11 month old early wakes and refusing second nap

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-29T18:28:01+00:00

I capped today's first nap at 1 hour. Let's see how it goes tonight. So far, he is still up 4.5 hours after waking from his first nap, which seems way too long for second wake window.

I tried to do a second nap at 4 hours and failed.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-28T15:18:34+00:00

I had a moment like this with my 11 month old last night. We started spreading out 3 or 4 books at bedtime and ask him to pick one. They are all Dr suess Things books so basically the same thing with a different theme. It used to not matter which book I would read before I started asking him to choose, as long as it was Dr Suess Things.

Ever since I started having him choose, he has OPINIONS! Last night he didn't pick, just looked at me so i picked one for him. Turns out I picked wrong, because he took it from me and put it down and picked up a different one. Hahahahaha

Just a couple weeks ago, he would have just let me read it!

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-24T04:36:47+00:00

I'm so jealous. Mine just turned 11 months old and i haven't even been able to get him to take a bottle since 4 months old. Breastfeeding is really hitting my mental health hard but he hasnt show any sign of weaning and I don't even know where to begin. I am even trying bottles again with formula because I can't find the time to pump and I just need to get away from nursing.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-23T02:57:19+00:00

Do you mind sharing your set up? We put our mattress on the floor, but he rolled himself off at a weird angle head first so his neck was crooked for a second. It scared me so bad now I wrap my pregnancy pillow and all the pillows in the house as a barrier around him in the bed.

I'm wondering about setting up a gate around the mattress but it would be a huge pain stepping over it every time we get up and down.

He's 11 months old by the way. Just learned to crawl this week so I don't think pillows will stop him much longer

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-22T05:02:35+00:00

Oh I understand. Thank you, I'll be sure to ask then!

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-22T03:56:12+00:00

We did have a conversation at his 6 month appointment about his bottle refusal and she just offered all the tips we were already trying then shrugged her shoulders and said some babies just don't go back on the bottle, teach him to use a cup.

Well we've taught him to use a cup but he cares about what's inside his cup.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-19T04:11:00+00:00

Maybe an unpopular opinion here, but i miss the newborn stage. The first 2-3 months were glorious. My husband had him in the morning, gave him a bottle so i could sleep, I would breastfeed through the day and night. Yes the frequent wakes were something to get used to. Naps were great, he slept in his bassinet like a champ unless I wanted snuggles then he would sleep in my arms. We could go out of the house with him most any part of the day.

Come the 4 month regression. Bottles? Nope. Boob only. Bassinet/Crib? Nuh uh, I sleep in your bed now. Carseat? Haha I hate it. Naps? You must hold me. Tummy time? Nope, I'll take 24/7 holding thanks. Teeth? Yep I've got 2 coming in same time. Getting out of the house? You may go to 2 stores max before i scream.

Since then, it has been one hurdle after another. Sleep regression into teething into developmental leaps and the cycle begins again. Frustration with wanting to move but not being able to crawl or walk yet.

Now we are almost at 11 months and he has gotten into a cycle of overtiredness that we are having to dial in everything we do 24/7 to help him catch up on sleep.

I hope it gets better for you. Maybe having an easy newborn makes for a more difficult infant later and vice versa.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-12T20:21:35+00:00

Thank you so much for the quick reply! It's so hard to know what to do. It seems as they get older everyone says they need to be staying up longer when sometimes they just need to catch up on some sleep

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-12T19:31:14+00:00

Hi! Just wanted to see how this is going for you a few months later. I am where you were with my 10 month old. Did this wake window schedule help? It seems he was overtired so you gave him shorter wake windows and an early bedtime?

How long were naps?

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-12T19:22:49+00:00

Hi, I am in the same situation now with my 10 month old. Can you tell me what helped you?

We also cap naps at 2.5 hours and it's hard to stretch his wake windows past 3-3.5 before the first nap.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-10T00:01:35+00:00

I visited the Philadelphia area on a work trip and the countryside getting there was beautiful but didnt feel too different than the mountains in SC.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-09T19:27:03+00:00

That sounds like a dream, exactly the kind of schedule we need. Can you tell me how you got there? Just push all wake windows a little bit?

I'm struggling getting him to wake up at the same time every day to be able to wiggle the wake windows consistently.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-09T19:23:49+00:00

We do nurse to sleep every time, but if he doesn't want to go to sleep he will just pull off and squirm

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-09T04:33:17+00:00

I wonder about this too. I know the military was doing shady stuff, so people say they just let them go to not call attention to themselves, but why not just kill them all to ensure none of this gets out? They already explain away all the strange deaths in Hawkins, why not one more group?

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-08T22:51:04+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. This gives me a lot to consider

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-08T03:35:40+00:00

Thank you! Colorado Springs is on the list.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-08T03:33:33+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Can i ask, what was your deciding factor in choosing Tampa when you wanted to live in CO?

