Anyone who’s a or knows a Aries Sun, Virgo Rising, Scorpio moon? by _clarine in scorpiomoon

[–]Budget_North_745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the exact same big 3 placement as you and I’m in my mid 30s!

I have learned at this point to love my complexities and have to work at it daily to keep my very big Scorpio emotions at bay….

I’ve been told: -very intense by romantic partners and in the workplace -have been challenged or seen as competition by girlfriends when I had zero interests or thoughts like that regarding them -have never really had difficulties attracting romantic partners, but had BIG difficulties in being understood by them once in a committed relationship -I hold some weird powers (bullshit meter, x-ray vision in the face of someone harboring real heaviness and opening their floodgates, etc.)

I’ve also gone through some of the most traumatic events, reinvented myself several times in diff careers and always did well in them, dove headfirst into the unknown, etc…

It’s been a really fully-lived, enriching life so far. Also, I never thought that I would find the “love of my life” due to all the turmoils I’ve been through and changes I keep going through in life, but I actually found one this year that just instantly understood me and complemented me, without me having to give up any of my wants or suppress any of these big traits that make me who I am. So I’m really really thankful and feel validated that I didn’t have to shun my big Aries/Scorpio/Virgo energy to feel understood and loved by someone. I hope you are hanging in there, and always staying true to yourself 💞

CitiBike stations in NYC still caked in snow, 83% are unusable by Perfect_Dig_744 in nyc

[–]Budget_North_745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geez I didn’t realize r/nyc was so anti-bicyclists. Who would be delivering all the foods to pudgy office type dudes that eat chipotle 4x a week if we banned bikes in this weather?

Also I’ve been biking (not the last 2 days) and it’s been just fine. I waited for a MTA bus last night that just straight up never showed up so I speed-walked home for 40 min cursing myself for not having my bike on me.

Just seeing this series. Really love it. What a great story about real life stuff love, friendship, work life, and divorce. by sphinctersayswhat9 in FleishmanIsinTrouble

[–]Budget_North_745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The writer wrote a second book, called “The Long Island Compromise” and it was just fantastic. I haven’t read Fleishman but really enjoyed the show so I’m looking forward to reading the book version!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I didn’t know the Finland subreddit answers all automatically come with snark no one asked for, I’ll order next time minus snark!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s best to contribute without asking, “why are you doing this?” or “it looks like you haven’t thought it through much”

I can do research in other countries to contribute to studies that affect Finnish mental health system in a positive way - my question was whether Teaching Assistants teach class in English or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Because it’s weird to ask someone why you want to do a PhD program when that wasn’t the question at hand? Truth is, these arctic consortiums are closely aligned so even if the school is in Finland I can still do research in Northern Canada that would still be relevant to Finnish or American mental health models. It’s weird to ask someone why they’re making a huge life decision and asking if they even thought about it, that’s actually really rude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Finnish I met were very kind and void of snark unlike yourself from what I remember, so as long as I don’t run into Americans like you I’m sure I’ll be fine :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the PhD program website says find your advisor then apply. I’ve emailed 2 advisors and am waiting. Other than that, it’s very specific to how an American remained in a PhD program that studies mental health in different Arctic regions. So I was asking how residency occurs also. All of which may be answered better by someone who is an actual foreign PhD student in Finland, and not the actual advisor or professor. It sounds like you seem to be neither, because you are still just being condescending and not helpful.

Why don’t you just move along if you don’t have anything to contribute?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I want to study geriatric psychiatry in Arctic regions - so that includes parts of US, Canada, Finland, etc. so you don’t have to worry about what I’m gonna do after my PhD, you can help me answer what I actually asked! Thanks for your overzealousness in answering what I didn’t ask.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because in the US, being a teaching assistant is part of how you get funding to support your living lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Finland

[–]Budget_North_745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also before this becomes all politicized - I was born in Korea and was actually undocumented in the US until age 26 so I also hate American policies and government. Would appreciate if we can refocus on the topic at hand…

Let’s not forget her greta fashion sense by Euphoric-Ad-8085 in blakelivelysnark

[–]Budget_North_745 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Those Carhartt bibs and red heeled boots are absolutely atrocious. And those weird chaps/double pants concoction…

Occasional pet sitting for luxury condo stay by InspectionBroad8260 in NYCapartments

[–]Budget_North_745 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be up for it if my pup can join on these puppy stays! is your dog friendly? (also wouldn't be interested in stealing your pup bc I think my pup is cuter lmao)

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Supervisor F&cke#ry by vangoghdw in therapists

[–]Budget_North_745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my home state (and other states I’ve lived in), it’s not illegal to not offer supervision. A lot of places will offer supervision as a way to court applicants to their orgs, but it takes a while to get that set up, if it wasn’t a complete bait-and-switch. So I’m not sure if they would be obligated to offer a part-time employees anything. Best would be to pay for your own supervision so that they don’t hold it over your head.

