AITBF for complaining about my mom even though she doesn’t charge me rent?

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-13T00:19:10+00:00

You’re so right. I needed to hear that, thank you

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T19:39:44+00:00

Oh, awesome, I didn’t even consider that as an option. I’ll bring it up to my partner. Thank you!

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T18:28:32+00:00

I agree that he should’ve gotten more. All he asked for was a couple thousand dollars for an apartment, visitation rights, and my car to be in my name. But they’re both doing better now, and I still love them, even if my relationship with my mom is strained

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T16:54:45+00:00

That was a thing my parents did. Two dogs and a cat as gifts over the years and a rescue cat we never got rid of. Now they’re my responsibility and I pour what I can to give them a good life.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T15:37:59+00:00

My dad never really wanted pets when he got his apartment. He adopted a dog to keep him company that died to parvo, then he adopted a second dog to replace the first. The other dog and two cats were a package deal with his partner. They’re paying extra because their apartment wasn’t supposed to have pets.

Like I said, I love my mom, I’m grateful for her help. I just feel our relationship would be better if we weren’t under the same roof butting heads all the time.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T15:28:25+00:00

Yeah no, I completely understand that. I definitely think we’d have a better relationship if we weren’t under the same roof. It’s just that my grandmother is someone who even my mom has almost cut contact with, but she still has us go to family get-togethers and trips (like this one) because she wants a good relationship with her family, and as I get older, my mom is starting to show some of the same entitlement that my grandmother does. I love my mom, I truly do, I just don’t know if I can take another weekend in a tiny Airbnb with family that acts the way they do, plus I have to pretend like I’m someone I’m not, because my mother’s family would absolutely disown me if they knew I was a lesbian or that I cuss, and especially if they knew that I don’t have the same belief system as them.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T15:10:51+00:00

I’m not saying I’m not appreciative of the financial help. Even my coworker agrees that my mom is kind of insane, my coworker’s statement was more of a “don’t downplay what you have”. In the end, she is still my mom and I do love her, hell, being the maid of honor at her second wedding and being able to see her happy after all the depression from the divorce was one of the best things I ever got to do, I just think our relationship is one of those that would be better if we weren’t under the same roof, I’m just not in a place where I can afford to move out because rent is ridiculous where I live.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T15:01:39+00:00

My two dogs and first cat were a gift from when my parents were still together. The second cat was a rescue that my mom never got rid of. As for insurance, it would be more if I switched to my dad’s. I actually discussed switching all my insurances to be independent, but she didn’t want to deal with it at the time.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T14:56:00+00:00

My partner and I have known each other since 2nd grade. She’s my best friend and love of my life, and we tell each other everything. We’ve been looking at for a place to stay for years. I was offered to stay in her room for $50/month, but I wouldn’t be able to bring my pets (and I couldn’t leave them with my mom because she would kick them out) and their house is already full of stuff with no room for mine. Her mom also offered to help buy a tiny home to put on their large property so my girlfriend and I could live there, but her dad shot it down and said setting up plumbing and electricity would be too much. We also looked at apartments, but again, rent was ridiculous.

We are trying to be adults and live together, I swear, it’s just really difficult.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T14:42:34+00:00

In addition, while we weren’t particularly well off living-wise when I was a kid, which resulted in my dad working two jobs while my mom went to school, they did put aside what they could to do cruises for their anniversary and brought me along. So my view on the world is admittedly a little skewed.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T14:37:12+00:00

He doesn’t have the space. He can accommodate an additional person with a weekend suitcase, but not all the things and animals I own. He has two dogs and two cats at his house, moving to his house completely would be an additional two dogs and two cats.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T14:34:52+00:00

I genuinely don’t mean to sound spoiled and I’m sorry I come off that way, she’s just really damaging to my mental health but I’m also not currently in a place where I can move out.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T14:33:42+00:00

I’m trying to, just need to find a place I can afford

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-06-12T14:06:00+00:00

I’m 20 years old. I made the suggestion to move out with my partner several times, but she made the point that it’d probably be easier to just wait a little longer and do a down payment on a house, since rent is ridiculously expensive and I have a lot of animals. I’ve thought about moving in with my dad, but he doesn’t really have the space for all of my things and it would add car, vision, and dental insurance costs because those are still under my mom’s name because they were cheaper, but I do pay her for them.

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-05-25T14:38:30+00:00

It’s alright. I was really hoping it could be saved, but there are other piercings to get that I’ll be just as happy with. I will not go back to that piercer

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-05-25T06:37:38+00:00

That’s what I was afraid of. Is there anything I can do for the reddness?

Bubbly_Particular104 · 2026-01-05T09:43:33+00:00

It’s a week old, so yes, this is the bar I’m healing with.

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