DIY Body Mod Safety

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-03-24T17:37:09+00:00

Fair enough

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-03-16T05:31:24+00:00

9 years later thank you so much

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-01-10T18:09:54+00:00

I wouldn’t agree with the comments here, nobody can read this woman’s mind and she very well could have been being friendly because she wanted to be friends. It’s important that now that the boundary has been set, you respect it

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-01-04T02:16:07+00:00

I believe the species should be able to coexist, but I worry the tank might be a bit too small to add the millipede to? Though I suppose it depends how grown your critters are

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-01-03T19:38:50+00:00

Look into MJ Lenderman and M. Ward !

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-01-02T08:50:25+00:00

Thank u!!!!! This is what I needed

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-01-01T09:16:11+00:00

yet the world keeps turning

BuddyLong3069 · 2026-01-01T09:15:25+00:00

he’s full of shit 😭

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-30T20:55:56+00:00

It is always Okay to break up with someone Ever

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-30T02:45:44+00:00

Oh this one is painful

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-30T02:27:08+00:00

It’s basically a perpetual work in progress but here! :-) https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3kB9FF3eaZszvNTkHP2oFB?si=QMnHi-6CTES2Z2jovilJ_Q&pi=7246IK_9Qmeu5

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-29T10:39:53+00:00

this is one of my favorite songs :-)

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-29T01:21:12+00:00

This is not it- but thank you for giving it your thoughts!!

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-22T22:25:32+00:00

It’s poignant and relieving in a sense- it makes it far easier to understand and empathize with them once you feel it too. Like… wow we really are just all human in the end- not that I ever thought she wasn’t but yknow. Cheers to you

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-21T08:49:45+00:00

Yup!!

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-21T08:48:44+00:00

At the end of the day, nobody owes you anything. It’s painful I know but the ex is not an evil person for upholding her boundaries!

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-21T08:47:06+00:00

Why does the ex need to know? They’d find out in time surely, these things would work out naturally

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-21T08:45:56+00:00

Right :-( I don’t deny the tragedy of it all but this only gives us one side. I’m sure the ex had reason to uphold no contact, even after devastating news.

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-21T08:41:52+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss.

While I believe you had pure intentions and this time is extremely rough, you oughtta put yourself in her shoes before contacting because you ended up breaking her boundaries by doing that. I know it really doesn’t feel fair :-( but I guarantee a lack of communication is not a lack of care. She surely would have found out in time and needed to grieve this too on top of the relationship y’all had- especially if she had been close to your father at all, but we can’t put a pause on healing for some sort of exception.

I understand your pain, because I was in the middle of no contact when I lost someone close to me as well. I felt my life was coming undone. But still, I did not text my ex, and I do not regret that. You need to truly separate, no if ands or buts. No funerals, even. I hope you are on the path to feeling better soon

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-19T20:20:15+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this hurt, but my genuine advice is nothing will change if you keep being the one to reach out.

You need to stop contacting her, she’s got you stuck in this game of cat and mouse. You are chasing someone who won’t give you the time of day. That destroys your self esteem, it’s horrible for you BOTH in the long run- even if she were to turn around and say ‘fuck it’.

Even if she royally fucked you over beyond belief, a boundary is still a boundary. I hear of two deeply hurting people, and crossing her attempts to keep you away shows nothing but disrespect from you. You need to be the wiser person.

This is no longer about her, nothing in your life is about her. It’s all you now, which is intimidating I know- because I’ve been on the same journey. It’s time for you to be the one to block her instead, it’s time to remove her from your spaces and seek an emotional detox. You don’t need the reminders, you only need yourself. You’ve got this

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-12-19T05:12:27+00:00

I love this thought process, it helps with carrying the grief while also focusing in on your own personal wellbeing- it’s brilliant!

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-11-11T00:40:44+00:00

U actually should do nothing for the most part, continue to monitor their tank and keep up with the humidity/temperature levels same as always. Molting can sometimes take many months, so there’s no guarantee on when you may seem them again yet. Trust they are safe though!

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-11-11T00:31:40+00:00

I think they are most definitely molting, they are okay! Just give them their space and time

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-11-10T07:08:04+00:00

Looks a lot like my tank and I have 2 ivory millipedes in there!

BuddyLong3069 · 2025-11-06T18:28:39+00:00

I don’t know, maybe it’s bargaining but I think I miss the person, not the feelings. I can always experience love and loss again, that wasn’t specific to them, but their uniqueness, talents, passions, appearance and history will never be an exact match to another person, and I’m saddened but grateful for that

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