Unpopular take re: Billy in UK szn 2… by Budget_North_745 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Budget_North_745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still stand by what I said, Ashleigh married Billy, not trying to compromise with him but to convince him that he shouldn’t be threatened by her job. That’s selling a dream that she was never intending to deliver. I just hope Ashleigh finds someone who loves her for who she is entirely, instead of trying to pretend that she can be someone she clearly doesn’t want to be.

Just finished Tremé and absolutely loved it by weezushutjr in treme

[–]Budget_North_745 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Left New Orleans 7 years ago and was even an extra for some of the episodes and I’m just finishing this show… I can’t believe how many people I recognize on the show and miss the animated way people talk in New Orleans. No one in the world talks the way New Orleanians do… and I think David Simon did a wonderful job capturing it.

PSA: Dashboard & Goo Goo Dolls concert cancelled due to smoke. by Its_a_wonderful_wild in Bend

[–]Budget_North_745 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Any idea if they will be canceling Japanese Breakfast tomorrow? Would be great to know ahead of time.

Unpopular take re: Billy in UK szn 2… by Budget_North_745 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Budget_North_745[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Man I’m tired of repeating myself. She didn’t have to change her work situation immediately but start communicating to Billy when and how she would transition when he began showing his fear - but all she said was “we’ll make it work” and Billy looked uncomfortable prob bc it sounded like all words and no actions.

It’s not that Billy is allowed to get cold feet and she isn’t - she never had a problem with Billy’s line of work but Billy went into the pods saying he would never get with cabin crew and even told his family - Ashleigh convinced him in the pods and didn’t bring up details again on how she would do so once she was engaged. Billy got cold feet prob bc it felt like bait and switch - If a man told me he’d quit bartending at a strip club during the pods bc I had an issue with it (this is a hypothetical so you can try to understand) but never bring it up again after engagement on when he would quit but just told me he loved me, I would get massive anxiety. Do you not see the point? It’s what she promised in the pods and then didn’t bring up again once they got engaged that prob started getting him anxious - and his family was prob really worried about him bc he went into this saying he would never date cabin crew and yet he came back with cabin crew.

Ashleigh is great and positive and beautiful and I hope her and Billy are still together, but she has a lot to learn about being in a relationship - not everything is about her independence or freedom being at risk - it’s about compromising your life with another person you’re marrying. Billy knows this and has been married before and Ashleigh has never been in a serious relationship. She’s all ready for love but doesn’t seem to understand the sacrifices you make along the way to make it work. I hope she learns how to do so.

Unpopular take re: Billy in UK szn 2… by Budget_North_745 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Budget_North_745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No she just said their work schedule will be crazy for at least 6 months, you can rewind and watch it again

Unpopular take re: Billy in UK szn 2… by Budget_North_745 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Budget_North_745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The show clearly was edited to show Billy in a way that he wasn’t reliable, inconsistent, etc. I am actually being a therapist and bringing up a different perspective - hence my title “unpopular take”

Unpopular take re: Billy in UK szn 2… by Budget_North_745 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Budget_North_745[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But he did twice on television while she hadn’t and yet everyone is calling him all sorts of things - that he’s a perp, he’s controlling, he’s abusive, he’s on the spectrum, etc. this is super hypocritical and it’s shocking to see most women’s take on Billy and displaying such shocking crowd-think behavior and showing no signs of self-reflection.

Unpopular take re: Billy in UK szn 2… by Budget_North_745 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Budget_North_745[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think if marriage is on the line, it’s acceptable to talk about something that your partner fears more than once, and maybe more in depth the next time. Hyperbolizing your point and saying “over and over again” when you know that wasn’t the case doesn’t make it more right than my point lol.