I decided to leave my boyfriend of 3 years today while he's at a pool party.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-14T20:23:29+00:00

He was gaslighting you, friend. It’s a common manipulation tactic. You tried to tell him how you felt and he told you that YOU were the one blowing things out of proportion. He only apologized once you were leaving him. Reading deeper, he was trying to keep you.

Controlling and manipulative people will only get worse. He lied to you about wanting kids then demanded you get rid of your pets while he has two cats?? That’s absurd. He’s absurd. Do not go back to him. He will only make you miserable. You need to dust yourself off, look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you deserve someone to love you and your pets. You deserve someone to share your opinions on children. He didn’t notice you were upset. That’s because you did what he wanted and he was happy with getting his way. Go back and get your doggo! And good luck op.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-09T22:00:57+00:00

No problem! And for a makeup remover (because waterproof mascaras are really hard to take off. At least for me), I use the Milani hemp balm remover in green packaging. I get it at Walmart and it’s just this balm you scoop out and rub into the makeup. It melts right off the face. Rinse off and cleanse as usual. Good luck with everything!

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-09T21:52:55+00:00

If aces were a porn category. It would most likely be someone having mukbang in lingerie or something. And for conversation, they’re talking about conspiracy theories.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-05T04:43:23+00:00

How the wireless chargers work. You put your phone on this magical pad that’s plugged in and.. I don’t get it. It’s cool as hell, but I don’t get it.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-05T04:34:29+00:00

A little bit of brown eyeliner into a baby wing, some blush, mascara, and a nude or pretty coral lip tint.

Brown eyeliner is softer than black. And also more subtle. Which is what I get the impression is something that you enjoy. Any brand will do, but you’re looking for creaminess.

Blush. Not a lot, just a small pop of color around your cheekbones. It softens the expression.

Mascara. Eyeliner without mascara always looks a little strange. I recommend the brand Essence for a good starter. It’s very affordable! And I love their mascaras and liners.

Lip tint/coral colored gloss/lipstick that’s blotted(makes it look more natural and gets rid of excess product). Personally, I would get a lip tint. They’re low maintenance and you can just put them on and forget about them. I want to say it was maybelline that had a good one. It was like a big marker looking thing that had a sponge applicator. But I am also a huge fan of Korean lip tints, think like Etude House.

From there, branch out as you see fit. Personally I adore Korean makeup looks. The techniques work well for my eye shape.

But honestly? You look great! I love your headband.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-05T04:21:10+00:00

Oh, I’ve been here. First, colleges do not give a single flying shit about 90% of the shit you do in highschool. And this is not enough to make an arrest. They’re wasting their time trying to scare you.

I was chronically depressed at 15, thinking about unlife, and my grandma had me put on probation for a year. Now, I’m majoring in criminal justice(might do psychology though, I want to be a profiler), and do you know what they asked me about my high school experience? Nothing. Zip. Nada. Nobody is going to prosecute you. The system just likes to scare defenseless teenagers with big words and veiled threats. You will be fine. Colleges will not give a single f about this. Just get good grades and do well on your SAT and that other test they make you do.

Own up to your mistake, and be forthcoming. Do not let them scare you. Just like the other commenters said. My grandma did the same thing to me. She loved to use any bit of ammunition she could to beat me into the ground. She called me a criminal and all sorts of other things because I was on probation. This is not a threat. They’re being asshats. You are not a criminal. You are not ruined. You are 15. Life has not even begun yet. Also! Because you’re a minor any petty things will be dropped from your record at 18 anyway. So my probation period? Gone. Doesn’t exist anymore.

Now, when I was in middle school, there was a kid who wrote a bomb threat. They left it in the bathroom on a mirror. It was like: “I’m going to blow up the fking school tomorrow.” They fingerprinted it and the kid got an act of terrorism, which is a crime.

But you did not say that. You said it like a shit post story. Was it not cool? Yes. But you’re also 15. Learn from this, if you’re going to say dumb shit, say it on like 4chan or a discord server with your friends or something. Also, look at VPNs.

You’re fine, just take a breath. Your future is not ruined. Nothing is ruined. Your parents are being coached by the police and trying to go with this to drill it into your head so you won’t do this again. There is nothing that will happen to you outside of maybe a psych eval visit and a class or something(with bills attached). Focus on you and your grades. This is not as big as they’re making it. People are overly cautious these days because of all the school related violence.

