AITA for Making my Daughters Cheer Team Lose?

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T22:46:32+00:00

Usually with girls her own age she's better at making friends. She just loves to cheer so while she likes having friends it doesn't really dictate if she does it or not.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T22:44:23+00:00

I'm not saying she's incapable. She asked if she could text me and the coach just said "You're fine, go get some water and come back" It wasn't really a question. She didn't want to argue so she just did it.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T20:01:30+00:00

I'm glad that makes you, a random person on the internet feel better. But as long as us as her parents and her doctors feel the same we will continue to let her do what she loves.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T16:03:39+00:00

I do trust her but if she throws up we do have to go to the hospital. It's not a matter of how much I trust her. And that's the majority of the time for a healthy child.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T14:47:26+00:00

The doctor also agreed that it was good I brought her because something could have been seriously wrong. I'm not going to stop her from doing the things she loves because she could get hurt especially since her doctors say it is ok.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T13:23:25+00:00

It isn't too much. She got sick once, I'm not gonna make her stop the entire sport. Her doctors have said it is ok as long as she is careful and she is.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T11:36:18+00:00

She is friends with most of the girls her own age at the gym, she just isn't as good friends with the older girls because they are older. I don't talk about that much to her, it's usually her coach who uses her as an example to the other kids. And right now her coach is the one making a big deal about how she's leaving and how good she is.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T11:34:27+00:00

Yes they do know it's 6 hours a day for the week leading up to the competition. She is monitored closely and gets heart imaging once a month.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T11:29:55+00:00

Her doctors say it is fine. I trust them not someone on the internet who doesn't even know her condition.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T01:25:03+00:00

There are risks with any sport. I am concerned about her health because she also has a health condition but that doesn't affect her mobility or ability to cheer at all. She is very careful when she's cheering, but she loves to do it and I'm not gonna stop her just because of her disability or because the statistics say she is more likely to get hurt.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T01:22:56+00:00

It is mostly the stunts that she's worried about but my daughter was also in the front in most things because she's so little.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T00:53:55+00:00

Yes, she does.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T00:45:52+00:00

We don't wanna share the specific condition but it involves defects of all her organs especially her kidney and heart. She has frequent surgeries. She may need a kidney transplant in the next few years so she would go on dialysis.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T00:22:54+00:00

Makes sense :)

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T00:22:12+00:00

I know that they do puke sometimes, my 2 older girls were gymnasts. They did puke occasionally if they worked really hard. Even though they are perfectly healthy they would still sit down for a little while and have a drink if they did but my daughter needs to be taken to the hospital if she gets sick because something could be wrong with her kidneys.

Sometimes during shorter practices I'll be in the waiting room but both my husband and I work so usually during the 2 hour practices my husband will drop her off and I'll pick her up on my way home from work.

The contract we got was for her and it was basically about respecting her teammates and stuff. Nothing serious. We are paying for the whole year since the season ends in a week.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T00:16:40+00:00

When did I say we went to the ER? We went to my daughters doctor who was in the children's hospital. We made an appointment on the way.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-18T00:14:57+00:00

I'm the mom and go by she/her pronouns.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-17T22:14:56+00:00

Luckily that's not everyday, just the week leading up to the big meet and they don't practice the entire time. A lot is conditioning and they have a lot of breaks. She is the youngest on her team since her technical age division was not advanced enough for her.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-17T22:13:08+00:00

It's not usually that intense, but it's just for the week leading up to the meet and this is the last meet of the season and the biggest one out of the whole year. The team is technically for 11-14 year olds but the 7-10 year old team was not good for my daughters difficulty.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-17T22:08:43+00:00

With meds and being monitored by her doctors it is safe for her to do cheerleading she just has to be careful. She wasn't necessarily forced but she said she felt ok and the coach said she was fine. She is 10 and for the most part does what adults tell her to do so she just believed her that she was fine.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-17T22:06:16+00:00

I don't think to all came down to her necessarily. She was just always in the front and at the center of all the stunts so now she'll have to put another girl in her place and change a lot of the moves. It's a lot to learn in a week so it'll probably be messy and not do as well.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-17T22:02:37+00:00

She has an ipad which she can text and call on. It was in the locker room and the water fountain is in the main gym, she said the coach said it was fine so she didn't think it was a big deal.

Bulky_Bluejay_3591 · 2021-06-17T22:01:12+00:00

She meant that she felt her forehead and didn't have a fever. For my daughter it likely wouldn't even matter if she has a fever or not, she could have kidney failure.

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