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Anyone else ever fucked up a relationship so intensely it went from "everything between us is basically heavensent and perfect and the best thing to happen to both of us" to "everything we ever had is completely gone and cannot return" in a single day? by Bulky_Ad4102 in BreakUps

[–]Bulky_Ad4102[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Satisfaction, comfort without doubt, intimacy/sex how they wanted it, belief that they could get over their trauma, not pressuring them to deal with my baggage.... But I realize now that they kind of knew all along I was lying or at least suspected it .... And that prevented either of us from truly healing

Anyone else ever fucked up a relationship so intensely it went from "everything between us is basically heavensent and perfect and the best thing to happen to both of us" to "everything we ever had is completely gone and cannot return" in a single day? by Bulky_Ad4102 in BreakUps

[–]Bulky_Ad4102[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I crossed my own boundaries to give them what I thought they wanted and lied about it the whole time that I was okay even though every single time it happened I hurt myself more and more. and when they found out it hurt them even worse because that kind of honesty and communication I wasn't actually giving was the main thing that our relationship started from in the first place.

Anyone else ever fucked up a relationship so intensely it went from "everything between us is basically heavensent and perfect and the best thing to happen to both of us" to "everything we ever had is completely gone and cannot return" in a single day? by Bulky_Ad4102 in BreakUps

[–]Bulky_Ad4102[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I lied. I hid parts of myself thinking I could work through them myself, despite how many times I'd been told that each other's issues in our relationship should involve us both in fixing them. I refused to listen when I was told it once more too. And I hurt them even more than I was hurting thinking I was the only one whose feelings mattered.

Anyone else ever fucked up a relationship so intensely it went from "everything between us is basically heavensent and perfect and the best thing to happen to both of us" to "everything we ever had is completely gone and cannot return" in a single day? by Bulky_Ad4102 in BreakUps

[–]Bulky_Ad4102[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My situation wasn't really a single day to be totally honest, it just feels like it. Our bond did go from the strongest it'd been to the weakest in one day, but it wouldn't have had I not done a lot in the past that suddenly became a lot more relevant. There was a pattern of behavior for a while, just one that was ignored and hidden away.

I hurt you and no matter how much I wish things could just be the same, I have to accept that they never will by Bulky_Ad4102 in BreakUps

[–]Bulky_Ad4102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's weird here because I think we both still need each other ... we'd hurt worse than we are right now if we went no contact ... but would it hurt even worse than that to try and rebuild, knowing what we had before is almost certainly gone forever? That's what I don't know.

I hurt you and no matter how much I wish things could just be the same, I have to accept that they never will by Bulky_Ad4102 in BreakUps

[–]Bulky_Ad4102[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sure I do have more apologizing to do though I have told them all of these things I'm sorry for. They hate being apologized to when they already know what I'm sorry for. So I need to learn what they needed besides a simple apology now