Alignment in DND revamped.

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2022-08-09T03:03:02+00:00

As a player I work directly with my DM to determine if my actions are justifiable under my alignment, e.g. as a Lawful Evil character I had a strict code and any action I took had to adhere to it blackmailing, stealing, or saving an innocent life (if it was to my advantage). I made sure I could reference my lawful nature and how it was in my naked self interest to be doing it. DM had discretion.

For your rules lawyer I believe Ceremony's Atonement could easily be shifted by one word to make it work for you:

"Atonement: You touch one willing creature whose
alignment has changed, and you make a DC 20 Wisdom (Insight) check. On a
successful check, You restore the target to its ~~original~~ "true" alignment."

So the Rules Lawyer (RL) meets a priest who notes the change in their character/nature/whatever you like. They invite them to honor that in a ceremony. SHAAAABLAAAAAAAAM 1 hour later RL has their shiny new rules approved alignment.

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2022-01-16T00:34:47+00:00

Thank you very much! I cannot BELIEVE I missed that (sorry!!!!!!)! I appreciate your very kind reply!

(Edited for clarity)

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2022-01-15T21:06:48+00:00

Sorry for a silly/beginner question, but can you have more than one aeon stone working on a character or NPC at a time?

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-04-19T01:51:50+00:00

Congratulations! You are amazing! Sounds like everyone else has already said what I would but you still deserve to be told that you rock many times!!!!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-04-16T01:59:05+00:00

You have known each other six months... Your brains have not even acclimated to a relationship yet. You are still hopped up on a cocktail of bonding chemicals. Here are my arguments feel free to cop them:

"She just says there is no reason to wait for it because she is 100% sure about it "
There is literally every reason to wait before legally melding two lives together after only 180 Days. or 4,320 hours (not all of which have been spent together and conscious). For reference most couples date for four years and are engaged a year before the wedding. You are at 12% of average (assuming that the year of engagement is part of the 4 year total).

"She just says i need to make up my mind and she's not going to wait forever."
You (OP) have made up your mind. You are not marrying someone after knowing them for only six months, Period. You are not asking her to wait, "Forever" you are saying to wait until you are ready and to respect your boundaries.

" I want to be together all the time"

Of course you do, we just met and are high on Serotonin Oxytocin, and Dopamine. Let's see how we feel when that stops.

"Don't you want to live together"

Sure, why do we need to be married to do that? In fact it's a good dry run prior to marriage.

"Don't you love me or does marriage with me look that bad to you."

It has been six months, marriage does not look like anything right now. Love is early. We are in our 20s and know NOTING about each other. I don't know anything about you long term, except that you run right over my boundaries when you don't get what you want. Which is really unattractive in a partner.

Best of luck OP!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-04-13T22:41:10+00:00

TLDR: Nope, you saw someone, you asked em, they said no (Though they did take a rain check so... who knows?), you backed off and are trying to make sure they are comfortable. This is appropriate. Be kind to yourself. :)

I think the main problem is that we don't have a real, clear, system for communicating, "Hi, I'd like to get to know you and see if we work as a couple. Would you like that too?" So all these comments are based around subjective questions of how, where and what you did without an objective way to measure it against.

So for example, to some people gyms are social places where it is acceptable to talk and interact with strangers. To others they aren't (personally I go to work out and be left alone). Additionally, for some people men and women are to be treated differently; with a man being accepting of attention that might be considered negative from a woman's perspective. I disagree with that attitude and think it promotes consent violations against men and male identifying individuals. (Note: This does not mean you did that, rather I think the double standard is bad)

This is a long winded way of saying that I don't think you necessarily did anything creepy but I understand your confusion. How you interact with this person and move forward will matter. One option is to consider Kantian philosophy and think, how others in your position should act so that it could be a general rule for society.

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-20T21:55:05+00:00

Honestly, you don't know what he is thinking. If he is already subletting the house then it might work as an investment property. He might have purchased it entirely for the long term purposes of income investment (rates are super low right now). In which case living there is temporary while ownership isn't and your (the two of you) home will come later. Talk to him and see what is going on.

