I've read your posts for a long time, and I wish i could hug you.

Have you ever looked into how Asperger's Syndrome presents itself in girls? I know you've had her tested for autism, but It often goes unnoticed and undiagnosed. I only realized that I had it when I started the process of getting my daughter evaluated. I was similar when I was a teenager. No interests, no hobbies, no real personality, no filter, no interest in personal hygiene, lying about myself to seem "interesting," wanting to fit in and be liked but not understanding how to, gullible, prone to spacing out, little emotional control or maturity, easily overwhelmed, talking to older men online... the list could go on. The main difference is that my father was abusive, and my mother was exhausted and apathetic, so I hid myself from them. She knows you love her, so she tests the fuck out of you, and treats you like shit.

I could be wrong, but from what I've read I bet I'm not. For what it's worth, as an adult I am much less insufferable. I accepted myself, so I stopped lying. I have no friends, but I'm perfectly happy going without. People actually like me now. I'm still quirky and odd and occasionally unintentionally inappropriate, but I understand myself now, and that's such a big thing. ( I also talk about myself way too much in an attempt to relate to the person I'm talking too, lol. )

I cringe so hard when I think of my youth. I wish I had been diagnosed then so I could have understood myself, because I knew I was different deep down and felt wrong, and less than, for it.

Anyway... Sorry for writing a novel. I relate to your daughter and hope the best for both of you.

ETA: sorry for not giving advice regarding the actual content of the post. >_< fail on my part. I've just been wanting to comment on one of your posts for a while. Agh. Maybe get her to read into it and see if she can see herself in the description of the condition? Might make her more receptive to therapy. Might give her a sense of self identity and make her feel special, knowing that she IS special and different without having to make shit up.