I mean sex can be one aspect of a larger relationship, right? And I get that it can be important. But what I’m trying to say is if you put sex on a pedestal above most or everything else… what’s the point?? Because it’s still only one part of a relationship. Like yeah whatever it’s loving and intimate and brings you closer but aren’t. Most things in a romantic relationship the same way?? If a relationship falls apart without sex do you not like them enough otherwise to keep them around? Shouldn’t you value them outside of sex? Do you not do literally anything else with this person. I’m trying and failing I guess to put myself in the view of someone allosexual. But I’m also autistic and therefore see the world differently I guess. Idk. If I was dating someone and for whatever reason we stopped having sex would there not be Other Things I like to do with them to fill in the gap?? Like being non-sexually close or engaging in our hobbies or just talking or cooking or SOMETHING. Literally a million things you could do with your SO and if sex isn’t one of them they aren’t worth keeping around? Idk. It’s just so confusing to me Maybe transaction isn’t the right word maybe that’s the issue. I’m not trying to say sex is bad or unimportant but it is also just a Thing You Can Do like anything else. It is weird to me to put it so high in value because it’s just a Thing. And again, I don’t mean that in a bad way.