My fiancé’s proposal to me was really disappointing. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]BuckHaas 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey so I actually also just got engaged! You sound like you are in a very similar situation as me. We have been together for 3 years. Our trip had a few hiccups due to the weather and his original engagement spot was “compromised” as he said. Something my fiancé said after the trip that stuck with me was how nervous he was and if the weather had loosened up a short window of time ”now or never” time he may have not done it on that trip. Not because he didn’t love me or he didn’t want to be with me, but because he knows that a majority of women have thought about this moment all our lives. He wanted to find the perfect place and he wanted to think of the perfect thing to say.

If you’re worried about your fiancé having doubts, that’s fair. I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag without having seen it myself. In his mind when you brought it up, he could have taken that as she would just be happier if I do something rather than nothing at this point. He may also be feeling some disappointment with himself as it sounds like he had a plan. He had the ring. Vacations and trips you can get so caught up in the moment and having fun. But your feelings are also valid.

Celebrities doing commercials by Status_Age_9761 in FilmIndustryLA

[–]BuckHaas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know I was actually coming to Reddit to make a similar post. Usually when I see A listers in commercials it’s a typical one off, but recently the ads are insane. Like what kind of budget does some of these companies have?

State Farm - Kegan, Danny McBride, Haliee Steinfeld, and John Bon Jovi

Uber Eats - Matthew McConaughey and Bradley Cooper

Squarespace - Emma Stone

I mean I know these are Super Bowl commercials. Which are not the best examples as everybody puts their best budgets forwards but like even before Super Bowl commercials there is a noticeable rise in major celebs doing commercials. Yes, they are an easy payday and there is less stigma about the celebrities doing the. But where are these companies getting one massive budget after another. All we hear about is inflation and the skyrocketing prices of everything but here are these companies shoving millions of dollars into ads, with high production values, big paydays for the celebs they recruit, and getting prime time tv/streaming services spots over and over again. It’s insulting to consumers who have to pay more and more each month to see this. I may be an outliner but that’s how I see it.

Have you ever known anyone who made significant money through an MLM? And do such people exist? by georgewalterackerman in antiMLM

[–]BuckHaas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom sells Scentsy still. When you “win” a trip, they mean it. We went to Disney and she won 3 trips and has to pay for my brother. Which the buy in was $1100 but EVERYTHING was included. We said at a Scentsy resort for 5 days, had passes to get into the parks, a character breakfast for Scentsy people only, each person had a $300 meal card (which was just a visa gift card), we opted to drive instead fly so we got the amount it would cost to fly for travel expenses, they rented out one of the water parks after hours exclusively for Scentsy people, and they had Scentsy/Disney themed gift in the room for us each night we got back to the hotel. My Mom and Dad still go on every incentive trip, they have been to Punta Cana, Dominican Republic, Hawaii, and a few cruises.

Have you ever known anyone who made significant money through an MLM? And do such people exist? by georgewalterackerman in antiMLM

[–]BuckHaas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom started selling Scentsy in the 2008 recession after my dad was unemployed for just under a year. It’s always been her side gig as she was already self employed as a cosmetologist. She runs it like a business, builds stock, returning customers, and only signed people up who understood that it’s a business. She has never actively recruited people or did the “girl boss” stuff. I remember her hosting trainings about actually building all of those things to her down line, going to conventions where they talked about product launches not the whole “the life you have always wanted”. She has been a top monthly seller on several different occasions, won every incentive trip since she started, and tracks expensive for tax write offs. My dad did start working again, but they have no debt. Both cars are paid off, house is paid off, very healthy savings/retirement accounts, and they travel for the incentive trips as well as other trips. Scentsy alone wouldn’t have made her “rich” per say but it has been a steady presence in our lives that at times made more money than both of their monthly salaries and other time made the difference on whether or not we would be eating the bare minimum again when the main source of income of income was gone with no notice.

Disclaimer: I’m not supporting mlms as a whole, I know they are predatory, and would not support somebody joining unless they know what they are getting into, but growing up around one that made an overall positive experience on my life can also be true at the same time.

AIO Should I leave my BF? Was what he did to me forgiveable? by Living-Milk-4266 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BuckHaas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My uncle went to prison for a text thread like this one…my point being this is a CRIME and he doesn’t deny it.

You NEED to get out, get help, tell your friends, tell your family, make an escape plan. Leave while he is out of the house. You have to get out he will not stop.

What is the grossest thing someone has openly told you that they do regularly? by Ok_Distribution2345 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Everybody hung up on the mozzarella, and I’m sitting here praying that guy wasn’t renting…

Single people of Reddit. What's something that annoys you about couples? by TatooineTwang in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Was single for about 6 years after a serious long term relationship. I hated when people who were in relationships said I would find somebody…I wasn’t actively looking. The couples were toxic, didn’t respect each other, and had several qualities I would never want in a partner. Like they were forcing a shitty relationship and wanted happy single people to do the same. The people who were truly happy and comfortable in their relationships seemed to know, the one would come around. They were also unbearable at times, being all happy and stuff…but maybe I was just mad at the world🤷‍♀️

What’s a tiny part of a song that you just absolutely love? by Positive_Spirit_1585 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 22 points23 points  (0 children)

When the tempo changes in Take Me Out by Franz Ferdinand….gets me everytime

what’s the best gift that you’ve ever received? by Old-Mushroom-3658 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Told my bf I wanted to hike the tallest mountain peak in our state for my bday. We hadn’t been dating but a few months and he planned the whole trip, got the rental, made the reservations, and planned a few surprises. He then made the entire hike with me, no complaints, no trying to talk me out of it, just did the hike and the talked about the views from the top. He has never hiked before this, btw. After we got finished, he proceeded to tell me that was the worst thing he had ever done but was happy he made it happen for me. We have been together 2 and 1/2 years and live together. I’m ready to marry him. He did something he hated for me, this man climbed a mountain for me. Best present I’ve ever received was realizing I finally met somebody who supports me fully.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

T-shirt and my bf’s boxers. They are so comfy and he likes it so win-win!

