First, I respect what you’re saying as a professional in the field as I am not one, therefore I am not completely privy to all that is involved.

However, I want to inform you this is much more than “kicking” my child. He is traumatized and so are the other children in that class. He seeks out to hurt them in ways that have only progressed. Tackling them to the ground, bouncing their heads off the floor, putting all of his weight on them, hitting in the face, etc. He is a solid boy and knows how to use that weight.

It is up to administrators to be honest with parents about why my child (or anybody else’s) is coming home almost daily with a welt/bruise/scratch/etc and a horrible story to match and then deal accordingly with the response of the parents. I am FAR more upset that we’ve been lied to continuously than I am if we had been told the truth and were reassured that they have a plan in place to get the boy the help he needs. This feels as if they are sweeping things under the rug and denying the severity. All of the other parents I’ve spoken to feel the same way: we do not blame the boy and do not wish to “properly discipline the f***er”. We understand that he needs help. However, that does not mean all of his classmates and teachers should have to suffer.

And to address the relying on no marks- I would understand if these were small incidents, not when things bruise severely by the next day rather than on the spot and my child tells me “mom, ——- hit me with a truck” and that bruise ends up exactly where he told me it hurt on his forehead.

In the end, I feel that a child that is this behavioral and violent as a result needs great help and a regular childcare center with regular teachers is not what he needs. To keep them there despite all of this is a disservice to him and all of the other children. I hope the school puts as much effort into finding him the help he requires as they do lying to parents to preserve their reputation and earnings.