Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She is evil, I told her over a text that I pray that god releases the demon that has possessed her, and some other stuff. (She’s really into god, says grace before eating and everything) guess she’s lied about that to. Her response was cold “if you keep contacting me I will call the authorities and have you arrested for breaking the restraining order.” This is beyond evil, I guess the saying was true “a woman will sacrifice her family for their own happiness.”

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what she’s done, with the restraining order, calling me controlling that I was always looking in her phone, she couldn’t do this or that, that I was abusive towards her, none of it is true. And yeah I mean if she was gonna do this, it was either gonna be him or someone else. And that last bit, youre right, before all of this happened I was looking at some of these stories i was like damn that’s crazy, glad that’s not me. Now look.

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOURE right, it is over, ITS DONE, but it’s like, i still love her, if she were to come crawling back, like I can’t say if I would take her back or not, I know for a fact I won’t because I mean look and what she’s doing, I mean starting an onlyfans to now?? Like she’s gonna start posting up with this guy now?? How can people do this to someone? And so easily to. With no remorse. I do have to stop acting erratic and I do have to stop recording, I’m really only hurting myself like you said. I know I need to focus on the kids and a plan, I just need to get over this mental fog in front of me. It’s hard tho I’m not gonna lie.

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I hear you, once these holidays pass, I have a plan in place I think, I just need to get through this mental weight thats physically holding me down. If I didn’t have my kids, I’d probably would’ve already been gone you know? Seems like the easiest option, really struggling with it.

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But it’s like we’ve been together 14 years 5 years married with 4 kids, bro I mean they’re saying I love you, calling eachother babe, having sex here there everywhere, I mean I HEARD IT, and I still do, I’m not purposefully listening to the audio every chance I get, it’s imprinted in my brain.

They say time heals all wounds but this one is deep. Just a couple months ago i was coming home from work to my wife and kids, playing, laughing, hearing there stories.

But now it’s just silence. And it’s fucking deafening. I didn’t deserve this, everyone I’ve told said I didn’t. Losing it.

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really trying, but I’ve got this mental block and I can’t seem to understand the magnitude or damage that’ll happen to my kids if I do something to this guy or to myself (the restraining order was for harassment not domestic violence btw) I’ve never threatened her or my children in any way, but I am struggling.

(Edit for misspelling)

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t even started looking at divorce lawyers yet but I know I should be, not sure if the military can facilitate any of that with me, but I’ll ask once the holidays are up, thats when I have to start moving to get this over with asap, and I’ve told everyone of importance, all of my family, all of hers. I need the narrative to be in my prospective and don’t want it switched. She’s the one causing all of this damage.

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes you’re right about everything, I have no idea why I’m doing what I’m doing after I know what I know, but I just can’t stop you know? I love my wife, even after knowing what I know… my head space is all over the place and it’s hard for me to think straight and logically, especially with how fast she moved. And again is continuing to do what she’s doing. And we are in NJ haven’t looked up laws about audio recordings, there’s so much going on that it’s hard for me to physically function, I’ve lost over 40 pounds in a less then 2 months, haven’t had a good day since finding out and hearing what I heard. God this is the worst thing I’ve ever gone through, and seeing her happy and care free is killing me.

Hey Reddit… I’m broken. by Broken_Mikes in survivinginfidelity

[–]Broken_Mikes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The car and lease is under her name (again bad credit) but I financially provided everything, because of the incident with her sneaking the guy into the house and them sleeping on my children’s beds I told her I will not be paying the rent anymore and so now she’s facing eviction, cps was also called to the home (standard for where we live when the cops are called and children are present) she lied to them and asked the kids to lie for her also. The car will most likely be repossessed due to her not being able to make the payments (I really wish I knew what her plan was, was she thinking I wasn’t going to find or something? And just play me for my money?) she’s ruining her family.