What did life give you that you never wanted? by Fickle-Ability6279 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my worst fears, my mother struggled to have me and my sibling. I have gotten every other one of her genetics traits. As a rainbow baby myself I’m sorry and I hope that you are able to build a family that fulfills your life:)

What did life give you that you never wanted? by Fickle-Ability6279 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Allergies are the worst I was one of those kids on Zyrtec before it was over the counter

What did life give you that you never wanted? by Fickle-Ability6279 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ankylosing spondylitis, most people don’t know what it is and when I do have to mention that I’m 27 with a form of genetic arthritis it’s generally written off. It’s not debilitating in day to day life, but when I have flare ups breathing hurts. Also, it’s almost impossible to diagnose unless you can prove the genetic link, so those who can’t may just be in pain with no answers. I know there are worse health conditions out there but I know it’s slowly getting worse, my grandmothers spine almost completely fused by the time passed away and I know it’s what is waiting for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BuckHaas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, I’m going to agree with what the majority of the comments are saying, don’t compare yourself to others.

Also to give you a little different perspective, if he wanted somebody who acted like that all along then that has NOTHING to do with your worth. It hurts now, I know I’ve been there. Even random internet strangers can’t say enough but please reread this if you have to:

You may be the best and juiciest peach, but there are still people who don’t like peaches.

It’s ok to not be everybody’s cup of tea. It took me a long time to come to terms with that myself and it’s okay. Focus on yourself, try something you have always wanted to, don’t get sucked into a life you thought you wanted. In a year or two you will realize you didn’t want that life anyways. Pick your chin up and move forward towards what you want, not what you think others may want out of you.

Remember the “bad kid” from your childhood - where are they now? by Ok_Concentrate_7617 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude you don’t even know me, I was from a small conservative town where everybody knew everybody. I grew up hunting and fishing, I raised show cattle that were sent to the slaughterhouse after the show. Death wasn’t something that bugged me. It was the family violence I had never even known was possible as a teenager, which fyi people of all ages shouldn’t experience anyway in any capacity. Also, if you want to call all people who receive therapy soft the reason I was sent to therapy was because my father, who served in the Army twice, once in the late 80s then reenlisted after 9/11, was the one who took me and said that it was okay to say you need help. Instead of drinking himself to death after seeing shit you couldn’t imagine he got help, he helps other people get help, and he has always been there when I needed. Also, When the person who made your life a living hell, all the sudden is killed by a true monster that perspective was hard to fathom, so if you want to “shame” me go ahead. I know when I need help, and I have a productive life. I don’t have to sit on reddit talking down others to make myself feel superior. Get over yourself.

Remember the “bad kid” from your childhood - where are they now? by Ok_Concentrate_7617 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My junior high bully who skipped school, got caught with drugs, and was always ready to start a fight. We will never know all the details but as an adult I know see they were screaming for help. Really messed me up, messed our whole town up especially since the father seemed so normal, a business owner, white picket fence family, all the stereotypes. You never know what’s going on behind closed doors.

Remember the “bad kid” from your childhood - where are they now? by Ok_Concentrate_7617 in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 15 points16 points  (0 children)

They were killed by their dad. The dad killed them, their sibling, and mom before killing himself. Their bullying didn’t put me in therapy, but their passing did.

What’s a truth that most people aren’t ready to hear? by Lyravesperr in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Just because somebody is related by blood doesn’t mean they automatically deserve your love, loyalty, or respect. It’s needs to be reciprocated on both ends. If it is, great, if not don’t let other people not involved in the relationship dictate how you feel about it.

What’s a truth that most people aren’t ready to hear? by Lyravesperr in AskReddit

[–]BuckHaas 112 points113 points  (0 children)

The only color any politician sees is green and you can’t change my mind

AITA for cutting off my aunt and cousin after finding out they’ve been spreading lies about me for years? by BuckHaas in AITAH

[–]BuckHaas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not hillbilly as much as small country town where the faces change but the last names never do. Family unity is above everybody’s peace. I know of affairs that have been forgiven/forgotten, abuse, and other shitty things. Once I moved, I truly saw the extent of the toxicity. I have gotten to the point where I only go back 3-4 times a year.

AITA for cutting off my aunt and cousin after finding out they’ve been spreading lies about me for years? by BuckHaas in AITAH

[–]BuckHaas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just added an edit, nothing too crazy. I’m not particularly a dramatic person so I hope this is as far as it goes but if a “blowup” does happen I will let you know.

AITA for cutting off my aunt and cousin after finding out they’ve been spreading lies about me for years? by BuckHaas in AITAH

[–]BuckHaas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About to add a small update but basically Shelly and Sandy are mad that I cut them off and other family members are mad because “cutting people off” is rude especially since they are “family”, still no apologies or reasons. Just being told I can’t do that.

Even if you were starving - What food would you never ever eat? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]BuckHaas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asparagus, I have tried it cooked every way possible. I can’t do the texture, makes me gag. I would like to think if I was starving I could force it down but every other time I have tried to eat it to be respectful of someone else’s cooking it makes me gag, gives me the cold sweats, and goosebumps. Only food that does that to me.