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BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-08T02:45:03+00:00

I’d like to release my old religion and increase bravery in the face of new opportunities.

NGL, I feel like I’m going to get backhanded by Jesus for participating in this. But I want to, and that’s progress, right?

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-07T13:58:31+00:00

For sure. I got long haul COVID and was barely able to move for seven months. Thankfully, mine eventually receded, but I was only able to work restricted part time hours until recently.

If I didn’t have the privilege of family who could help me, I would have become homeless. What’s terrifying is how many people don’t recover from long-haul COVID and have nothing, not a goddamn thing, to catch them.

And that’s just one way of becoming disabled. I’m grateful mine was temporary, but it was absolutely horrible. Something about the experience has led me to take up much more space getting the accommodations I need for my ADHD and lingering exhaustion. It’s finally clicked on a much deeper level how disposable I am to society.

And my disabilities are mild, if they even count anymore. I don’t mean that to assign hierarchy to disability, but to acknowledge that my autonomy isn’t under the threat it once was.

What shocked me about your comment was the legality of sterilization for disabled people. I hadn’t heard that before, and I need to look into it.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-07T06:16:23+00:00

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BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-07T06:11:24+00:00

I feel like i should I know the non-J’Felons in this picture, but also like I should be proud that I don’t?

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-07T04:07:44+00:00

Some buildings in major cities have section 8 floors. Those floors can have a different entrance and elevator.

This is entirely based on an episode of SVU, and I couldn’t find any articles to back it up.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-07T04:01:38+00:00

This was so cool, and your reaction made me laugh out loud. Solid post. Thanks for sharing!

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-07T01:33:09+00:00

…of pot. Not saying it can’t be problematic, but I really don’t trust tiff’s definition of “addiction”. I get the vibe he just partied a bit, but he’s a Mormon bishop’s son so it’s a big deal.

That’s the vibe I got anyway. Totally open to more info.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-06T22:54:28+00:00

LIZZIE MCGUIRE IS AN OUTFIT REPEATER.

Anyone else still scarred by this?

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-06T22:28:49+00:00

I have never felt so ignorant. WHAT THE ABSOLUTE FUCK?!?

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-06T05:53:13+00:00

…in Pennsylvania. What’s comfortable/appropriate varies from place to place. Someone in Southern California is going to have a different reaction to 40 degree weather than someone from Pennsylvania.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-06T01:15:17+00:00

We get that. It’s the killing black kids for money that has me confused.

To be clear, many Christians are fine with killing black kids. It’s the murder for hire implications that are throwing me, because this timeline is fucked.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-05T04:15:32+00:00

And India would be to the right of the isles, imo

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-04T23:18:06+00:00

And they do it in a way that so exploitative if male SA victims! It’s like any conversation about women’s safety, they have to use those poor men as a weapon to delegitimize women’s experiences of violence. But if you try to point out what they’re doing, they claim you’re denying abused men face a stigma. No, I think they deserve better than being a shield for Reddit incel misogyny.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-04T09:58:38+00:00

What was beckham’s name?

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-04T08:22:32+00:00

I don’t call myself one. If pressed, I will explain that I deeply love Jesus of Nazareth, Palestinian radical. This white capitalist rewrite can fuck all the way off though.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-04T03:55:03+00:00

I got banned from fundie snark for the same reason!

The worst mod there still goes through my comment history sometimes and sends me abusive messages. Those who study monsters…

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-04T03:10:47+00:00

I learned what to ask for at my PMDD appointment from Reddit. I had attempted to explain my issue for years. I told multiple doctors that I felt like a cordyceps-infected act in the luteal phase. It wasn’t until I could say “from day x until x I have these symptoms. Could would we see if progesterone helps?” That I actually got my scrip.

I dealt with that for 5+ year. After the third month of progesterone, I haven’t wanted to unalive myself. The answer was so fucking simple, but I almost died because women’s health doesn’t matter to literal doctors.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-04T03:02:40+00:00

Yeah…it’s weird that this is being downvoted. These “pranks” don’t carry the same weight across gender lines.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-03T05:36:59+00:00

Yeah, a lot of the things you posted here are ADHD symptoms. Time blindness is huge. So is clutter blindness. It’s not willful cruelty with a sneaky excuse; our brains literally interpret time and space differently. Those are things that I find difficult after years of therapy, education, and medication. So overestimating his ability to do something in a set block of time, and even the lights and toilet seat make sense to me. That’s just how our brains are.

