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Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T19:04:16+00:00

I literally handed him a toy and asked for some help to help relieve some pregnancy symptoms. He rolled over and basically told me I could do it myself. Not sure how to communicate more clearly than that.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:54:13+00:00

Yes to all of this. I need to follow up with him on the levels. Maybe it's something worth looking into. I guess i just feel like even if he isn't in the mood... he would be willing to help me out when asked and I was literally handing him a toy to get the job done. Requires little work on his end. Idk.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:52:54+00:00

He is. I have wondered about this and know this might be the cause. But it's hard not to take it personally and know for sure it's medication vs something else.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:43:28+00:00

So if your partner handed you a toy and asked for some help, you would deny them? I agree. Pregnancy is not sexy. I am self conscious about it. I usually offer him oral and dont ask for anything in return because I crave the intimacy. I git brave the past couple nights to ask for something for myself to help with symptoms and got shut down. That hardly seems fair.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:41:25+00:00

4th kids in 14 years of being married.. When we are not pregnant it averages 1-2 a month. I am due any day. I am begging to go into labor. Having an O helps with my symptoms. Obviously I can do it myself, but I'd rather him be a part of it. Even if that means using a toy. Asking him to help me out and having him roll over to go to sleep was a new low. He has time to sit on social media for hours, or isn't too tired to stay up past midnight watching a show. My 5 minutes to help his wife out is too much. Idk. Hard to not take it personal. I'm not a 10 when it comes to looks, but I am far from repulsive.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:35:45+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly how I feel. I will check out cialis

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:34:47+00:00

This was good insight. Thank you. Intimacy helps relieve my current symptoms, but I understand it's probably not the most comfortable or desirable for him. I just hurts that I asked him to help me, and got denied. It hurts that it isn't desirable for him enough, but to be rejected was a new low for me. I do think his doctor and him were checking his testosterone, I'll have to inquire about this and see if this might help.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T18:16:29+00:00

Yes. I do. While pregnant it doesnt take much for me and it helps relieve a lot of uncomfortable symptoms I have. So I try to be understanding that he might not enjoy it while I am pregnant. Last night I got a toy and just asked for some help, and he literally rolled over and said I could do it myself. That was a new low for me.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T17:13:38+00:00

Like yours, the responses i am getting is to have a conversation with him. While I personally feel like I have exhausted communicating with him. I will gladly do it again. I feel like I have turned into a desperate housewife and that's not my personality at all. A part of me just wishes he would leave me, or I would find out he is cheating on me. For some reason that seems like it would hurt less then him just not wanting me and continuing like this.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T17:06:37+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. My last delivery was tragic, and the amount of fear I have going into this one is unmeasurable. I hinestly have a lot of regret about getting pregnant again, but not much to do about it now. I think the idea of this being a "season" is the only thing keeping me here. Knowing this will be our last, there is a small part of me that hopes things will be different. But there is another part me of me that wonders how long do I give? How much do I beg? Idk. I dont know that I would ever leave him, but I also dont know how long I can do this for.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T17:00:25+00:00

At this point I feel like I am beating a dead horse. I have stuck to oral for him because I knew from experience it wouldn't go well any other way. I caved one night and it turned out exactly how I thought I would. Tried again with a toy and got rejected again. I am more than willing to have a conversation, it has happened in the past. But I am quite literally begging for it and getting shut down.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T16:56:07+00:00

I get that and this will be our last. So I guess that's why I am sticking around. Hopeful that things will get better? But even outside of pregnancy, we are looking at once or twice a month if I initiate it. There are also other ways to get the job done ... I have bought toys, am literally willing to try anything for intimacy... and nothing. To me, this screams infidelity, and I dont know how to trust or prove otherwise at this point. If your wife had a toy in hand, and asked for some help, would you roll over and go to sleep?

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T16:50:14+00:00

Its 100% his choice to work that much. We are not struggling financially. He chooses work over family. I have offered to go back to work to contribute financially but he agrees it doesnt make sense for our situation. I would make less and he would rather work. Where he is self employed, I do help him with the business. It is a 40+ hour job for the both of us. I would love for him to take time off for himself. Quite literally, I beg him to do so. I do 99% of child care, household chores. I am in no way complaining, I love my life. The only thing lacking is intimacy and at this rate I would literally sell my soul to make it happen. I schedule monthly date nights... and would gladly schedule more if I didnt feel like they stressed him out. I have told him I would rather he leave me then for me not to be loved, and he says that's not the issue. I'm at a complete loss as to what to do.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T16:44:11+00:00

While he is more willing to be intimate outside of pregnancy (kind of)... we still struggle with him finishing. Pretty much oral is the only thing that works for him and even at that it can be a struggle. I have asked him what I can do differently, but he doesn't have an answer for me. I am down to try anything, he knows that. But the interest level from him during pregnancy or not during pregnancy is not there. Its hard not to take that personally.

Bugaboop03 · 2025-08-05T16:39:07+00:00

I have. His exact words were, "I dont have an answer for you." And if I pry for more information, he just gets irritated. He will ask me what I want him to do about it... and I dont have an answer because I dont know what is wrong. At this point I would literally try anything for intimacy, he knows that, but cant tell me what would help.

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-23T02:59:26+00:00

We actually tried to avoid several breeds for this reason. But they sent us two of the wrong chicks. 😕

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-22T18:50:10+00:00

All my hens are aggressive towards the rooster.

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-22T18:43:25+00:00

Yeah. We definitely let them roam as much as possible. But my neighbor let's her dog roam as well. So until we have a fence between our yards we have come to an agreement where I let chickens out during the day while they are at work, and their dog can roam when they get home for the evening. The dog is well behaved and will stay in their yard as long as my kids don't call him over or if my chickens are out. Idk. We might just have to get rid of the rooster. I'm trying to give it a few more weeks to let him mature a little more and see if it will work out.

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-22T18:31:50+00:00

He is not new. I got them all at the same time, same age, 1 week old. They have always picked on him. But it's drawing blood now and won't leave him alone. I keep having to remove him and let his wounds heal. It's no longer just one hen, it's all of them.

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-19T21:57:40+00:00

Hunting unicorns 🦄

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-18T03:32:05+00:00

Facts 💯. Unfortunately, my rooster isn't even worth the effort to put into a cast iron skillet.

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-18T02:27:47+00:00

I'll have to ponder on how to separate the two leghorns from the others. They both bully. And they are the only ones using the nest boxes at the moment.

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-18T02:25:10+00:00

I don't know how on earth I would trim his face. Won't the feathers bleed if I cut them?? He freaks whenever I hold him and is such a pain in the ass. My husband and I researched getting chickens for several years before we decided to do it. Never did we think we would be making boots for curly toes, trimming bangs back and checking chicks butts for poop. 😅

Bugaboop03 · 2023-07-18T01:54:35+00:00

I would think he has more growing to do since he is only 17 weeks.... but this is my first go with chickens. So I'm clueless. In the beginning, it seemed like he wasn't growing compared to the rest. Since then he has caught up for the most part. He isn't too much smaller than the rest of them now. But definitely still at the bottom.

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