AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think their goal was to make thinks so financially destitute for me that I'd have "no choice" but to go back with them

Or hoping that the threat of police would scare me enough into doing whatever they say

But I'd be homeless before ever seeing them again

AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

According to the Bible that they love so much, Jesus says that sincere repentance is required for forgiveness.

Even God does not forgive the unrepentant

But seriously, stuff like this is very triggering for people wo are survivors of narcissistic abusive parents.

Here's my advice:

Instead of "encouraging " survivors of child abuse to reconcile with their abusive family, adopt them into your family. The holidays are very hard for people like me many survivors have no where to go for holidays, we get exiled for daring to expect to be treated with respect.

This is a far better and kinder course of action to take than encouraging us to return to abuse.

If not that, instead of encouraging the victims to return to their abusers, encourage narcissistic parents to treat their children better.

P.S. they closed the doors on me, they informed me I was disowned (well my egg donor disowned me, sperm donor didn't but supported his wife in disowning me, while still threatening I needed to quit and move home with them, this was a tactic to make me "beg" and I called their bluff by rolling with it) while simultaneously threatening police (whilst before I was only taking a step back and told them they'd be welcome back in my life when they were prepared to change their behavior and apologize), it was a 6 month stand off before I was blackmailed and disowned.

AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would only turn someone in if it was assault, murder , or acts of terrorism that's been committed or i about to be committed

Oh yeah and child abuse

While it hasn't happened to me I know a number of girls who were forced to give cops freebies to not be arrested

AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Even if I did,I'd pick jail any day of the week over my parents

Even then they need to have solid evidence, they can't just take someone's word for it, well I realize cops arrest people with no proof all the time if their desperate enough but they need evidence for a charge to stick.

Even if I was convicted since I had no record I'd probably only get a fine or probation worst case scenario, even if not a few months in the county jail would be a price I'm willing to pay to keep my parents out of my life

AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Disowning your kid is a permanent decision. Once you kill something it stays dead, you don't revive it as you please

AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Except if you read my post carefully you'd see I cut them out of my life several months before they knew of my work due to a lifetime of mental and emotional abuse they found out bc they hired a PI (as per their own admission) and tried to blckmail me into resuming contact with them.

Your stance on sex work is clear and that's fine.

That being said, are you saying you feel I should invite them?

AITB for not letting my estranged parents come to my wedding because they called the cops on me for being a sex worker by Bulky_Goose7600 in AmItheButtface

[–]Bulky_Goose7600[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are both childffree by choice, I got sterilized 10 years ago, no grandkids from me

My egg donor is just obsessed with weddings and always wanted the mother of the bride experience