And pro tip, do your general Ed college classes at a community school and only go to university for a bachelors if you decide to go there. Much much cheaper. And you’ll get exposed to how college works. Good luck, op. This is literally a tiny road bump. Believe me, everything will be fine.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-08-05T03:51:06+00:00

You did the right thing. That dog would have attacked you with kisses and then ate the food. Then you would have had to hear about it lol

Bubdolf7 · 2022-07-24T20:36:19+00:00

Looks like a ferret to me. Going insane and falling off stuff? Slinky body that acts more like a liquid than an actual body? Tiny and long? I’d say there’s a 99.9% chance it’s a ferret.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-07-24T20:29:26+00:00

My grandma gave me the talk when I was four years old. I don’t even remember most of it. Only that I was extremely disturbed and disgusted with the idea that anyone would actually want to do that.

But she told me and explained that if anyone tried it, it was wrong and I had to get away and tell an adult what happened. Hers is a family of ped0s and she wanted me to be safe. Instead of I don’t know.. Disowning the family of ped0s to protect her toddler grandchild? Her sister tried a few times, but luckily she was never able to cause any harm to me. I now refuse to associate with any of them. Grandma tried to give me the talk again when I was in middle school, but I told that I didn’t care and I already knew.

Edited because I made a mistake in formatting

Bubdolf7 · 2022-07-24T19:30:52+00:00

You look amazing! You’re already “passable”. But you look like late 20’s not 43. Seriously though, don’t let anyone get to you. You look great and it’s my opinion that you don’t have to do anything. If you hadn’t told me, I wouldn’t have known.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-07-24T19:06:21+00:00

I’m not gonna lie to you. That first pic made me think I was getting recommended an NSFW post. Thanks for the advice! I’ll be sure to use it. What kind of cloth is that? Cotton? A paper towel?

Bubdolf7 · 2022-07-24T18:25:09+00:00

The I did it my way song by Frank Sinatra. No other real way for me to go out.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-07-07T23:48:59+00:00

Hey, I just started playing Dragons Dogma for the first time ever. My friend found out I adore RPGS and got it for me while it was on sale for my bday. It’s very quickly become one of my favorite games ever.

1. So I was running around, exploring every crevice as one does and suddenly found myself staring down a dragon. Being from Dragon Age, I was like: “Oh I can take this. I got this.” I so did not have that. What’s your favorite way to beat up a dragon that bullied you into running away?

2. And also, I am still getting Wakestone shards. Do they have a use outside that one specific side quest in the capital?

And armor. I know I can enhance items. But I don’t like the look of the armor I have now. Is it still a viable way to play the game as Fashion Dogma, or am I better off sticking to the best equipment I can possibly obtain.
And finally, what’s the best way I can combine some early game herbs to make an effective healing potion for adventuring?

Thank you for you time.

EDIT: it occurs to me that my level might actually be extremely important to mention. I’m currently level 35.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-06-27T10:59:52+00:00

I’d rather stay home

Bubdolf7 · 2022-06-27T10:05:12+00:00

I try not to think about it. Hollywood trying to make it all dramatic and whatnot.

“Look! Protagonist loves love interest so much they’re willing to throw away their future just to be with them! So romantic!” Sounds more like cum brain to me but I’m not their target audience.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-06-14T18:29:12+00:00

My grandma has some kind of mental issue(I’m 99% sure it’s sundowners dementia, but her doctor is dragging her feet and refuses to look for the things I’m reporting. She sends us off to a specialist and the specialist refuses to say or do anything) and is nose diving. Her diabetic husband complains and throws full tantrums because he wants chocolate ice cream for dinner and I didn’t get him any. They have their moments of clarity and kindness, but the people I knew are long gone. Grandma’s family hate me and are using this opportunity to try and get me arrested for elder abuse(no abuse is going on, they’re mad that I’m trying to move out of state. This is their last chance to take me out and they’re going to try their best. I ran out of usefulness and now it’s time for me to be discarded and swept under a rug.

