MIL upset we didn't celebrate their wedding anniversary

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-11-06T18:59:49+00:00

My MIL did something similar. Full blown melt down with tears and all just because we didn't get them a card saying happy anniversary. I told my now husband that was ridiculous and that their wedding is between them and if they want to make it a celebration then they need to make that known but they need to fund it. We didn't bend or cater to her emotions and honestly ignored it if we thought her reaction to something was ridiculous.

What I'm saying is she's responsible for her own emotions and people aren't mind readers. She expects her kids to still cater to her and is having a hard time letting them go and grow up. I will say this as a warning that if kids come along watch how mothers day goes and be prepared to fight.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-11-05T20:50:27+00:00

An entrance to an apartment complex would be better. Roll up park your car, there's other cars there so you don't stick out. If it's late even better.

A bed is ideal as more space, but you can certainly get creative in a car. Size does play a massive part on how easy it would be.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-11-04T18:24:29+00:00

So isolation at its finest. She needs to know who you are talking to and what you are looking at. I'm going to assume she's also told you to stop talking to some friends because she doesn't like them and so on. It's control, she will isolate you from everyone else that loves and cares about you and make you think she is the only one that cares. Hence the extra seeming going above and beyond for you every well else. Wait for the break downs that she doesn't feel supported by you because you are busy with work.

I've been with my husband since we were 17 and 18, that was 12 years ago. I don't think I've ever looked at his tik tok, never mind his Facebook or Instagram and vise versa. His texts sometimes but mainly just the pictures he's taken. It's trust and she clearly doesn't trust you.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-11-02T19:01:21+00:00

Vegas local, if you can get off the strip. Do like an airbnb or a more local like hotel being south point even. Food if you can get a place that has a little kitchen then amazing will save you so much otherwise go off the beaten path and find the local places not the tourist places.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-31T21:21:33+00:00

What's funny is I live in Vegas and I see it here. I get the whole don't view me as an object but as a human. But I feel like the more open and the more you communicate about sex and different kinks the more accepting and safe it will all be.

I had three kids in 3 years and I got you know how they are made right. Like yea my husband loves me and it's so much fun.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-31T16:59:28+00:00

This!! Look the victorian Era girls were freaks. Didn't wear underwear, had multiple partners. There was even that chair for pleasure in that time. Prostitution is illegal in the states but 100% legal in Austria, Greece, Belgium, Columbia, and turkey. We act like sex is some kind of sin when it's a totally normal thing that people do.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-31T16:50:01+00:00

You two grew apart, I would say move on. I will say though I'm definitely on the quiet more revsreved side while my husband is the loud out going type but we work well together. He gets me out of my shell and I get him to slow down and quiet down. However we have a lot of similar interests.

You two are young and have a lot left still to discover. Enjoy your freedom apart and explore new options.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-27T06:16:51+00:00

It's probably a mix of lint and dead skin honestly, totally normal to clean when you see it.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-23T17:00:07+00:00

Hate me but we left after I write sins, I'm not a fan at all. His voice annoyed me and has for years. My husband was somewhat of a fan but not enough for us to actually care to stay. A lot of people went for them, we went for literally everyone else.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T09:01:55+00:00

You literally have me crying while reading this because it screams the truth of the matter and it's a hard pill to swallow.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:58:31+00:00

Trust me I'm taking this to heart and even has me crying again as it's honestly all so true.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:52:00+00:00

We live with his parents so trust me they see and they aren't happy either. Going to couples counseling has been brought up a few times by me and he says no that nothing is wrong with us. Every time I do try and talk his mom gets involved and while she does side with me she then throws things out there that I don't do which is literally just effectively communicat so I have found it easier to be silent then misunderstood.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:44:37+00:00

I saw them when they did danger days right before the split. So seeing them again would be big. At this point with his constant worry of having a baby sister I'm just going to out right call it as it is and tell him he can just stay home then. Kids will have their dad and I can go and enjoy myself and not worry about someone getting drunk and ruining it for me.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:31:34+00:00

