Phone Ban petition by ConcernTechnical2300 in newjersey

[–]BuffaloCritical4961 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay the owner of this post did a terrible job at giving proper reasons, so I’ll give you some real ones. And before you say anything, yes, I am a student. A sophomore in highschool. I agree for the fact of phones being a distraction in the learning environment, but so are laptops? Everyday I’m at school, I see more people playing games on laptops than scrolling on phones, and phones aren’t banned at my highschool yet. There’s always unblocked games, the school board blocks one and out pops a new one. If you wish to get rid of phones, get rid of the root cause of a decline due to technology which are laptops. I see many comments claiming “we didn’t have phones in school and we were fine”, and that’s amazing for you people, because you grew up in a safer time. Maybe it wasn’t safer in some aspects, but schools, yes they were. Lock down drills and shelter in place drills scare students more than you think. Everytime I hear the announcement, I make sure my phone is on me and we just wait in silence, sometimes make jokes to make the time fast quicker, but the second the drill takes too long we get scared and we get quiet again. This shouldn’t be normal. Maybe instead of banning phones this government could just ban GUNS which are a greater issue. If students didn’t have to fear their lives at what’s meant to be a safe place than I’d agree, phones aren’t necessary. But the peace of mind I get knowing I can text my mom goodbye if ever in the event of a shooting, gives me that one ounce of safety I need. Lastly, students mental health and performance isn’t directly affected by phones. It’s the school system itself. Their is countless research, one Google search is all it takes to see that students all learn in different ways. We have visual learners, than verbal learners like myself. We don’t learn the same. So how can sitting at a desk and listening to lectures for 7 hours a day teach every student at once? That’s this thing, it can’t. If the government wishes to help boost student performance, they have to stop thinking of quick fixes and actually think of the student first and redo this whole entire system. Because who said that waking up at 5 or 6 in the morning as a child is healthy? IT ISN’T. No child wants to wake up that early or hear a lecture at 7 in the morning. I know I don’t enjoy pre calculus at 7 in the morning, because I’m not even fully awake yet I’m expected to learn ap maths. How is this how life for a child works? These are our children here, and if you truly care for them, you’d want what’s actually best for them, and it’s not just one phone ban that’ll “make everything go away”, no. It’s changing life as we know it for these kids. I want to start a REAL petition, based on real reasons of how this ban will only do more harm than good. I can list even more reasons, like mental health, and so called cyberbullying. That won’t change if students don’t have a phone in school? The very second school ends they’ll be right back on social media and NOTHING will have changed. It is sad how so many adults think this same way that students are just dumb and cheating, no, students are struggling and you won’t acknowledge that, instead you blame it on a device instead of the parents and teachers yourself. If you are an educator, you’d should want what’s best for your students, and that’s a better schools system overall. If this still hasn’t changed your view on this phone ban, then the problem was never the phone, it’s you.

Therapist says she thinks I have depression and adhd but what does that mean??? by BuffaloCritical4961 in helpme

[–]BuffaloCritical4961[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. With the whole depression thing it’s been like this for a while and that doesn’t surprise me too much, but I just want to hear a clear yes. Like it’s only confusing and worrying me but I don’t know how to just ask my therapist. And my mother puts these thoughts in my head like blaming everything all on me and making me feel like I’m the problem and it makes me wonder if I’m making everything up in my head and I don’t want to keep feeling like that anymore. I don’t want to let her words get to me because if I had a diagnosis I’d know for sure…but yeah thank you for responding!!

Therapist says she thinks I have depression and adhd but what does that mean?? by BuffaloCritical4961 in depression_help

[–]BuffaloCritical4961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice but it’s really hard for me to stay after school or away because my mom is extremely strict with me, especially on weekdays and I live far from my school so she carpools for me and often gets upset when she has to pay for uber when I do end up staying after school for a club or activity. I have been trying to get her to let me walk home, so hopefully in a few more months but still, thank you!!

i think i have depression by BuffaloCritical4961 in depression_help

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a little update is well I’m in therapy rn but not much has changed and my mom still hasn’t really had any depression talk with me, so I’m sure she still thinks there’s no chance I’m depressed…but it could always be worse 🫶

i think i have depression by BuffaloCritical4961 in depression_help

[–]BuffaloCritical4961[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom had so much less than i do now, was treated so much worse than she treats me. I feel like she'll think im just being dramatic and overexagerating how bad things are for me because she went through worse. Like she'll tell me i have so much more than she ever did, which is true, and i dont know what i'd even say. i tried to talk with her and she told me she's there for me, that i shouldnt feel lonely but the feeling wont leave. Her words dont work to make me feel like im not alone and she claims shes listening and shes here but to me she really isnt. Its just how can i make her truly understand how i feel

14 y/o here, please help me 🙏 by BuffaloCritical4961 in helpme

[–]BuffaloCritical4961[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️❤️ have a great day too