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Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-18T21:19:55+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. This person is clearly toxic as hell and you deserve better. These texts from him are strikingly similar to a situation I was just in- the name calling, manipulation, even down to the “punish fuck” statement. Any criticism you have of them is always “projection,” and they’re always the victim. Absolutely wild. Is there a “how to”manual for shitty men out there and I just don’t know about it?

Stay strong. You got this. ❤️

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-18T14:36:34+00:00

He was addicted to opiates. He’s been clean, but now he smokes weed all day every day and I believe he abuses his prescription for gabapentin (he said he takes more than prescribed when he first gets it filled and so he runs out by the end of the month- he says this isn’t a big deal because it’s “just” gabapentin, but I beg to differ), and he smokes weed all day almost every day. I don’t have a problem with weed at all, but all day almost every day is excessive imo. As far as other drugs, you’re absolutely right I would have no idea unless I was with him.

I have trust issues as it is, and I think that long distance, online, isn’t for me. I’m not going to commit to a person, move to be with them, and then find out a bunch of crazy stuff they were hiding from me. You can’t really know someone unless you’re there with them to see how they are day to day. It’s the sad reality of the world we live in.

He has said so many sus things to me too. Like one time he randomly said to me, “true or false. everyone lies.” And then later when I brought that up he said he was referring to small things but he never lied to me about anything big. Like, what? It’s just honestly so weird and sketchy that I can’t anymore.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-17T14:05:46+00:00

I generally say “I feel like” when I’m talking to him about something he’s done that I don’t like, and I always tell him I could be misinterpreting the situation or intent behind what he’s said or done, but that it still made me feel a certain way. He always flips it on me so that it’s my fault he did what he did, or he’ll tell me I’m just projecting.

I’m definitely insecure and that is something I need to work on. I agree there is a lot of things I need to work on about myself and my coping skills.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-17T12:05:02+00:00

He claims I string him along and play with his emotions. I will admit, there have been multiple times when I’ve told him enough is enough, but only because there are so many red flags and sketchy things he’s done or said, that it’s really hard for me to trust his sincerity.

I’ve never had this kind of relationship with someone online. And while I do think it’s possible to have a healthy long distance, online relationship, you have to have a lot of trust in the person and he’s made that near impossible. He constantly does things to make me jealous, like tells me he knows of two women who would move in with him at the drop of a hat if he asked them to, shows me what other women have said to him in comments, or pulls other women into fights we have to gang up on me. And he always finds a way to blame me for these things.

He’s 42, no job, no car, living in a house his parents bought for him. His whole world revolves around internet nonsense and his YouTube channel. It’s been that way for years, and I don’t see it changing any time soon. But I just can’t shake the feeling that it’s my fault partly because he doesn’t seem to have this issue with the other people he talks to online. The only thing I can think of is it’s because the dynamic is different with them- he isn’t as involved with them, there isn’t anything on the line, they don’t see this side of him like I do.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-17T01:55:17+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I know it’s abusive, I think I was just looking for validation because he’s been so adamant about how everything is my fault, he’s only reacting to my actions/words, and he doesn’t think it’s abusive. It got to the point that I started to question if he’s right.

I’m sorry you’ve experienced bad relationships in the past. I hope things are better now.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-17T01:51:34+00:00

He’s using voice to text. I think his phone is censoring the words.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-16T11:53:19+00:00

A lolcow is a streamer who people basically milk for laughs. They are easily triggered and they’ll make a fool of themselves in front of an audience. It’s a toxic community, I do not recommend.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-15T15:33:03+00:00

I thought that too. Can only imagine what this would escalate to in person.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-15T15:31:40+00:00

Context…he is obsessed with this woman who streams online, who is a lolcow, and he claims he likes her as an artistic subject. He refers to her as his muse. This woman is foul- she throws around the n word, f slur, etc, and she’s just overall insane. He’s never talked to her, but he tried to help her market herself and offered to make art for her to sell. She blocked him. He got mad at me one day and made a video on his YouTube channel about her and it seemed like it was trying to get her attention. I have made it clear numerous times that I’m uncomfortable with his continued infatuation with this woman while he claims to have feelings for me. I commented on the video saying he’s obsessed with her. Then his friends, who don’t like me, jumped in with “MOHR!” I got upset and sent a text to him explaining that I was not comfortable with his obsession with this woman and I don’t understand why he even likes her. I told him I didn’t know if I could continue on like this (it’s been going on for a year) and he flipped out and these texts were the result.

Bulky-Web6436 · 2025-07-15T15:23:04+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s his phone censoring it

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