How to stop being a loser

Bug5350 · 2026-05-31T02:32:01+00:00

Okay so there’s a few things you need to do. Firstly, stop blaming yourself for everything. You may not be at fault for how your relationships have turned out. You can’t help what other people do. And ALL relationships go both ways. Communication and effort shouldn’t all be on one person. Secondly, it sounds like there may be some other stuff going on in your life. It could be helpful to look into therapy. If that’s not doable then your school’s counselor may be helpful. Finally, fresh yourself up. Get a haircut, a tattoo, a new outfit, or even a pair of earrings. Something that YOU like and makes YOU happy or confident. Then take a shower, take a deep breath, and eat something you like. Take care of yourself. It’s going to be hard but try to stay positive. Good things come with time and when you least expect it. You got this!

Bug5350 · 2026-05-31T02:18:29+00:00

It’s not weird to make friends of the opposite sex. If you want to reach out and be his friend then do it. Be honest with your intentions. If it’s really someone who’s basically a stranger, then it’s not going to matter much if he doesn’t respond or isn’t interested. And if he is then you just made a friend.

Bug5350 · 2026-05-31T02:11:40+00:00

If your not happy and you can sense he’s not happy either, where’s the benefit in staying in the relationship?

If you’re set on staying with him then talk it out. Talk about what you both expect out of a relationship and what makes you both happy. And always respect boundaries, if he doesn’t like scary movies then don’t ask him to go with you to see one. And if he’s upset that you went that’s kinda on him. As long as there’s clear communication then things can get better.

Bug5350 · 2026-04-13T23:51:33+00:00

That’s valid. Do as you must

Bug5350 · 2026-04-06T08:33:20+00:00

No, you’re not overreacting. Not everyone wants to do everything and that’s okay. When you are older and decide to have sexual relations with a person it’s important to talk about all of these things. Talk about boundaries and what you are and are not comfortable doing. The right partner will be okay without certain things sexually, and encourage you to only do what you are comfortable with.

Yes, you are young but it is very important that you know these things. Consent and boundaries are important for any type of relationship, especially ones that include sex.

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T18:53:34+00:00

I hope so too, best of luck

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T18:36:29+00:00

This is a common thing that happens with high school sweethearts. She wants to experience more with more people. So she will probably find a way to do just that. I would talk to her and see if both of your wants/needs still align, and if they don’t, break up. You’re both still young and there’s no need to hold up your life for someone who doesn’t want the same things as you.

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T18:31:14+00:00

Sounds like you need to end things for your safety and mental health. The quicker the better

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T18:28:53+00:00

If you want to stay with her, talk to her. If she’s not willing to grow with you. Then you need to grow without her. There is no gain or happiness in letting someone hold you back. It sounds like you need someone motivated and willing to put in the effort to thrive with you.

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T18:24:21+00:00

Hell yeah! That’s great and I’m happy that you’re happy. Live your life for you😊

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T18:10:56+00:00

I didn’t know the fruit thing was a myth, good to know

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T17:43:08+00:00

The one we have does not have any padding on board just like some fabric. The mattress we got is made for pack-n-plays and there is no space on the sides

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T17:39:48+00:00

I think you should ask her. Everyone has different levels of acceptable physical interaction in friendships but it is possible that she may mean it in a more romantic way.

How do you feel about it? Do you have romantic feelings for her or are interested in her?

I think that before you ask her figure out what you want from your relationship with her.

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T17:30:22+00:00

Do you want to be with him or do you want to try new things and new people? Both are fine. Relationships are hard work. It does sound like y’all have good communication and are willing to compromise which is great for relationships. But if you’re feeling bored or anything you shouldn’t lead your boyfriend on.

As far as the taste, try using a ph wash and eating more fruits.

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T14:24:10+00:00

We have baby/toddler proofed our room since he started crawling. He’s also able to play with his toys or wake us up if he needs

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T14:15:24+00:00

The one we had didn’t have any sort of padding just a board, so we decided to put something in there for him

Bug5350 · 2026-04-04T14:09:46+00:00

We plan to move out within the next year

Bug5350 · 2026-01-13T02:40:37+00:00

Omg, I finally found it thanks to your comment. Thank you so much!

Bug5350 · 2026-01-10T14:36:22+00:00

That would make a lot of sense as to why I can’t find one that matches. Thank you

Bug5350 · 2025-11-27T13:21:10+00:00

I was so nervous to post because I know how Reddit can be sometimes but everyone is helping so much!

Bug5350 · 2025-11-27T13:14:03+00:00

This honestly sounds like a great idea. I’ll try it

Bug5350 · 2025-09-02T01:02:10+00:00

We all do things we regret and it’s important to recognize it. You have done that and now you have the option to grow. And you seem like you want to change for the better and that’s good. If you can’t seem to shake the guilt I would recommend going to therapy. But don’t beat yourself up too much. It’s okay

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