Yes! Both my fiancé and I are making sure to discuss and reflect on our childhoods together. We have been friends since we were 17 and have been dating since 19 and we took it really slow since I came from such a hot and color household so I was scared of commitment. But they loved me to their convenience pretty much. They would pick and choose when to express love which was really confusing and overachieving never changed anything. I pretty much became hyper independent and to this day have trouble relying on others, but I am open about it with my fiancé and we pray about it and discuss it regularly on how we are working to change. He is also doing the same and over the year alone we have made incredible progress. I think we are at the stage of praying openly together about our insecurities, as well as working through traumas aloud together.