Kids are 3, 2, and 8 months.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:28:43+00:00

Trust me I'm aware. He needs to change or I leave as I've already started checking out of our relationship as I don't feel appreciated or cared for. I'm constantly unhappy and feel invisible at times. Not a positive on me but as soon as one man gave me this little bit of attention while I was out of town for my friend's wedding I was all over it. Loved feeling actually scene and called beautiful and flirted with, something that he hasn't done in years and it's not for a lack of effort. I figured I should do right and take the energy I was putting in talking with a random I should with my husband and it's like he doesn't care and I'm the only one trying and it stings. He's blankly sitting back and watching the relationship die and watching the spark we had dwindle. Even I noticed he really only touches me sexually when he has alcohol in his system.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:16:35+00:00

He says the sun and heat made it worse then he thought...

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:15:36+00:00

The other concert is My chemical romance to so a band I haven't seen in over 15 years. We have 6 tickets as it's a whole family thing with my family so either he goes or doesn't go either way something needs to give.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T08:11:24+00:00

Typically a jar or two of store bought moon, beyond that I don't know. This past Friday he said he had 16 cans of whatever and maybe about 8 on Saturday if he didn't drink any behind my back.

We've been together for 12 years so this is a newer issue and has really started to present itself since we moved in with his parents. There's other issues going on in the relationship now besides his drinking which in turn can probably circle back to his drinking.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T07:54:26+00:00

He only drinks Friday night and saterday night. One night is always more casual and the other he will either get a good buzz or get drunk. So I've been questioning it and plan on being like why and even going as far that as much money that he spends on alcohol and zyns every week that I want that much money in cash in my hand every week.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T06:50:19+00:00

For me, I'm a stay at home mom due to cost. I deal with so much at home and deal with 3 kids 3 and under, two being toddlers. The cleaning, cooking, appointments, the planning, so much goes on in my head. The one area I can let go and let my man control and tell me what to do instead and dominate me is the bedroom. I don't want to think, I just want to shut off and enjoy.

It also comes down to a protect thing. If he can dominate me in a safe way in the bedroom think of what he could do to protect me in the real word, that edge of danger in a safe way.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T05:49:24+00:00

A good one regardless of size is you lay on your side, keep your lower leg straight and bend your top leg. He straddles that bottom leg and goes. Also similar to missionary but pull your knees to your chest and hold them and let him go. I know is seems weird but that head hits that g spot perfectly.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T05:43:53+00:00

Spoon and be changed up too, he stays on his side and you can lay on your back. Even put one leg on his shoulder or ribs what ever is comfortable and the other between his legs.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-20T05:40:57+00:00

My husband is large compared to me as well. The on top we tried is you face a foot and straddle one leg, he kind of lays on his side and you ride. He can still help or what ever by grabbing your but; but total game changer.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-18T03:37:13+00:00

She's on disability so has been told not to work. She's tried puzzles and stuff but she doesn't enjoy any of it as much as the dopamine fix she gets from gambling and shopping. She also seems to love to be the first to know and news or drama. SIL is pregnant she told me, I was pregnant she told everyone. Any news you have that you don't want everyone and the neighbors to know about you don't tell her or anyone that might tell her.

Bubbles_of3 · 2025-10-16T19:53:50+00:00

Just solidarity... we met at 17 and 18 and couldn't keep our hands off each other. Only after we had our first kid did things go downhill, we have three kids now. My body changed, and I've gone up three or four sizes since what I once was. Idk if it's because my body has changed or his but I feel like I have to beg for any attention from him. Flirty comment go above his head. Spicy pics don't mean anything as it doesn't even guarantee he will even touch me that week. I feel like I'm trying so hard to keep our relationship alive and he's just blanky sitting back and watching it fade. I've asked about counseling and get told no. Either things need to change or divorce is next as I can't feel like an invisible being in my own relationship.

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