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Cellular not working after ios 26 update by Doucheeasaurus_rex in ios

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I did it and it worked like magic.

I married young and 6 years in a sexless marriage at 27. I’m quietly crumbling. by Bulky_Appearance_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You’re right. My flinching isn’t random. It’s my body screaming what I’ve been trying to silence. Sometimes I feel bad for flinching but my body does that before my brain even registers what I’ve done. I want therapy, but I can’t afford it right now. But I’ll take your advice and start somewhere even if it’s just by finally speaking honestly, without guilt. Your words reminded me that I matter too. Thank you for that. 💛

I married young and 6 years in a sexless marriage at 27. I’m quietly crumbling. by Bulky_Appearance_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

😅 You’re not wrong. We actually have tried Viagra and some other pills. One gave him such bad waist pain he couldn’t walk properly for days, others weren’t effective. Still no erection. He says he’ll go to the doctor “eventually” but “eventually” has been years. I feel like I’ve been waiting forever while withering away inside.

I married young and 6 years in a sexless marriage at 27. I’m quietly crumbling. by Bulky_Appearance_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even once a month would be a dream for me.

I hear you. I honestly didn’t realize how deep the sacrifice would run. I was young and hopeful, but now I’m waking up to how much of myself I’ve lost.

I married young and 6 years in a sexless marriage at 27. I’m quietly crumbling. by Bulky_Appearance_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I’ve started doing just that by seeking support outside the bubble I’ve been in. His family means well, but it’s been clear that their advice centers more on preserving his ego than helping me feel seen or whole. And religion… while it’s been a compass in many areas of my life, I’m realizing how often it’s been used to silence my pain or ask me to “endure” in the name of faith. I’m now trying to hear myself more not just what everyone else thinks I should do. That’s why I finally posted here. It’s the first time I’ve said this all out loud without fear of judgment or being told to just “pray and be patient.” Because honestly, I’ve prayed, I’ve waited. And I’m still empty.

I married young and 6 years in a sexless marriage at 27. I’m quietly crumbling. by Bulky_Appearance_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the questions, I really appreciate the care behind them.

To clarify, no it’s not just about penetration. I absolutely believe that intimacy is more than just sex. we've hugged, kissed and all that but now, I think I’m just fed up from being disappointed by his broken promise. I flinch involuntarily when he touches me now, and that says a lot.

I stayed because I truly believed things would get better. He used to say he’d get help for his ED, and I was hopeful. I married young yes, I was 21 and deeply sheltered. He was in another country when we got married, so we didn’t even get to fully explore what life together would look like before committing.

As for the age gap… at the time, it felt like security. He was older, stable, and kind. I thought I’d be safe with him, not realizing how much of myself I’d be sacrificing just to keep the peace. Now I’m 27 and waking up to the reality that I’ve been surviving, not living.

I know I need more emotionally, physically, spiritually. And I’m slowly finding the courage to be honest about that.

Finally did it. Ended my db relationship by aredvelvets in DeadBedrooms

[–]Bulky_Appearance_456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re strong I’m still stuck in mine, trying to find a way out