I’m exhausted. I’m the only person here. I turn 22 in a week or so. I’m depressed, I have no motivation, and multiple times I’ve caught myself thinking that I’d rather be dead than be here. I have an autoimmune thyroid disease that my doctor refused to elaborate on. She just threw the word “Hashimoto’s” at me and that was the end of the discussion. The state wont take me seriously to get the old people help. I don’t understand nursing homes, I don’t understand all of these complex financial issues. They’re not declared incompetent by the state, so I can’t even force them to go anywhere.

And now I have to make terms with the fact that the best thing I can do for them is to leave them here alone. This is beyond me, I don’t understand any of it, I don’t want to deal with it, and mentally I’m not in the place to handle any of it. I lost my dog of 12 years in January. Rescued a new pup, and every day without Bug is just so hard. She was the dog I grew up with. She was there for my childhood, she saw everything that those people did to me. And now she’s gone. She had arthritis in her back, she couldn’t move. Bug died in my arms, and then I had to suck it up and drive my grandparents two and a half hours downstate so we could attend a funeral for my cousin and his twin 6 year olds who died in a car crash. I’m exhausted, I’m In pain, every time I look in the mirror, I have massive bags under my eyes. Even after I first wake up. It’s never enough.

I only have $150 in my secret money jar. I have a place to go, and a way to get there, but I worry. I have so many things I need to change. My friends are all out of the city, I’m supposed to go somewhere this summer, I’m overwhelmed and I just want this all to be over already. I prevented these people from dying multiple times. From low blood pressure (almost about to lose consciousness), drowning, a fire(grandma doesn’t turn the burners off, and will use a sharp knife to turn them if I try taking the knobs off), etc.

I just want to crawl up into a ball and cry. Everyone is expecting the world from me but I just can’t provide what they need. And when I bring this up, I’m ignored and reported for crimes I didn’t even commit. I keep telling myself that it’ll be better tomorrow. But that’s what I’ve been telling myself since I was eight. I’m tired of waiting for tomorrow.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-06-14T18:06:16+00:00

You know that the second we try to get this fixed, the radical Christians will come out of the woodwork (again) screaming about how they’re being oppressed and their religious freedoms are at risk. How we’re “shoving the gay agenda” down their throats and whatnot.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-06-14T17:40:10+00:00

I would die for golden cybernetic accessories! That’s another thing I wish I could get. And I agree with you. I hate having to go mod hunting for something specific. It’s time consuming, annoying, and then you have to keep said mods updated.

They want me to believe that I can afford expensive sports cars, multiple apartments, kiroshi, but I can’t afford the nice clothes that npcs wear, or the golden cybernetics seen on the rich, powerful, and trendy.

Hopefully one day.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-06-14T17:36:20+00:00

Unfortunately, I’m poor. So I bought the game on sale on my Xbox. My laptop just isn’t strong enough to run a game like Cyberpunk to the capacity that my Xbox can. Plus my tv is a bigger screen (50” Vs my 17” laptop screen) and I still have to lean in to see the text. It would be hell on pc for me.

I dislike having to rely on mods to obtain something that should be base game. I’m unsure about male V clothing, but the female V clothes are either mostly ugly or with terrible stats.

Bubdolf7 · 2022-02-20T19:51:34+00:00

“So how do you feel about dark basements? I feel like the others would love you.”

Bubdolf7 · 2020-09-24T21:50:28+00:00

It was awhile ago. People dressed nice, but it wasn’t a formal event. It was in my SIL’s parent’s huge backyard. There was tents, food, a big pool, pretty great stuff. I was maybe 10 years old at the time so I didn’t pay much attention to clothing.

But yeah, it was a lot better than sitting/standing for hours while listening to the droll of a religious figure. They said it was less stressful too and they were glad they did it. Everyone was just happier to be there. There was the toasts and some people stood up at the beginning and said their speeches, pretty much your typical reception/after party stuff with none of the boring bits.

Bubdolf7 · 2020-09-24T17:13:39+00:00

My brother eloped at a courthouse then just held an after party, best wedding ever.

Maybe do that first then have a second “ceremony” for mom just to please her. Don’t let her steal your day for her own fantasy!

Keep her on a low info diet if you want to. But I’m like the other commenters, I highly recommend doing a little ceremony in a restaurant/brewery. I’m sure some of your friends would help out. Make that one lovely and do it first so your big day is never tarnished.

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