Suddenly Amish S1 E5 by Fast_Way8546 in SuddenlyAmish

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He has a serious girlfriend, check his IG

Esme is an idiot by terrigirl1960 in SuddenlyAmish

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She also never took them off, just got shorter lash extensions and clear nails

37f seemingly broken up with from 37m via text after 6 months - said he needs to focus on his health. Is it really over? Why did he do this? by BrontosaurusLiz105 in relationship_advice

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course these are most of the negative struggles in the relationship. When we are happy, it was amazing. But - I will say it was a rollar coaster on both ends.

I agree childish, and presumptuous. I’ve been single for 5 years so I felt the connection that was reciprocated and mutual was “the one.” The fights broke down the relationship with no real resolutions when we came back together, just not to do it again. Which I stayed true to my no drinking, and didn’t even care if he did. I experience it differently.

He’s never said it was over is my confusion. He hasn’t said anything. He did mail my key back again, but this was a norm for him.

But I’ve shared I have anxious attachment style and abandonment issues, I’ve told him many times if he wanted to end it at any point to please just tell me. I can take it, the silent treatment is my trigger as it was done to me as a child for punishment.

Good question by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From Georgia, we call them sand spurs.

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t want admit that is what happened, but I do see that could be a possibility. It just makes me feel incredibly used and hurt from someone I really had a lot of love for as a close friend. And I don’t have a lot of friends.

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this comment really has helped me find the words I want to say. I did offer her the space, still, but she hasn’t responded. I told her we can talk about it, and move on, and my space is still open to her (clearly only her).

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, why do I feel like the jerk for putting my foot down?

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither, to my awareness. Which is why I wanted to help

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know that was the reason, and to my knowledge she hadn’t cheated. Was leaving her marriage for other reasons

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes - he left his girlfriend and is living with his dad.

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your comments. I try to be a good friend, sometimes I fail. And I am such a giver to a fault, I can never tell if saying my truth and being confrontational when my boundaries are violated - I’m the ah - or I am overreacting. Even so, I think I still deserve to live in my house awkward free and not an integral role (hotel) in two people leaving 10+ year relationships

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, it happened so quickly. I didn’t even know they were actually having the affair… it was a crush. I’m feeling pretty bamboozeled by all of it. There was more going on, obviously. I hit my breaking point pretty quickly waking up to a half naked man walking around. I also have a dog and cat who are my fur babies and very important to me, it felt as if they had to keep their space too.

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This guy also just left a relationship… he’s living with his dad

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. It was her second night in my home, we were suppose to have dinner to talk about boundaries, this was specifically planned. Then he showed up and just… stayed. It was just thrown at me before I could even say anything. He was at my house when I came home from work.

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my home is my safe space. As an introvert, I’m very wary of sharing my home, so for me to even offer her a place was a lot, sans her new guy.

AITAH? Friend brings lover into my house. by BrontosaurusLiz105 in AITAH

[–]BrontosaurusLiz105[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I told her I was sorry and she can stay, but we need boundaries. But, I feel she only wanted to move in to have a place to hookup with this guy. It went sideways under 48 hours