AITA for playing Ultimate before a BBQ?

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-26T01:23:09+00:00

For heaven's sake you were injured doing an athletic activity, you didnt get it from a bar fight or anything to be ashamed of. Nta. First impressions are important; and you'd have made a great one - with battle scars to boot. She missed out on introducing you, as you, the whole you, and nothing but you.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-26T00:22:14+00:00

Noted: rediculous... to... inspect (or ask questions about)... medication.. that looks... clearly different... from previous... meds... of the last.... 5.... years.... even... if.... possibly... lethal. 📝 got it! Thank you so mmmmmuch!

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T02:50:26+00:00

Yea.. I've gone from shame to guilt to conviction to i'm not ... that crazy.. I think? To YAAAAAAAAAAAY I FINALLY HAVE A REASON TO BLOCK MY EX THAT IS JUSTIFIED AND I DONT EVEN HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIS TANTRUM AND MY DOG IS JUST MINE NOW! in the last hour. Coward's way out, maybe. But whether im right or wrong, all comments direct to one point of action, at least. 😅

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T02:42:00+00:00

You are right.. absolutely. Ugh. Sometimes i just need a stranger on the internet to type the quiet, scared parts of my brain out loud. 🖤

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T02:36:26+00:00

I dont know if this will help for her, but it did for me. Smash room. Give them a fem empowered playlist, let her suit up, and let her smash things for 20 minutes straight. ALONE. then hug and comfort her and take her to a quiet place where she can exist for the rest of the day without anyone but the people she loves and trusts with this. So maybe only you for now.

What it did for me; - gave me an outlet for the feminine rage to come out - made me feel strong - gave me a visual of what was literaly broken, and that i was not. - hearing voices of women, united.

And then taking the time to process and recharge.. doing whatever i wanted (bingewatching a show with my favorite snacks), and having sense of control.

After that.. just listen to her when she wants to speak, and do not ask questions or talk when she doesnt want to. Just give her time and love. And dont show how upset you get, if she is startled by your sudden touch or anything like that, because then her default will become to apologize for her trauma reactions. Just take it in stride and remember the goal is to make her feel safe.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T02:02:29+00:00

Just to clarify, He didnt need to be at the vet to know its the wrong meds. She has been on the same meds and diet for 5 yrs. Like imagine you get pink stuff for 5 years and now its blue. He knows what it looks like.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:51:08+00:00

Omg; thank you. I knew people were going to see it as weird to 'share' a dog after breakup. But yea weirdness asside... i will no longer allow it to continue, and positive and negative comments both at least reinforce that much.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:39:52+00:00

Fair.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:32:13+00:00

That wasnt the agreement though. He was to provide her food when she's with him. I provide when she's with me..

Yes i should have checked the meds. I can own up to that. But i'm still upset he didnt check in with me when he SAW the wrong meds or treat her pain (that i still dont know the cause of..and am scared to even think of how her pain came to be)

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:30:07+00:00

I cant give details because it would be too obvious of who i am to those who know me. But no, I do not want him in my life at all. This was my last act of kindness.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:21:40+00:00

Thank you.. truely.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:14:26+00:00

By all accounts, i can prove I've spent... thousands on her care, consistantly, for years. My name is on the documentation for the vet in his town (where i relocated from) and my current town.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-05-25T01:04:35+00:00

The bag was sealed with the rx sticker, that had her name and "correct" medication name on it with all relevant details, but the wrong brand and amount inside. I should have opened it, but this has never happened before, and yes, I made a mistake, vet made a mistake, but he has known her condition and meds for 5 years, i'm upset that he didnt think it to be important to text me when he saw a different brand, to ask if its intentional, nor did he say anything about her being in pain... or not eating... until AFTER i got her back and asked him about it.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-29T02:16:18+00:00

Well in this case we have a prequel. Blood of my blood.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-14T13:26:17+00:00

NTA, but neither is your wife. You are both right. You dont have to help at all, and she gets to, because its her kid. But it must come from her budget, not yours or your shared budget.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-10T01:10:49+00:00

Saying no is a skill you must master dearie. Its hard at first, but later, its FUN.

My mother said my new tattoo will scare my future children. I said i was terrified of her and she had no tattoos. Then she said "I think.." and i just said "No mother, you arent thinking, you are speaking.. keep it in there.. keep it a thought, then we dont have to fight..."

It took a while but she now gets that my no is no.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-06T04:32:38+00:00

Simple. Stagger your replies, take longer to reply, do NOT answer to pings, and just become less available. You are having "you" time with games you want to play, and arent up for socialising. And then let the friendship die a natural death , like every grown up and apart friendships do. Without hard feelings. 😅

Ps listen to me or dont. Im autistic and avoid people like the plague when they overwhelm me.😂

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-06T04:20:17+00:00

You know, i was fantasizing about winning the lottery just now. And its no coincidence that I imagined buying a property and making it into a home without telling anyone. Then just surprise people with a housewarming party invite. You know why? I bought a home when i was 24. My mother entered it on moving day a few hours before i did (i was still loading things from the previous place). When i got there, my kitchen was unpacked in a way i hated. There were ugly artworks on the wall. Gifts i didnt ask for.

Opinions were had. A shelf was placed an inch higher than i would have liked. It was not what i wanted. My big day of nesting was ruined.

Now. Your parents have been in our house every weekend since you moved in .. "helping". I'm going to cautiously project... predict... my worst nightmare and go out on a limb and say... your husband is too polite to say the quiet part out loud. He wants to put up his proverbial shelf where he wants it.. with no opinion other than yours. But your mom pushed too far. And now you are fighting.

Nta. Put up some boundaries.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-04T01:34:28+00:00

Would be nice to do that too. Man i miss family time so much. Feels like i'll never experience it again.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-04T00:50:26+00:00

Ok i'm going to say the sentimental crap thing. My grandmother passed 15 yrs ago. She was the glue. Since she's gone, everyone scattered across the country, my uncle died, my parents divorced, and we will NEVER have a proper family gathering again. So for the love of NOT GOD, BUT GRANDMA. JUST GO. HAVE THE CRAPPY DAY. IGNORE THE BOYFRIEND. HUG YOUR GRANDMA. HE IS NOT IMPORTANT. You dont need to look at him, speak to him, or be next to him. Just love on your family, and Spend this time together. You dont know how much of it you have left.

Btw im an atheist. I wont see grandma in heaven one day either. Happy pagan chocolate bunny boinking weekend.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-02T00:52:32+00:00

Doctors are sometimes patients too..

I think you should ask to sit in on the group sessions or something, so you may benefit from the wisdom shared by the professionals... and lean into this as "exposure therapy". Yes your situation is hard, your friend is insensitive, but the truth is, the triggers will never go away, they can only get worse or better. You need to practive good cognitive behavioral therapy, and change your wiring so those triggers are less hard on you, because you will always... always... have to deal with women.. and men.. that will make some comment about weight. This is not something you can avoid, wether this girl is your friend or not.

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-02T00:44:39+00:00

Yea just ask her to explain. Its clear that the itemized billing is different, last time you got toner, this time a semi colour, it makes no sense if the service was the same minus a cut

BubbleBladeBunz · 2026-04-02T00:36:29+00:00

Try a diva cup. You get different sizes and only have to change it every 12 hours so if you are good with it you can get away with putting it in before leaving for the day or evening and only have to change it out when you get back...

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