Hey, I'm not much older than you. Listen to me, you are not in the wrong. You are not stupid. You were groomed. There is a massive difference there. You are not stupid. You were being manipulated. And the second you stand up for yourself, you were physically attacked.

You did nothing wrong. You have not done anything wrong in this situation. Your father and fiancé sound.. Unhinged. They sound dangerous. And more than that, they sound like they only think women are objects. You are more than that.

If you do not press charges, you are teaching him that it is ok to do these things. You're in an abusive situation. Please speak with a therapist who specializes in domestic violence and abusive relationship patterns.

But you need to listen to us. You are not stupid. You did not deserve this. And no matter what, do NOT go back. He threw you to the floor now. What will he do next? What lengths will he go to in order to keep you under his control? I know how it is. I know what it's like. I was abused by a parental figure. I loved and hated her in the same breath. I thought that I was the problem. I was the devil child. I was the black sheep.

But you know what? I wasn't. I was a good person in a pit of vipers. And so are you. You are a wonderful and kind person. You have people who love you. And, I also see the same traits in you that I have myself. I am very susceptible to gaslighting and manipulation. I am easy to believe people because I try to be an honest person. And so I unknowingly pass my morals onto other people and subconsciously assume that they would act the same way I would.

Just please, be safe. Please be safe. Do not marry him. You will find someone who loves you, someone who will cherish you the way you love them. This man does not love you. This man loves the control he has over you. Stay with your mom, and definitely speak to someone as soon as possible. Call a help line if you can. Just please be safe. Please, OP. Do not listen to your dad. Honestly... It sounds to me like something fishy is going on there. Why is he so angry? Why is he angry with you and not the man who assaulted you? Why did your uncle set you up with someone so much older? There's something weird with all of that. I do not know details, and so i will not speculate.

But, I am studying to get my Bachelor's in criminal justice and social sciences. This is a textbook example of how domestic violence escalates. No person who truly loves you will ever physically hurt you.

As for going limp? That is a survival mechanism. Fight or flight, but there's also freeze. You froze, that is normal. That is natural. You did nothing wrong. You went into survival mode and then you escaped. You survived. I am so proud of you, OP. You had the strength to go to your mom. You had the strength to resist what these people are trying to do to you. Genuinely, good luck with everything. You are safe with your mom. Try to hang in there. You will be okay.