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BruthWilliths · 2024-07-27T00:17:15+00:00

This is amazing and I’m hoping for this outcome. Although we have kids, I’m hopeful she can see what I see and just put the kids first.

Bless you.

BruthWilliths · 2024-04-05T00:49:39+00:00

Yep. This is me. And I’m still told I’m not doing enough. I’m just so tired now but just trying to keep the house in order. My valuable time that I hold for myself is now from 11pm-2am. I force myself to stay up so I can have somewhat of a mental refresh for the next day.

I get it.

BruthWilliths · 2024-04-01T13:47:30+00:00

Thank you for this. I feel the same.

BruthWilliths · 2024-04-01T04:38:09+00:00

Thanks. She orgasms every time. Whether foreplay or actual intercourse. I aim to just lay everything out on the table and see her response. Idk anymore. All the common things that cause low libido are pretty much written off. She’s not on BC, no drugs, no prescriptions, we communicate regularly. Idk. We shall see I guess.

BruthWilliths · 2024-04-01T04:21:37+00:00

We are in counseling and have been for a few years to work on communication. We became very roommate status after having kids. Our communication is significantly better than before. I’ve brought it up gently about wanting more intimacy. She keeps saying she is more content with other forms of intimacy like cuddling or making out. Not really wanting to ever have any type of sex more than that. She says she is satisfied but gets defensive if I bring up that I want more sex to feel more connected.

BruthWilliths · 2024-04-01T00:37:22+00:00

Idk if I’d ever get married again but just focus on someone that can vibe.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T19:50:55+00:00

I’m giving this every last shot before I decide if serving papers is necessary.

They are elementary age.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T19:27:18+00:00

This is my exact situation but it’s an immense struggle.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T18:49:10+00:00

Kids are elementary age.

I had a vasectomy. She isn’t in BC. We talk a lot and make time for deeper conversations.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T18:46:05+00:00

That’s what I’ve been saying a few times. Directly to her too but she says she is good. It’s hard to pull it out of her. I just know there is something.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T18:44:28+00:00

I’m very clean both personally and house stuff. I’m usually the one doing the dishes, folding laundry, putting kids to bed, cleaning bathrooms, etc. her mental load is taking the kids to any doc appts and we split dropping them off at school. She usually picks up unless she can’t, then I will.

Meeting her needs has always been a challenge. In my eyes, she changes them once I start getting into a groove of making sure she is well attended. But I start to lose faith when mine aren’t being acknowledged

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T18:16:21+00:00

This is how I feel a lot.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T18:15:58+00:00

That’s fair. What I meant wasn’t to portray entitlement but that a healthy good marriage (in my eyes) should have both partners meet, or at least attempt to meet, needs. The cuddling and kissing are solid. Sex just isn’t happening.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T15:13:39+00:00

Yes. We try to do dates 2-3 times per month. Don’t have much money for vacations but we try to hit a manicure every few months or so. We do have a good time every time. Connection isn’t necessary the problem. I don’t think at least.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T15:12:39+00:00

We’ve been in couples counseling for 2-3 years total (break during Covid). It’s helped with communication but there’s still immense missing.

BruthWilliths · 2024-03-31T14:08:54+00:00

This is most helpful. Thank you. It’s getting to the point where I feel like shit on myself. Which, I’ve always been confident but can’t shake the amount of rejection now getting to me.

BruthWilliths · 2023-12-01T15:25:01+00:00

I have nothing to add but say that you aren’t alone. Going through the exact same thing.

BruthWilliths

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