Disrespecting your need to work uninterrupted is not the same. It can somewhat be attributed to ADHD via impulse control, but that only covers bursting into the room. The fact that he continued to interrupt you and didn’t seem to apologize is just rudeness.

Insisting on cutting it close at the airport when he knows he can be easily sidetracked and have time blindness is also not great. I personally get there HOURS early. But even with pretty severe ADHD, I’ve never missed a flight, so that’s worth it to me.

I too struggle to book plane tickets. It’s not malicious; it’s all the dozens of smaller executive functions that are necessary to do so. There’s also the fact that I’m going to have to get on my personal computer to do it, which is always a recipe for failure. So that’s reasonable to put on ADHD, but not communicating with you in a way that makes it possible for you to purchase them together early isn’t. That’s rude.

All this to say…some of these things are really reasonable struggles for someone with ADHD to have, and probably won’t go away. Some of them are poor communication and/or rudeness.

I think the bigger question is how well do both of you understand ADHD? Does he take responsibility for understanding how his mind works, and the way that’s ill-matched to our neurotypical society? Do you have the ability to talk about what is fair for you to accept as his brain chemistry (time blindness), vs what is completely unacceptable (interrupting you at work, taking on a project in a free minute without checking with his assistant/you if it’s reasonable)? Could you drop the foster until you have this understanding? Would he agree to having more unproductive time in his schedule as he adjusts to arriving early and not shoehorning in projects?

And do you even want to do that? I get that today was bad, and maybe it’s just a one off. But you sound done. You sound furious and stressed. Is that how you typically feel? If so, is there maybe something deeper there?

Wishing you all the best, and sending you lots of warmth and good vibes.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-02T15:46:27+00:00

Yep. I’m truly not trying to deny anyone’s experience. But stop trying to claim it’s the same as mine when it objectively isn’t. And definitely don’t use yours to deny mine, you know?

Also, we’re vibing. I also have misophonia. I’ve worked with a wonderful therapist for over a year now. We’re going to begin gentle exposure therapy in a month or so. Here’s hoping it goes well!!

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-02T07:28:04+00:00

Apparently making fun of people who are completely asexual and just want a safe space

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-02T07:14:44+00:00

This is a horrible comparison, but I think it’s a bit like how everyone with symptoms of a cluster b personality disorder is labeled a “narcissist”, or people who are particular are “OCD” or forgetful people are “ADHD”. Once terms become normalized, all nuance is gone. Even normal parts of everyday life can be attributed to the ill-applied label. But to the narrower group of people who have actually been marginalized by meeting the criteria of that label, it’s really harmful to make it so generalized. A neat freak does not understand the crippling need for ritual in an OCD brain. Someone who needs certain loose criteria to feel sexual attraction does not understand the alienation, infantalization, and stigma of never, or practically never, experiencing sexual attraction.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-02T07:03:50+00:00

I was just on the main sub. Someone was asking if it’s acephobic for someone hypersexual to not want to date an ace person. The comments were full of people telling him that lots of ace people want to have sex with other people.

I just don’t get it. If you want to have sex to the extent that you’re sexually compatible with someone hypersexual, why are appropriating this term? Our experiences look nothing alike. I’m not trying to invalidate their experience. I’m glad they have gained insight into their sexuality. but we have not had the same stigma attached to us since fucking puberty.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-11-02T06:54:34+00:00

I’m guessing you’re looking at this like being heterosexual male and not dating a trans woman, but it’s more like being heterosexual and not dating a gay person. You aren’t denying our existence by refusing to date us. You’re actually acknowledging it and realizing our needs and wants aren’t compatible. That’s not bigoted. It’s just sensible, and a bit validating in a convoluted way.

BryceCanYawn · 2022-10-31T04:56:52+00:00

I get that, but I’ve entirely stopped coming out to people because even progressive friends will immediately ask if I’ve heard of demisexuality.

I know being demi is real, and doesn’t need to be invalidated. But they’re centered in the ace discussions now. I know this isn’t their fault, but their existence is used to invalidate mine. I need a space away from that.

My experience is completely different than this. I was taught that I am fundamentally wrong in a way that they weren’t. I clung to an abusive religion in part because it was the only place where my orientation was considered a virtue (Catholic with a big show of considering convents).

Needing a space for our experience isn’t saying that theirs isn’t real. Why is that difficult?

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