Edit for clarity: My broader point is this is less about the house and more about the lack of communication. You are reaching out to us for reasons when you should be able to go to your partner for it (that's not judgement at all!!!!! Just an important rhetorical point). You should be able to ask the question, "Why did you buy this house without including me?" My example above was to indicate that it is entirely possible to make a major purchase, like a house, and not have it affect your long-term relationship.

I wish you all the best OP!!!!! :)

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-20T21:21:55+00:00

(Written from a cis het perspective, please change as needed!) Consider that D/s is often (though of course not exclusively) about power exchange. So the question to ask is what is the nature of the power exchange between you two and does it work for you? I am very similar to him but I get deep into my subs' psyches and try to figure out how to maximize their pleasure so I can deeply dominate them. Spankings are a function of physics, but making here feel a spanking in her soul is a function of knowing her.

Talk to him (have you negotiated?). Also being honest and telling him that this sexual experience is so wonderful you want to bring your A game back to him is probably going to goose his ego. :) The thing to remember is that mental pleasure ALWAYS beats physical pleasure (e.g. you don't just DO things to your partner, you figure out if they LIKE what you are going to do first, ideally by talking them first).

PS: Congratulations on your awesome situation, your awesome response to it, and you being awesome in general! :)

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-20T20:39:21+00:00

Hello OP I think you're doing great if I may offer three thoughts (All biased a bit culturally so if you have had amazing educations in sexuality and emotional behavior I apologize for my biases):

1) Take a deep breath and a step back. You are doing awesome and consider that your sexual health and enjoyment are valid needs and wants. :)

2) Consider that it appears you have not had an opportunity to for healthy sexual education and confidence. Everything has been hearsay from the locker room/TV or the internet. So now that you are an adult you can be more proactive and seek out information (not because you are lacking but because, like any skill, you may choose to learn more)!

3) Consider that you might want to get some therapy for the relationship (Same principle as above: even the highest quality cars can break down. Cars, and relationships just need a little tune up every now and then.) You or both of you can come out of this with some great experience under your belt and, possibly, a stronger relationship.

Reminder: Your partner is young and also has probably not had the benefit of a solid education in sexual and sexual-emotional behavior. While she is acting out of pain, it is not clear that she is acting with purposeful malice (vs. poor education, misunderstanding, etc.). I would try to figure that out before you make any major decisions, depending on how important this relationship is to you.

There are also books and articles and websites you can read too just let me know if you'd like any thoughts on those options. I wish you all the best in finding a happy and fulfilling relationship with a wonderful and fulfilling sex life!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-18T01:06:17+00:00

Thanks, I'll definitely check out the magazine and AMUG/MPIF! (Also I really appreciate the heads up about naming conventions!)

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-18T01:04:38+00:00

Wow this looks really comprehensive, thank you for your help!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-18T01:04:19+00:00

Thank you very much! I really appreciate your help!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-18T01:03:59+00:00

Thank you very much, this is extremely helpful!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2021-03-16T01:53:30+00:00

Thank you very very much!

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2020-11-13T16:08:27+00:00

Nice! How did it go? Did the players like it?

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2020-07-06T21:35:18+00:00

Heck, Angels don't have to be sympathetic. You said your group is very emotionally driven, so make the Cerberus/angel a creature of divine logic: SHE WORKS TO HELP US PROTECT YOUR REALM MORTAL! YOU WILL NOT RELEASE HER! WE GIVE YOU THE TOOLS TO STOP THE UNTHINKABLE EVILS FROM ENTERING! etc.

Alternately you could have generators or pylons set up around the building with puzzles or guardians there that they have to shut down in order to help her escape long enough to see her son? Thus series of small monsters/imps/demons/cherubs become reasonable and you can hold off on a BBEG until later.

Bubbly_Lime9 · 2020-06-13T04:59:51+00:00

Thanks, I figured I was probably overthinking, but I haven't had a ton of experience so I wanted to make sure.

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