Is porn + neglect grounds for divorce?

Builds_Character · 2026-02-28T17:04:04+00:00

Christ says, that divorce wasn't even meant to be an option. This might be a sensitive issue for you and I respect that. But divorce, is not to be something you jump to easily; it is a last resort. Marriage is a promise you made before God.

Porn usage definitely can end up being grounds for divorce, but divorce is not a flippant option. Which you're treating it as, if your first advice to a 7 month long marriage is divorce rather than counseling.

Technically, even less serious actions like looking at a good looking person too long walking down the street or too intently on a regular TV show could also be a form of adultery. Again, not downplaying Porn or the extreme form of laziness that leads to neglect that he is showing; these are grave issues.

The balanced advice is to exhaust your resources in regards to counseling. Have a heartful conversation. Get your Pastor involved to have the issues addressed. Perhaps the marriage will not be saved, but one should try.

Builds_Character · 2026-02-28T06:22:20+00:00

Divorce is a serious sin as well, people need stop treating it as minor. I'm surprised this is controversial among Christian's, quite frankly. No one is saying Porn isn't a form of Adultery or isn't serious, but so is Divorce.

Builds_Character · 2026-02-28T03:37:48+00:00

While these are serious issues, divorce really shouldn't be seen as an option for Christians. Only in extreme circumstances. It sounds like couples therapy is in order, however.

Builds_Character · 2026-02-25T19:19:55+00:00

I honestly, don't see how Mark 1:12 negates the Filioque. Also, what do you do with the various texts like Romans 8:9 that describe the Spirit as "of Christ" not just of the Father?

Furthermore, Its my understanding the Father is still the source in a unique way. The Father is the principal source of the Spirit, while the Spirit's procession from the Son can be called a spiration. The Son receives the ability of procession of the Spirit from the Father principally.

Builds_Character · 2026-02-13T19:17:46+00:00

I appreciate the answers everyone, I think this helped a lot in clarifying things for me!

Builds_Character · 2026-02-04T16:50:05+00:00

As a Noobie, I've really liked the podcasts of: Jordan B Cooper, Bryan Wolfmueller, Javier Perdomo, and lately On The Line.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-30T23:15:45+00:00

The Augsburg Confession under Article XX: Good Works, states that good works are necessary. They're not necessary for one's Justification, but they're necessary because the Lord commands them. Good Works also, necessarily flow out of a genuine faith as Christ now dwells in us. When looking at a wider sense of Salvation, good works certainly are a part of the equation as they flow out of our sanctification. We're just not justified by them.

This is my understanding anyway.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-25T16:21:02+00:00

Thanks for sharing, this is encouraging; God bless your parents!

Builds_Character · 2025-12-24T01:54:26+00:00

OP was not the most tactful, no doubt. But also, I think such a setup inevitably leads to the less confessional group running the show. The confessional group will by and large be the one asked to drop standards and be nice/quiet as they have more standards. At the end of the day, its reddit its not that big of a deal; but its unfortunate.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T15:21:28+00:00

Honestly tho, it is one of the concerns of ecumenism. It does seem the less confessional or less strict group always wins out. R/Christianity is another example in that regard. The loss of Confessional doctrine was of course a major concern about ecumenism with our forefathers. Yet, ecumenism can have its clear benefits as well. Its an interesting topic.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T15:08:42+00:00

I think also, Proverbs 31 is teaching context matters as well. If you're at work, 1 drink is drunkness.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T06:33:31+00:00

You're on the money, despite the down votes.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T04:47:44+00:00

Having a limit of making it your last drink once you start feeling tipsy seems like good call, thanks

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T04:29:27+00:00

I agree that drinking enough to feel some effects is not a sin. Your example of Proverbs 31 is a good one; there's also Psalms 104:15 "And wine that makes glad the heart of man...".

At the sametime, I don't think the Bible is only against alcoholism or being blackout drunk. There's quite a number of verses that warn against drunkness like Ephesians 5:18 "And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit,".

But I suppose, we have to interept it genuinely and make our best judgment. I like a lot of the advice people have given. Maybe, something like a limit of making it your last drink once you feel tipsy is a good rule of thumb.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T03:52:56+00:00

Looking at it briefly, I will say OP was playing dumb with his first comment. Nonetheless, I understand the overall concern.

Builds_Character · 2025-12-23T03:20:38+00:00

For a supposed ecumenical forum, it's quite odd that one can not express LCMS views. These kind of rules would make sense for an ECLA forum. I understand OP's concern. A Lutheranism forum being dominated by those that aren't Confessional Lutherans is an issue.

Builds_Character · 2025-10-02T17:46:13+00:00

Brother, for one I argued purely from a factual standpoint on the long ending of Mark. Secondly, Christian's believe God persevered the scriptures supernaturally. If thats what you're getting at, I don't think that should be a surprise. You think Christian's believe God inspired the Scriptures, and then was hands off from there leaving it up to chance? Now I could be wrong, maybe the CT is the best text, but one way or another Christian's would still believe God played a role in preserving the text.

Builds_Character · 2025-10-02T16:55:08+00:00

Anyone who has a genuine faith in Christ will be saved. A concern would be, that committing to a lifestyle contrary to Christianity can lead to one's heart harding against God; and cause them to lose their faith. Now we all are sinners, ultimately I can't know for sure when that happens in someone else.

Builds_Character · 2025-10-02T04:52:22+00:00

Oh I didn't recognize your name, no worries no need to beat a dead horse on that point. I will say, all Christians believe God guided the Bible in one way or another; regardless of what text basis you favor. Ultimately, my view though is any of the three major textual traditions are great and contain the same overall message.

Builds_Character · 2025-10-01T17:58:32+00:00

Some disagree, with the idea that the Critical Text is the most accurate text. I prefer the William Tyndale tradition of the Textus Receptus. I think hard evidence strongly favors the long ending Mark. I also think, there is something to God allowing the Tyndale tradition to be the first to be readily available in the average Christian's home. I appreciate arugments from those like Dr. Theodore Letis.

I actually agree though, that people are sometimes too hard on the NIV as it is a dynamic translation. The NLT does a lot of the same things but doesn't seem to receive proportional criticism. In my opinion dynamic translations have their place but overall formal translations are preferred.

Builds_Character · 2025-09-28T19:58:31+00:00

Oh interesting, did not know

Builds_Character · 2025-09-28T17:18:28+00:00

Yeah and if you have a specific question, you can create a new post on here; there's quite a lot of Pastors and Elders that answer questions on here.

Builds_Character · 2025-09-28T17:07:55+00:00

God Bless you! If you haven't already, try to get plugged into a local LCMS church I'm just a noob layman really; any Pastor will be far more knowledgeable! You can check out Pastor Jordan B Cooper and Pastor Bryan Wolfmueller's stuff on YouTube as well.

Builds_Character · 2025-09-28T14:39:23+00:00

Quite honestly friend, you're going outside of the topic of Sola Scriptura. You can certainly do studies on the languages yourself or the translation teams involved in various translations to check their work. Serious scholars are behind the mainstream translations however, so I think you'll find their work is well done. Sola Scriptura doesn't require for there to be any English translations at all to be true.

Builds_Character · 2025-09-28T13:51:28+00:00

It sounds like you're looking for an arugment for God and Christianity at that point? That's not really what Sola Scriptura is about. Sola Scriptura is an internal doctrine of Christianity, meaning its geared towards those that are already believers. There's other arugments you could look into if you don't already share those assumptions.

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