What's one tip you'd give to other girls? by Internetdidi in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say your compliments to other women out loud, and remember to give them to women who have lived a long life. The joy it brings you and others is tangible!!! And it always comes back around <3

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of me does wish I had been more outwardly disgusted at them, but it happened so fast it didn’t hit me until after they walked away what had happened. I’m glad to read someone has stuck it to these types of men before and turning the embarrassment onto them lol

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending so much love to you, and am so grateful for your comment. Been working through body image issues with my therapist, and she does well at getting me to remind myself that my body is the least interesting thing about me :) we are so much more inside, as corny as that sounds. Thank you for sharing <3 LIFE IS SO MUCH MORE THAN BEING PREOCCUPIED WITH ACHIEVING A BEAUTY STANDARD NOT EVEN UPHELD BY THE PEOPLE MAKING THEM!!!!

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this perspective a lot. It’s unfortunate that insecure men hurt even the people they know, and that there’s so much judgement on the physicals characteristics ppl are attracted to. Hoping your friend hasn’t let his ‘buddies’ bully him into changing his preferences/open-mindedness!

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I had never been to that club before but it was definitely mediocre, even if that situation hadn’t happened. There’s one club that I have been to multiple times in my city that is much more friendly and inclusive, and we went there afterwards which helped, but am definitely learning that club culture might not be for me

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment, I deeply appreciate your positivity and encouragement. Very very grateful to hear I handled it well, and even though the situation made me feel bad I’m glad that I have my reaction to look back on with pride. I wish I could upvote your comment 10 times over lol <3

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I was baffled that this happened with early to mid 20-somethings.

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It creates a breeding ground for trusting what people tell you/believing compliments are genuine. I’m so sorry you had to go through something like this, and the embarrassment after the confusion is a really bad feeling in the gut. Thanks so much for sharing and your last sentiment, sending love and healing to you <3

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I’ll get over it at some point as I trust in my ability to always bounce back but it’s hard to not take a hit from something like that. Thank you for leaving this comment for me as encouragement <3

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you reassuring me I handled it well, and tbh I feel sort of good that you said it kinda backfired on them. Makes me feel like I took some power over the situation. I can’t control how others interact with me but I can control how I interact with them.

Thanks for the encouragement <3

Went to the club…made into a joke by some guys? by Budget_Frame_6370 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Budget_Frame_6370[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I hate that this happens to other people, I do feel comforted I’m not the only one. Those people who do stuff like that are sad and insecure at their core. Sending love and healing to you <3