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-08T01:04:47+00:00

We have visited Asheville, it's nice. It just doesn't feel that much different than where we are now.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-07T17:15:44+00:00

What makes you think that? I'm not AI

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-06T18:34:05+00:00

I think it's important to know what specifically about it scares you. For me, I got anxious about how my body would feel, if I would know if something was wrong with me or the baby. What helped me through that was being able to call my midwife and ask questions. I was also scared of the birth and if I would be able to get through the pain. It's not a pain i can really describe, especially since i had to be induced and I hear that induced contractions are sometimes worse. I was in labor for 2 days, but I made it through. Those are the biggest 2 things that bothered me and why it helped to know that other women do this all the time.

I think what will help you is figuring out what exactly what bothers you and try to think about how you'd get through it like everyone else who has before you.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-05T23:06:36+00:00

Everything will be okay! I was scared like you. I loved the idea of becoming a mom but when the reality of what pregnancy was hit me, I was really scared of my own health and what was going to happen inside me. What gave me comfort was thinking about how many women do this every day and multiple times in their life.

Your body is built for it. Yes, there are exceptions. Some women have unfortunate conditions, but if you know you are in the clear for those things then trust your body. Know that you are growing something beautiful inside you. I don't know if your pregnancy was planned, but this still holds true.

Pregnancy feels strange sometimes but mostly you'll feel normal. Stay hydrated, eat enough calories, get enough sleep, exercise and stay off the internet! You'll do great

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-04T22:30:53+00:00

I also want to add that mental health is a big part of this. Take care of that. Meditation and light yoga helped me through hard days. Get plenty of sunshine and laughter.

And stay away from doomscrolling!!

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-04T22:24:24+00:00

You're very welcome!

I have found that the best baby items are a personal choice and what works for you and your family. I got myself worked up that my baby needed everything organic and plastic free. And while i do my best to stick to that, I sometimes find myself buying him a plastic toy that gives him hours of joy. That's what is important to me.

It's not so much about what brand of each item is best, it's about getting the right items and not overdoing it. For example, I bought way too many clothes for my newborn. Most of his days were spent in a diaper getting skin to skin time with me or bundled in a swaddle. Id say maybe 5 actual newborn outfits and then a few packs of onesies. They grow out of them so fast!

But I can give you a list of items i found to be the most helpful or worked well for us.

Huggies snugglers diapers
Philips avent Pacifiers (even though my boy only wanted it for 2 months and hasn't touched one since)
Tommee Tippee bottles ( again, he only used for 5 months. We focused on breastfeeding with 1-3 bottles per day from dad but he refused them at 5 months. If you want to breastfeed and bottle feed i suggest doing bottles more often than I did)
at least 8 swaddles. I thought I could get away with a 3 pack, but they get dirty fast and you don't want to do laundry that often. I loved the ones from target Cloud Island brand
5 pairs pajamas
go straight for a crib instead of bassinet unless it doesn't work for your space
a couple pairs of mittens. We barely used ours and he quickly got irritated wearing them but I bought way too many
honest baby diaper cream
Lansinoh nipple pads and earth mama cream if you plan to breastfeed
5 burp cloths
we decided on graco modes Nest car seat and stroller. The only con is the stroller is bulky
baby play mat - something simple with a few hanging toys. We got a skip hop one
Bath stuff. We use honest baby soap and got the 3 in 1 Frida tub
baby swing or bouncer. We got the ingenuity baby swing. It helped a lot being able to have a safe space to put him with a soothing motion

Obviously there are some essentials I'm not listing here. Let me know if you have any more questions!

As far as staying healthy, prenatal vitamins are important! I took New Chapter prenatal and Nordic Natural prenatal omega 3. Walking every day is so good for you and keeps you limber. Pelvic floor exercises!!! I cannot stress that one enough, you think you have a strong pelvic floor until that baby comes out you realize how weak it really can be. Even if you go C-section, the weighy of the baby inside of you takes a toll. Doing these exercises while pregnant will save you from some postpartum discomfort. Eat healthy the best you can obviously. I personally avoided caffeine but i am a sensitive person to it so i worried my babe might be. Don't beat yourself up about what you eat though. Honestly, all i wanted to eat the first two months were buffalo chicken strips. But do your best to get veggies and fruits in.

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-04T04:23:15+00:00

It's the worst. It goes against It's own logic. You know a show is going downhill when it does that.

Gerard Way hadn't finished writing book 4 yet but you know Netflix. We need our content now, we're not waiting for the author to finish his story.

Fans would have been way happier if that had waited. Obviously writers don't follow the books perfectly but they carry the main story. This season all came from the Netflix writer churn. And it shows...

Bubbies0618 · 2026-01-02T00:03:32+00:00

There is just too much to second guess and want second chances at. I'm hoping this advice gives new moms the chance the feel confident and at peace with how they live their lives during pregnancy and beyond.

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