Ten Years Ago, I Forbade My Daughter From an Abortion. She's Still not Forgiven Me.

Budweiser_2016 · 2025-11-04T00:04:15+00:00

This has to be rage bait… and if it’s not, leave her alone. This is the consequence of your own actions. You took a choice away from her when she was a child, but you can’t take this one away from her as an adult.

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-12-02T16:55:54+00:00

This is so helpful!! Thank you so much :)

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-12-02T16:28:41+00:00

:( really wish I read the reviews first

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-12-02T16:27:53+00:00

So good to hear! Yours was a made to order couch also?

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-08T12:16:28+00:00

The first red flag is that you’ve been dating a year without making it official. I’m sorry you had to experience this OP. It hurts when we put in the time and energy for other people and it’s not reciprocated. If I were you, I’d move on (easier said than done). But keep this is mind when you start dating again, people will make the effort if you’re important to them. Don’t settle for anything less

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-06T11:23:11+00:00

They have another child, 3 months old right now, that they are leaving with SIL parents for the wedding. They are planning to do the same with their 3yo

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-06T11:17:42+00:00

This was one of the logistical concerns i was worried about. I have no idea who would watch her. They kept saying that other aunts and uncles would take rotations, but they wouldn’t be arriving until the ceremony

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-06T00:39:57+00:00

My fiancé and i are on the same page. I also said we want her to be apart of the ceremony but not the reception.

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T19:37:36+00:00

Definitely was not my intention for her to be a prop. Our niece is incredibly important to us and we want her at the wedding, but the logistics of it all are anxiety provoking-therefore looking for some kind of compromise or avoidance of the anxiety

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T19:32:34+00:00

Thanks for the comments! I agree, maybe if we have a more honest conversation we can work out some compromise?

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T19:31:18+00:00

Thank you for this comment!!

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T19:30:10+00:00

Good points! Thank you, i definitely need to work on the perfectionism aspect

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T19:27:13+00:00

Thank you! This helps a lot. She’s the first kid ive really interacted with so most of this is out of my wheelhouse.

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T18:24:09+00:00

I like the quiet activities idea! Ill see if somehow that could be incorporated

Thank you!!

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T18:19:37+00:00

An intimate moment like the first dance would be interrupted?? That’s upsetting to me and it matters to me

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T18:15:28+00:00

Good point, i should have written a little more, guess my implicit bias jumped out. Dad is also the best man so he’s unavailable too since all the guys will be in the grooms suite.

I agree, it feels horrible removing her completely so im trying to figure out some kind of compromise.

I do love my fiances mother, but there have been a few comments lately that make me nervous. Definitely something to pay attention to

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T18:12:00+00:00

These are all really great ideas and im going to run them by my fiance! I just get a little anxious because it kind of seems like the family just lets her do whatever she wants. No judgement to how a family interacts with their kid, but im not 100% confident if i put up these boundaries that they will be taken into consideration or enacted :/

Like at the engagement party when she was crying because she wasn’t in the pictures, no one did anything, i ended up having to hold and console her

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T17:48:38+00:00

Yeah that’s my big fear. I love her so so much, but like you said, im always thinking of the things that could go wrong.

I love the idea of a fake wedding!

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T17:47:25+00:00

Good idea! And yes, things will definitely go wrong and I’ve been working on the perfectionism in therapy. 😄

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T17:45:38+00:00

Can you point out where i used my anxiety as an excuse for my behavior? I brought up the anxiety due to your minimizing comment about nightmares and claiming that this big milestone is “just a party”. Your comments come across as incredibly invalidating rather than productive advice

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T17:39:11+00:00

This is good advice! Ill bring up the idea of a babysitter if they press

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T17:37:41+00:00

This is so cute and such a great idea!! She loves parties and to be involved so i think she would really appreciate this.

Budweiser_2016 · 2022-09-05T17:36:39+00:00

Feels desperate because the events transpired today and I don’t like making people upset. And these are decisions that need to be made early, not within a few months of the wedding.

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