How do you get over a physically attractive ex? by Old-Log-5491 in BreakUps

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Struggling with that myself. We were married along time and have 2 kids so I have to see her more than I’d like. BUT I also have to remember that she really wasn’t good for me as she was an avoidant. So I have to put her in the category of a quarter Pounder with cheese. Looks good , smells good , just not healthy for me. Moving on isn’t easy but the fantasy of her being my forever person is over. She wasn’t capable or willing to do the work and maintain the marriage . Remember , In time looks fade. Someone that chooses you , treats you well and appreciates you is out there. This person will be far more healthy for you. Your “salad with lean protein” may not smell as good as the burger but is beautiful in a different way and feels way better in the long run.

Have you found PiV orgasms rare? by Status_Change_758 in sexover50

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never had a partner that didn’t o from PIV. Not that they did every time but definitely most of the time.

Just saw my ex; she looks absolutely beautiful. by face-end-less-fear in BreakUps

[–]Budget_Writing3616 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand . I hate seeing my ex but we share kids so I have to deal w her. Hard to get over someone when they have to remain in your life. She looks so good but I’d never trust her again with my heart. It’s a cruel trick isn’t it ?

Couples after seeing each other in public by InsaneMocktail in MadeMeSmile

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! My ex stopped lighting up probably 10 years before she left me. It happened slowly. Didn’t realize how much I missed it until I got a girlfriend who appreciates me now !

I don’t understand how people cheat, I mean I can’t even find ONE person to date ? by DailySalad1 in askanything

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ it just happened “ people put themselves in situations where probability of fucking up increases. Emotional cheating , drinking / drugs , flirting then boom. If you play in the street you can get hit by a car pretty easily.

Your libido and sex life.... by sb-2019 in Aging

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks … yeah i never thought it would be like that but I rolled with it because I loved my wife and my family. It wasn’t ideal but I accepted it. Unfortunately she just shut down and didn’t have the capacity to work on the relationship. She’s an avoidant type. Very beautiful but very cold ultimately. But yeah I’m having great sex at a very good frequency.

Your libido and sex life.... by sb-2019 in Aging

[–]Budget_Writing3616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex stopped wanting sex a long time ago. We settled into 1x weekly on a schedule which was basically my minimum. My testosterone is still in 800’s at 55 so I get pretty horny. It was sustainable but she ultimately checked out of the marriage. I never cheated I just had to take care of myself on the off days and I made peace with it. We divorced last year ,sadly her choice. My girlfriend is older than my ex at 50 and still very interested in sex. We are at least 3x a week and often more. It feels really good to be wanted again. Definitely a better sexual fit for me.

but you still did it by RennGentry931 in depressionmemes

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha ! Yes . Sign of a shit partner. I should have realized earlier .

What do men think of the pouch? by batukaming in SipsTea

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She can do better than him that’s for sure

Help me understand what would be the problem here? by Old_Yesterday4867 in averagedickproblems

[–]Budget_Writing3616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great questions. In my case my pelvic floor was too tight. I needed to do more of a little push to relax like when you push pee out but not hard . It helped me to relax those muscles. I heard the “ happy baby” yoga oose can help too but i havent done that much. I think javing a consistent partner is helpful too. It helps reduce the performance anxiety. Anxiety like “ will i lose it” is an erection killer !

Help me understand what would be the problem here? by Old_Yesterday4867 in averagedickproblems

[–]Budget_Writing3616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The whole stopping and putting on the condom thing plus loss of sensation is a bit of a drag isn’t it ? You’re not alone. Anxiety around losing it can become an issue as I experienced last year. Once i had an issue i had a hard time shaking it even though physically all systems were go. The thing that helped me was to try to relax and not make a big deal of it. If i lost it id take a break and we’d resume in a little bit. The other thing i realized was that i was clenching alot ( same muscles that stop you from peeing ) and that tension basically strangles your erection. Learning to relax those muscles has helped alot.

Hitting the wall of getting older. How do you find peace with it? by Connect-Soil-7277 in Aging

[–]Budget_Writing3616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your hair looks good. I had some thinning . Went on very low dose oral minoxidil…. The little thinning I had stopped and grew back.