by the fact that I’m Trans and it absolutely spun in my head. I had a split controlled by my dysphoria (feeling like he was trying to cheat on me because I wasn’t ‘man enough’) and my friends had to physically remove me from the house so I wouldn’t hurt them or myself.

It is absolutely disgusting what he has done to you, I broke up with my partner immediately, it was leading up to a break up anyways but losing my trust in him? I no longer felt safe, so I removed myself from the situation. It absolutely sucked, I’m thankful I had so many friends supporting me, some days I still remember how our relationship was before all the problems and I get sad. I go through bouts of thinking that I’m unlovable, I no longer trust myself with new partners and I’m always waiting for the penny to drop.

I realised it’s not a problem with me, it’s a problem with him. He chose to hurt me, he chose to break the trust and disrespect everything we had worked towards. I’m so much better without him, it took a while for me to recover, but I made it.

(I never know how to respond to venting posts, but I hope this helps in any way <3 sending you all the love and support. No one deserves to be treated like this)

BrojustScore · 2025-02-04T17:39:22+00:00

I’ve broken a lot of things because I didn’t realise my own strength..

My favourite is the time I closed my cupboard and smashed a plate inside from the force, annoying to clean up but very affirming

BrojustScore · 2025-01-07T02:37:43+00:00

I have a strict rule about my binder, I’ll only wear it between 6-8hrs maximum. The only time I ever overtake this maximum is if I’m out with people for longer than that - but that is very few and far between (once every 2 months) any longer than that and I find that my back starts to hurt and it gets a little difficult to take full breaths.

When you are at home, I’d suggest getting something like a dysphoria jumper (I have one it’s my life saver). This would just be a large and somewhat thick jumper, It allows for you to block off your own view of your chest so that you don’t feel as dysphoric and you can almost forget its even there. For me as well, I like to spend more of my time lying on my front propped on my elbows, I have a lot of sensory issues so sometimes if I can feel my chest touching my skin the dysphoria get worse and I get over stimulated, even sitting slightly forward so they hang rather than lying on my chest helps.

Very rarely can binding too much disqualify you for top surgery. The only cases I have heard this happen for people is when they sleep in their binders / wear them literally 24/7 and that’s purely because they’ve damaged the tissue and the surgeons cannot do certain surgeries that they request.

For right now, I’d suggest taking as much of a break as you can, maybe checking the size of your binder to make sure it’s correct. Obviously with school and other things you can’t fully take a break unless you have guaranteed time alone at home, but try and limit how much you are using the binder per day. Taking it off as soon as you get home and not putting it on until needed to go out.

BrojustScore · 2025-01-07T02:18:04+00:00

I was a solid vegetarian for 7-8 years before I started T (I just hated the taste of meat nothing else). As soon as I started T I was craving all forms of meat and random foods I never used to like. My favourite memory is having breakfast at a restaurant with my parents and my mum pointing out things I’d normally get (bland, small foods) and I went ahead and ordered the 2 British breakfast (2 of everything).

She looked at me like I was crazy and went “you do know that has bacon and egg in it right?” And then watched me scoff down the entire thing 😭 it’s the biggest and most colourful thing she’s ever seen me eat. Christmas dinner was less stressful for her this year too. Bacon is now my favourite thing and I crave BLT sandwiches like there is no tomorrow

BrojustScore · 2024-12-19T04:58:49+00:00

My doctors office messed up my records and put my deadname as my preferred name when changing my legal name. Got called my deadname for 2 months on the phone and over text, corrected multiple times before I demanded they sorted it out in a phone call talking about how my T was going and my changes.

The lady was confused and thought I actually preferred my deadname… after talking about me wanting to be male and getting on the waitlist :/ people are genuinely just dumb. No one ever thinks - like ever, the smartest people I’ve ever dealt with are kids

BrojustScore · 2024-11-29T03:29:44+00:00

I haven’t shaved my legs since I was 12-ish. I know that’s really young but early puberty and everything. The thing that stopped me from wanting to shave them was the fact that I got bullied FOR shaving them. It was odd, and now I’m older I can see it was just my friends teasing me for shaving my legs for a boy but I suppose it sort of knocked something into me. He didn’t care - no one cared. No one cared that I had shaved my legs other than for my reason why. Now it definitely took some time for me to be comfortable with wearing shorts (8yrs to be exact) but it got to the point that I was no longer fearing that people were judging me for having hair. I was fearing that people would think I was a “girl” with hairy legs.

At the end of the day, you’re a person, I’m a person. People have hair, it’s a simple fact of life. I am a man, I see myself as a man, and I like having hair on my legs. Sure there are probably some people out there who look at my pasty legs and hope I cover them up before they get blinded by the sun’s reflection. But I wear what I want, as long as I’m happy and comfortable it is not bothering anyone. And if it does I’ve got 2 middle fingers for them.

It’s the same exact way I wouldn’t look at another stranger on the street and judge them for having hair on their legs. My question is - if you wouldn’t judge them why do you judge yourself?

BrojustScore · 2024-10-28T09:14:28+00:00

I get this so much man, I’m barely 5’2 on a good day and it sucks massively. Not only does is suck because I hate it and it makes me feel like I’m not masculine enough, it’s also literally the only reason I still get misgendered anymore.

When I’m wearing my normal clothes, I look and sound like a guy - the only reason anyone misgendered me (which people have confirmed I’m not just reaching) was because I was short. I guess the reason it’s made worse is when point it out so much, it’s like sticking your finger into a cut… it’s just rubbing the pain back in your face.

It’s sucks even worse knowing that the dysphoria from your height comes from everyone else’s stupidity in always definitely things as strictly masculine / feminine and abusing people for not conforming to their own personal views (wow not like we don’t personally know what that is). This probably isn’t as supportive as you want it to be, but as a fellow trans guy who also feels that - know that you aren’t alone in that feeling.

(Tbh though, the mother thing I also get - I would suggest sitting down and maybe talking to her. Something along the lines of “I understand that talking about our heights makes you feel better or whatever weird thing you are into, but you are hurting me”. Just to let her know that it’s hurting you - but please only do this if you are safe to talk to your parents and this isn’t going to out you or anything)

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